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hello bluelighters hows it going?

i just need a little bit of advice on one of my friends,hes like a brother to me. and ive helped him in countless situations, hes not stupid, very clever, and hes never been violent until recently, and he has asperges syndrome. over the past couple years he has been taking ketamine very regularly, like, a couple g a day at least and about 8 months ago, he came out of prison and stopped for a bit. he settled in and stopped for a bit. then a few months later again hes back on it. hes in about £3000 debt. he keeps lieing to me and a lot of my friends even his girlfriend. recently its been realy bad. hes been going to the casino with 'the wrong kinda people's ' money and continues to snort over 13 g a week. hes a mess, hes threatening his girlfriend, pushing her around, lying to me and all of his other closest friends. and continualy doing stupid and mindless stunts to get the K. he is also definatley ruining his body and although he tells me that, i personally, am the only person whop can get him through this and hed never lie to me. im always finding out things about him that i dont want to hear.

just asking for some advice, on how to handle the situation better.

and by the way sorry for spelling mistakes <snip> :P
 
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The story of an addict......I know you don't want to hear this but maybe it's best to stop hanging around with this guy if he's hurting you based on his bad actions. I would also suggest getting a few people to do an intervention on him to get to rehab before it gets worse. Also it's quite clear this mate doesn't love himself at the moment so how could he love you as s friend?
 
i know i should, but i realy care about this guy. he basically became apart of my family. but yeh is it possible to force somone to rehab without the law getting involved?
 
This guy doesn't sound like much of a friend anymore. Maybe you should move on. He's gotten himself into a situation that only he can dig himself out of. There's nothing you can do unless he starts to work hard to turn his life around and decides to actually treat you like a real friend again. You can't make him do anything he doesn't want to. Save yourself the trouble.
 
Exactly. I currently have 2 associates who are best friends, one is male with bipolar with gambling, drug and alcohol problems and the other is just an innocent girl.

Any how the guy with bipolar is getting worse and just uses everyone and doesn't care and then tells people they are fucked for not giving him anything. In particular he has told his best friend who he owes $4 grand too 'if you. Don't have money for me you can fuck off'.

The point I'm trying to reach here is that things change. Everyone is given control of their own destiny but not too others. Also remember this guy wasn't born with you or is a part of family. You rather labelled him that. Perhaps here you can come to terms with what family is, I.e caring, doesn't hurt others etc.
 
Sound like the start, to my old best mates story!!
Didnt end well. Try and get him some help,but if he dont want help.....
 
whats the best way to get him help? i dont want to give up on his just yet cause i may be being wishfull, but i still see some hope. he still has emotions and dosent fiend off friends or anything just yet. but does anyone think the asperges might have a major part in his actions. he does a lot of things without thinking and recently he keeps breaking down over and over again and im afraid he might loose it a bit. have any of you ever been like this just through ketamine addiction?
 
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