When he cums.

[lavenderprincess]

I have has sex before, i watch porn i'm 23 years old...
Any time i seen a man cum he came in "one shot" yeah with spurts and all but when he came it all got out within those few seconds...

The man I am with has issues letting go... i'm not going to talk about it because it depresses me and i have no interest for sex because of how boring it got since i'm with him.

now this last almost month he says he is "cuming" in me but SLIGHTLY like a piece of cum just like one spurt a mini spurt... he says it happens 3-5 times per sexual relation this last month... i believed it because i felt him contracting inside of me.

Thinking though last time and then today after sex i realized what the fuck what i thinking to believe him when he already lied about it and anything related to his orgasms.... he still jacks of after sex next to me and i have to deal with sitting there and wait to finish my self alone ( he is super fucking selfish ) i have just realized i never have anything except my own wettness coming out of me and i know the difference...i tried to tell my self its just because its so little cum its not flowing out of me or whatever...

its stupid it hurts i cried when i realized it... i wanted to have hope he could finally cum because i havent had someone cum with me during sex or a blow job in YEARS (5) ive done everything and hated my self and tried tell my self it isnt my fault to letting him sext other girls and if he wants he is allowed to fuck them to trying porn which was the worst fail ever... everything doesnt work and hee i thought a man could do a mini spurt a millin times and then jack off after...

what this post is... is me venting because im in pain and hurt... and stupid me wanting hope and asking is this even POSSIBLE do MEN do that... and dont go on thinking pre cum men dont or barely feel that...

 

[Nicholai]

In my experience, no, men do not come like that. I've heard some strange things happen with tantric practices, but I have never seen it. I've been around the block more than a few times.

A whole lot of men can't cum from blowjobs or intercourse alone. It's not strange at all. A lot of men can get to the POINT of cumming, but have to finish themselves off. It very well could be that he is trying to spare your feelings because you want it so much. It's possible that he isn't as selfish as you think. I could be wrong though. This is just my personal experience.

 

[lavenderprincess]

In my experience, no, men do not come like that. I've heard some strange things happen with tantric practices, but I have never seen it. I've been around the block more than a few times.

A whole lot of men can't cum from blowjobs or intercourse alone. It's not strange at all. A lot of men can get to the POINT of cumming, but have to finish themselves off. It very well could be that he is trying to spare your feelings because you want it so much. It's possible that he isn't as selfish as you think. I could be wrong though. This is just my personal experience.

Yeah but.... i knew men don't come like this i just wanted to believe it....

i would rather he be honest it took me YEARS to accept him not have orgasms with me which lead to bad sex and very little sex.... he doesnt get to the point he stays far from even close to cuming and only has came 3 times in his life with an ex during their 3 year relationship... he is gonna be alone if i leave him im sure of it and i guilt my self for that... not one girl stayed with him when they realized his problem bc it causes a lot of sex issues all related to him not cuming.

i keep telling him to stop because i see him as selfish for just sticking his thing in me and no one cums and now he lies about it... i want a marriage and kids and after 5 years he thinks its right to lie to not hurt me? why after 5 fucking years then? why give me false hope for a family one day.

 

[Nicholai]

I was in a relationship with a guy that couldn't cum in me, either. I was with him for six years. I think it happened ONCE. I think it's some bullshit conditioning from watching porn and too much wanking, and like you said, not being able to let go. He would go for goddamn ever, too. It isn't fun to have sex for hours, every damn time.

I'm not really very familiar with male sexual dysfunctions, but truly, it sounds like he has one. Male frigidity? Women can often be counseled past the same problem.

I wish I could pinpoint the problem

 

[Hurhel]

Yea lots of jacking of to porn makes their dick more used to a hand vs. a wet slippery vagina.
Maybe he can get warmed up with some porn and then he can have sex with you so you can have your desire of him coming inside you.

My man lasts forever too before orgaasm/cum more than 45 minutes of fucking.

Don't take it too much to heart find what works for your body and his body. Plus if he makes himself cum with his hand tell him." When your done its my turn OK."
Don't allow him to let you be unsatisfied. Making love is about both partners feeling good afterwards.
And if he doesn't know what to do with your pussy--show him you clit and how to rub it and all that. Guys can be lazy sometimes or just plain selfish. Or find a guy that doesn't mind pleasing you.
Take care Amiga

 

[lavenderprincess]

With me he can fuck for an hour or 5 min we never know. He tried stopping porn because i asked him to i was sure it was the issue... and he still can barely fuck and not cum.

