Where is the line.

[QuE-dAwEiRd1]

Hope someone here can help me.I'm 29,I've been I've only been in 2 relationships.the last one(my husband)is the longest.15years,he took me to prom helped learn to drive,he's the father of my kids and even when my addiction made life hell he stood by me.we stood by eachother when our parrents passed away and no matter what memory I recall he's always in it(b it good or bad)thing is people change.he was a drinker I am not.I use to b at home and hed go drink he has a lot of friends,my firends disappeared I guess coz I had a lot of guy friends(was a goth tomboy)and they didn't like me choosing his company over our drag racing,game nights and camping(I was also a wing woman)I didn't like to be in relationships for status and labels,so when I got one I wanted I gave my all.point being when my husband partied,drank I was at home.Now he's a homebody he just works,plays with kids,cuddle with me and he's just plain and normal(he never cheated I'm 100% sure.)Now that he's normal I'm the one wanting to go out,try stuff go wild and experiment,which is wrong.sexually I crave more bondage and dark stuff lately it feels were copying a porno..I don't know how to communicate what I see in my head!I can live without the wild stuff(parties,and wild times I am a mother and I believe its just a phase)but the sex thing is a must because I too want to enjoy it..I'm I self sabotaging now that he's being who I always wanted?looking for excuses?I will never cheat I've been happy for so long why now do I see or have a problem?I wrote too much,just wanted to draw a clear picture.where is the line that I shouldn't cross,we are really happy and content with our little fam

 

[Bearlove]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to experiment but you have to understand that when your in a relationship then you have to respect boundaries. (in my honest opinion they can all be pushed )

You fancy bondage, you fancy more of the 'dark stuff' - speak up then. Your husband could be thinking that he is pushing your buttons and doing what you need him to do. Get some of the more kinkier / edgy porn that you watch - express your interest in whatever, test the waters and then go with the flow. Restraints, toys etc. If you don't watch porn together, then simply suggest a scenario the next time your playing - if your can't suggest a scenario then act it out.

 

[Seimboz]

Just be honest and upfront. If you're with someone for 15+ years and they judge you due to fantasies that would be ridiculous. I am very open to things with my significant other as is she to me especially when it comes to sex.
The way I brought restraints up was just going on a site like Adam&eve and look up outfits then toys and then just expand the search from there! Don't miss out on what you desire!

 

[Cosmic Trigger]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to experiment but you have to understand that when your in a relationship then you have to respect boundaries. (in my honest opinion they can all be pushed )

You fancy bondage, you fancy more of the 'dark stuff' - speak up then. Your husband could be thinking that he is pushing your buttons and doing what you need him to do. Get some of the more kinkier / edgy porn that you watch - express your interest in whatever, test the waters and then go with the flow. Restraints, toys etc. If you don't watch porn together, then simply suggest a scenario the next time your playing - if your can't suggest a scenario then act it out.

Yes yes yes.

 

[paranoid android]

I hardly see bondage or BDSM as being very out there at all much less dark and most women I've been with have bee into it in some way. Maybe talk to your husband that your into these things and not quite satisfied with your current sex life? If he's understanding at all he should get that. Imo the kinkier the better

 

[pdaddy129]

Get a sitter.. Surprise him

 

[QuE-dAwEiRd1]

Thank you.yes I am all for kinky..send him naughty pics while he's at work etc..I like to surprise him..he always says he wish he could read my mind coz I always find some crazy out of the box shit and out of the blue stuff..I love to make him laugh and just not no what's up my sleeve..just afraid that might b too far.but yes I should just take charge.he's a really big dude I am 1.6 48kg..he's 1.8 and 115kg(I am a chubby chaser so maybe he's just not energetic enuf anymore or I dunno,but he's an athlete so stamina isn't the problem...I'm rambling,u guys right should just voice my desires.I'll just wait for him to get home cuff him to the bed and whip the shit out of him.aLso like to get naughty in weird places again like when we were in school God good times..I'm going on like someone having a menopause mid life crisis,sorry..and I'm 29btw