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Where do you want to be 10 years from now?

you managed those two posts just fine, now apply that success to other areas in your life ;) :)

Oh, I do. I just don't have many other areas in my life. ;)

People who claim that they don't want to be alive in 10 years make me sad.
My heart goes out to you.
There is so much beauty and fun in the world, I cannot fathom your negativity.

I suppose negativity is a learned attitude, resulting from unhappiness and disappointment throughout a person's life. Personally, I can't fathom people with rose-tinted glasses who don't see the unfairness, cruelty, suffering, and ultimate pointlessness of life. But each to their own. :)
 
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People who claim that they don't want to be alive in 10 years make me sad.
how about "i don't want to be alive today"? :)

I never much understood the whole 'live fast, live hard, die young' mentality either.
it's just a slogan for people who want to sound cool

i doubt people realy think about its meaning

i can understand the first two parts as "make the most you can out of the time you have

but the third one is less logical

if you're suicidal, you want to die now, not young, in a few years

if you're afraid of growing old, you're probably too young to have realised that you don't grow old if you decide not to
you can keep your soul as young as you wish forever

otherwise, wanting to die young is in total opposition with the idea of making the most out of your life
 
lounging in an alpine meadow, with the sun beating down on my face, 70* and not a cloud in the sky, slight westerly breeze.
 
I suppose negativity is a learned attitude, resulting from unhappiness and disappointment throughout a person's life. Personally, I can't fathom people with rose-tinted glasses who don't see the unfairness, cruelty, suffering, and ultimate pointlessness of life. But each to their own. :)

Negativity results from a reaction to unhappiness and disappointment.
Not from the unhappiness and disappointment themselves.
All of us have unhappiness and disappointment in our lives.
Some respond by creating an attitude of negativity, others with a focus on having emerged alive from the experience or on lessons learned.

Don't pretend that people who are happy just have easy lives without unhappiness and disappointment.
Some people just focus on the bad, others on the good.
It is a choice.
 
Oh, I do. I just don't have many other areas in my life. ;)

Hey I'll tell you a little secret: You're the author of this story! :D


I suppose negativity is a learned attitude, resulting from unhappiness and disappointment throughout a person's life. Personally, I can't fathom people with rose-tinted glasses who don't see the unfairness, cruelty, suffering, and ultimate pointlessness of life. But each to their own. :)

You can see the shit without wallowing in it. In some ways, the joke is quite hilarious. What matters, considering the pointlessness you mention, is the experience. So, it is simply a choice to see things in a way that makes you feel good. This can occur with completely open eyes.

I'll buy you a pair of rose tinted glasses if you like. I think you'd look great in them :D:D:D
 
Don't pretend that people who are happy just have easy lives without unhappiness and disappointment.
Some people just focus on the bad, others on the good.
It is a choice.

I don't believe it's just a choice. I would love to focus on the good things, but it doesn't happen. My inner cynic never goes away. Maybe it has more to do with our core personality types...
 
sweet p, you sell yourself short! i know how hard it can be to see, but perspective can indeed be changed, incrementally. a depressed person (generally speaking) can't simply choose to be happy, they need to make small steps to create an environment in which happiness can emerge. think of it like a shy kitten. it won't come out from behind the couch if you scream "GET THE FUCK OUT HERE, KITTY! COME ON!". take out some toys and food and kitty will eventually come out, probably when you're not even looking.
 
I don't believe it's just a choice. I would love to focus on the good things, but it doesn't happen. My inner cynic never goes away. Maybe it has more to do with our core personality types...

Sounds like you don't want to take responsibility for your viewpoint.
You say "it doesn't happen" instead of "I don't do it".
You say "my inner cynic never goes away" instead of "I never banish my inner cynic".

This is not about core personality types.
This is about taking responsibility for who you are and how you choose to think.

You might believe that you don't have the power, since you have tried to take control of your self but failed.
It takes a sincere effort, but in the end, you are the only one who can make that effort, and the complete responsibility for who you choose to be lies with you, yourself.

People who were abused as children can choose to let that abuse run their life forever, or they can decide that they will no longer continue to empower that abuse and allow it to control their life.
Trust me on this. I speak from experience. ;)
The same is true for other difficulties we go through.
We can give them power over us, or we can choose not to do so.

It would have been easy for me to live a life without taking responsibility for myself, blaming my parents and others for my weaknesses.
People accepted my claims, which were true and valid.
I even gained a certain power in social relationships by having suffered abuse.
But I gave it all up in order to claim responsibility for my self.

I am much, much happier now.

I hope that some of the people contributing to this thread can move toward taking control over themselves, and then choose to be happy!
<3
 
Hmmmm... playing music at a bar one night a week.

...might be in my basement, if I have a basement to play in by then.

:D
 
10 years ago, where did you think you would be now ?

Are you now in the situation you imagined back then ?

I bet hardly anyone is, so projecting 10 years into the future is wishful thinking at best and a futile exercise.
 
Sitting hunch-backed in a gray, fluorescent-lit, fuzzy-paneled cubicle staring ceaselessly with dark-rimmed, bloodshot eyes into an LCD monitor crunching statistical data and/or constructing simulations that accurately model said data, preferably for a good cause, a lucrative cause, or both.

Also contributing more time and $$$ to charitable/non-profit organizations (Wikipedia, Habitat for Humanity, Doctors w/o Borders, Tor, whatever).
 
With a Lt.cols insignia on the chest of my uniform crumpled on the floor beside the bed I'm in with a sexy kinky engineer and a sexy kinky physician.

So roughly, I want a few promotions for myself and not really anything too different beyond that.
 
Dream big, brother.

"For those who dare to dream, there is a whole world to win!"
- Dhirubhai Ambani

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