Also telling him its my turn heh... like i havent? i do EVERY time and 90 percent of the time i end up alone taking care of my self if i can. i feel like he forces him self to have sex with me so he can jack off so because he knows if he watches porn he wont fuck me for a week or ever how long... he doesnt care about my pleasure and has told me with all the years he "lost" with giving every girl pleasure when he gets nothing he ha sno time to waste on me...

its so depressing.

 

[assclass]

he doesnt care about my pleasure a... he has no time to waste on me...

its so depressing.

Find an new boyfriend who isn't a gapping asshole.

 

[pofacedhoe]

yeah i dont know why you would put up with someone who is all about their own pleasure or lack thereof.

is he gay?

 

[lavenderprincess]

yeah i dont know why you would put up with someone who is all about their own pleasure or lack thereof.

is he gay?

i almost wish he was gay. at least it wouldnt be my fault and i owuld have no choice to accept it.

i do not think he is though.

after 5 years i have no idea what to do i've never been so depressed and its gotten so bad this last month or two...

even last night i tried not to have sex as it doesnt do anything for either of us and i gave up sadly but i wanted to "play" same thing as always for two years he isnt in the mood and wont touch me.

 

[pofacedhoe]

after 5 years i have no idea what to do i've never been so depressed and its gotten so bad this last month or two...

even last night i tried not to have sex as it doesnt do anything for either of us and i gave up sadly but i wanted to "play" same thing as always for two years he isnt in the mood and wont touch me.

so are you two financially tied up together? because you dont sound happy and i cant see why i would stay with someone if i wasn't happy. if its been this way for 5 years with a slow gradual decline towards where you are today i dont see much possibility of an improvement

 

[swilow]

A whole lot of men can't cum from blowjobs or intercourse alone. It's not strange at all. A lot of men can get to the POINT of cumming, but have to finish themselves off. It very well could be that he is trying to spare your feelings because you want it so much. It's possible that he isn't as selfish as you think. I could be wrong though. This is just my personal experience.

I'm not too sure about this TBPH. I guess it is a 'thing' but I do not consider inability to cum inside a pussy to be "common". I'm a man, I've masturbated way more times than I have had sex and have no trouble coming during vaginal sex. I don't know many of my mates who have an issue to the extremes of the OP. That said, there is a general perception that mean NEED to ejaculate, that we are always thinking of slamming every woman we encounter, that we are ready and willing for sex at all times. Its not true and is an unfair generalisation and is one of the principal causes for sexual awkwardness.

OP: I think you might need to find someone more willing than this guy, if sex is an important thing to you. That, or try and switch things up- take a more dominant approach, perhaps he will enjoy your intensity. At the same time, sex isn't about pleasing a man- a man cumming is not strictly the point of sex- both partners should enjoy it. You should be enjoying this and, in a relationaship, you should be honest enough to tell your partner what it is you enjoy. I find myself wilting considerably if my girlfriend is just lying there and not enjoying it; even worse would be pretense of enjoying it. I want her to REALLY FUCKING LOVE IT. Perhaps you are overly concerned with your partners orgasm and should just worry about the things you can actually change...?

 

[HYDRO_CHRONIC]

Oh wow.cumming inside a woman is my thing.i found out with my current gf that it was even hotter and more satisfying when she wasn't on birth control.but now we have a child wich she wanted.i thought I was sterile to be honest...but very happy to have a child.ANYWAY

maybe hes Into something way more kinky then you two are doing.this is depressing for me since I can't cum inside my gf now she wont take birth control.and I'm never fully satisfied.unless I finish inside and she has me inside her I dont know why I feel this way since its whats normally supposed to happen.

But I'm also all about the girl getting off as well.honestly I wish I could tie her little ass up and just make her cum and cum and cum��.I could punch your boyfriend in the face.cause I practically beg her to get on birth control so I can cum in her again.sometimes she might use a sponge once in a blue moon.but no I've never heard of a guy cumming little loads multiple times.when my girl says just cum in my butt....then comes back from the bathroom and says.OMG there were so many sperms(she's from Ukraine so English is sometimes funny) in my butt.and you want to put that In my vagina.id have like 3 Babies from all that ...i dont know what to do but laugh

What kind of porn is he into.find out maybe if you realm want this to work.but he does sound like a asshole.theres nothing wrong with you.I could probably fill you up within minutes �� if I was single anyway

 

[lavenderprincess]

so are you two financially tied up together? because you dont sound happy and i cant see why i would stay with someone if i wasn't happy. if its been this way for 5 years with a slow gradual decline towards where you are today i dont see much possibility of an improvement

Yes we are... more from my side... its extreamly complicated...
i COULD leave if i wanted to though even if it would be hard for me for the fist few months.. he supports me a lot...
i dont stay for that reason though im like you have said unhappy... i cry a lot... idk what its like to be desired and kissed.. it all sucks... im very "attached" to him and i know there is a differnce between love and being attached... i dont know how to let go even though i know i need to.

I'm not too sure about this TBPH. I guess it is a 'thing' but I do not consider inability to cum inside a pussy to be "common". I'm a man, I've masturbated way more times than I have had sex and have no trouble coming during vaginal sex. I don't know many of my mates who have an issue to the extremes of the OP. That said, there is a general perception that mean NEED to ejaculate, that we are always thinking of slamming every woman we encounter, that we are ready and willing for sex at all times. Its not true and is an unfair generalisation and is one of the principal causes for sexual awkwardness.

OP: I think you might need to find someone more willing than this guy, if sex is an important thing to you. That, or try and switch things up- take a more dominant approach, perhaps he will enjoy your intensity. At the same time, sex isn't about pleasing a man- a man cumming is not strictly the point of sex- both partners should enjoy it. You should be enjoying this and, in a relationaship, you should be honest enough to tell your partner what it is you enjoy. I find myself wilting considerably if my girlfriend is just lying there and not enjoying it; even worse would be pretense of enjoying it. I want her to REALLY FUCKING LOVE IT. Perhaps you are overly concerned with your partners orgasm and should just worry about the things you can actually change...?

yeah i know a lot of men and had sex with ... a fair amount... and i never seen or heard of an issue as extream as my mans... its horrible.

for me SEX is the BASE of a relationship. im very sexual more than most woman i know and being with a guy a lot less sexual than any man i ever met plus has no pleasure or cums... well its hard... i tried to have the "dominant approach" and it seems to make things WORSE ! idk why. and yeah sex isnt only about pleasing a man its mutual pleasure and connecting... but we have none of that on either side because all of his sex issues which come from him not coming.. he knows when i dont cum and when i do what i dislike and what i love and wont do effort ever. he just. does. not. care. any time we have sex im very in the mood and try to think about me and etc... it NEVER WORKS after 5 years ive tried EVERYTHING.

i honestly accepted his issue as it was hard and took 3 years almost 4... these last 6 months he started "faking it" and doing that wierd cuming non existent shit and lying... thats when i got hurt and not okay about it and hit my depression i worked hard to fight or at leats not show him...

Oh wow.cumming inside a woman is my thing.i found out with my current gf that it was even hotter and more satisfying when she wasn't on birth control.but now we have a child wich she wanted.i thought I was sterile to be honest...but very happy to have a child.ANYWAY

maybe hes Into something way more kinky then you two are doing.this is depressing for me since I can't cum inside my gf now she wont take birth control.and I'm never fully satisfied.unless I finish inside and she has me inside her I dont know why I feel this way since its whats normally supposed to happen.

But I'm also all about the girl getting off as well.honestly I wish I could tie her little ass up and just make her cum and cum and cum?.I could punch your boyfriend in the face.cause I practically beg her to get on birth control so I can cum in her again.sometimes she might use a sponge once in a blue moon.but no I've never heard of a guy cumming little loads multiple times.when my girl says just cum in my butt....then comes back from the bathroom and says.OMG there were so many sperms(she's from Ukraine so English is sometimes funny) in my butt.and you want to put that In my vagina.id have like 3 Babies from all that ...i dont know what to do but laugh

What kind of porn is he into.find out maybe if you realm want this to work.but he does sound like a asshole.theres nothing wrong with you.I could probably fill you up within minutes ? if I was single anyway

yeah its my thing too. before this guy it was my FAVOURITE thing a man could do is to cum in me... and it was rare so i love it even more.. now 5+ fucking years and nada in any way...
he is into kinky shit things i didnt even accept before him and now do.. we only do what he wants to so idk...

for porn he is now.... addicted yes i say addicted to THREESOMES.... refuses to have it ( i offered him) i let him sext and talk to another girl and anything he wants so idk about that either.

 

[infectedmushroom]

It's called Delayed Ejaculation. Some men take forever - some men just can't come. For the first couple weeks of my relationship with my current GF I found it extremely difficult to relax enough to cum, but there were a few good reasons, including opiate abuse and hardships in daily life with a sick family member.

Eventually I learnt to relax to the point I could cum inside of her, and I feel sorry for you that you don't get to experience that deep form of intimacy - especially when you get to cum at the same time as your partner, which is even better.

He needs to watch less porn and get more interested in YOU and what YOU want. It sounds like you're being too selfless. Your need (and I do think it's a need in a relationship) to have that sort of intimacy with your man is probably leaving a very big hole in your happiness.

 

[legalizeall]

Ive jacked off alot in my life but the real deal is no comparision. Not even a chance. Im sorry but no hand in the world on a guy can replace the thing of beauty god gifted them with. Im sorry but jackin off next your wife in bed is just wierd. These guys take these women forgranted. They look at them as pieces of meat and not a partner or a lover. Bullshit too cause there is plenty of other mem that would never trrat them that way. Im embarrassed to be a guy sometimes.

 

[lavenderprincess]

It's called Delayed Ejaculation. Some men take forever - some men just can't come. For the first couple weeks of my relationship with my current GF I found it extremely difficult to relax enough to cum, but there were a few good reasons, including opiate abuse and hardships in daily life with a sick family member.

Eventually I learnt to relax to the point I could cum inside of her, and I feel sorry for you that you don't get to experience that deep form of intimacy - especially when you get to cum at the same time as your partner, which is even better.

He needs to watch less porn and get more interested in YOU and what YOU want. It sounds like you're being too selfless. Your need (and I do think it's a need in a relationship) to have that sort of intimacy with your man is probably leaving a very big hole in your happiness.

at first i thought it was delayed now i think it isnt that and its just impossible. i have no idea whats wrong.
and "deep intmacy" heh... i'd give anything for it. 5 years of this is a long time and that hole in my happiness just grows.

 

[StoneHappyMonday]

Can I ask you a question? I can't make out from your posts if you've ever seen this man's sperm. If you have, coz he masturbates next to you and you see it, then ignore me.

But if you haven't ever seen it. It's possible this man suffers from retrograde ejaculation. It's a physical 'disability' for want of a better word whereby the man still cums but virtually comes backwards so it is released into his bladder. It's harmless to him and next time he goes for a piss, the sperm comes out.

Just a possibility, of no use to you, but it is a genuine rare but known medical problem.

 

[lavenderprincess]

Can I ask you a question? I can't make out from your posts if you've ever seen this man's sperm. If you have, coz he masturbates next to you and you see it, then ignore me.

But if you haven't ever seen it. It's possible this man suffers from retrograde ejaculation. It's a physical 'disability' for want of a better word whereby the man still cums but virtually comes backwards so it is released into his bladder. It's harmless to him and next time he goes for a piss, the sperm comes out.

Just a possibility, of no use to you, but it is a genuine rare but known medical problem.

no i have .. he has not issue letting go alone

 

[temest]

Let's be honest. Masturbation is strictly a personal sex act that results in intense orgasms. No muss, no fuss. Your man dribbles a couple of times inside of you and then masturbates. Seem clear he finds polishing his knob much more sexually gratifying...but that's not a knock against you or any other woman with the same kind of guy. Some (most) guys aren't thinking about how much they love a women when he cums...all attention is focused on his cock 'n balls and an intense orgasm. If you are wanting your sexual encounters to be filled with love and passion, you got the wrong guy. If you want to experience him shooting his load with vigor so that you feel more sexually fulfilled, tell him that you want to be a sex object that wants to be fucked, not made love to. Now sex becomes somewhat impersonal and he can concentrate on himself and how good it feels to him. This just may be what he wants to hear. Give it a try so that you can get what you want.

BTW, the greatest sex, not love making, I ever had with my wife was when I would get out of the shower, open the bathroom and there she'd be face down on the bed with her ass positioned just over the corner of the bed and masturbating with her legs spread wide. She was offering her pussy to me solely for my entertainment. In I'd go and start pounding away. My thoughts were only how great it felt and ended with incredibly intense orgasms. She'd get off every single time as well because it was was purely sex, no emotions involved. Good luck!

 

[lavenderprincess]

This has nothing to do with emotions.
He can't orgasm and barely has any pleasure which creates other issues as in no sex.
I dont think you have understood my post. When did I mention I'm sad because it's emotionless.
It's pleasureless .

I want a man to cum during sex it's been 5 and a half years since. Which is why I made this post.