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When are the games enough and should I make the first "move"

Wolfmans_BrothEr

Wolfmans_BrothEr

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There's this girl I have history with and I know how she feels about me and that she wants to get back together. She just moved back to my area and we've been talking the whole time she was gone (saying I love u and shit) and she even called me on her drive back to let me know she's coming back

She got here Sunday and ever since she's been acting a little weird. I asked if she wanted to get together soon and her exact words were "yes I do". But she just seems kinda distant. Right after she got back I posted a picture on Facebook of me and a female friend (it was her birthday so I took a picture with her), that, and there's been a few other girls who have posted on my wall recently. I don't flirt with them or anything like that, but I feel like this girls being distant to kinda see where I'm at in terms of being with her.

Also for the last month or two I stopped saying I love you bc she was seeing another guy, we weren't technically together, and I didn't wanna be groveling over this girl if I'm gonna b gettin played out

This morning I messaged her, she saw it but didn't respond. Atleast not yet. I wanna be with this girl and I care for her but I'm not tryin to get played and I don't wanna seem clingy or w.e. If it were up to me I'd call her right now and tell her that and that im not messin with any other girls (cuz I'm not)

Im almost positive she's just trying to play mind games to gain the upper hand. What do u think? Should I just call her and put an end to all the bullshit or try to let it play out a little longer? Some of u girls r a tough safe to crack
 
Hi WB, call her, tell her, be done with it that way you don't have to spend valuable time pondering over it and can get on with more important things in life like making some money, fixing the car, DIY,sports, weed, walking the dog ect.

I'm noticing a lot of young gentlemen here on BL who are dithering over women, women are not mind readers and are prone to over thinking situations even more than confused men. The simple approach is best, tell them exactly how you feel, after that relax and wait for her response if she doesn't immediately leap into your arms and shout "I want your babies" then you know it's time to move on to the next temptress.
 
Well I did and turns out all the shit she told me was bullshit. I relapsed once a few months ago and told her about it bc I wanted to be honest with her and have someone be there for me and now she doesn't trust me. She spent last night at some guys house and says she doesn't want a relationship with me

So I'm gonna go relapse again bc i probly won't find another girl who I feel this way about and this is the only way I know how to deal with this. I deserve this shit tho I'm sure I deserve this for one reason or another. Probly cuz I'm a piece of shit. Thanks to u who did respond.
 
Shit I'm sorry...it sounds like she really led you on, please don't blame yourself. Of course you're going to find another girl! From the little I've talked to you you seem like a really nice guy and you're still really young, there's no reason why you wouldn't find someone else. Don't turn the disappointment and frustration back on yourself, I know how easy it is to spiral into self-hatred because things didn't work out with someone, but you can't start thinking it's your fault...sometimes it just doesn't work out. <3
 
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Hey at least you now know exactly where your at with her, don't do anything rash. Now is not the time to crumble, it's the time to move on. Time is a great healer and the plenty more fish saying is true. You will feel the same or more love for someone again, we have all been disappointed. If I were you I would be out hunting fresh meat tonight.
Good luck WP, chin up eh.
 
Wolfmans_BrothEr said:
Well I did and turns out all the shit she told me was bullshit. I relapsed once a few months ago and told her about it bc I wanted to be honest with her and have someone be there for me and now she doesn't trust me. She spent last night at some guys house and says she doesn't want a relationship with me

So I'm gonna go relapse again bc i probly won't find another girl who I feel this way about and this is the only way I know how to deal with this. I deserve this shit tho I'm sure I deserve this for one reason or another. Probly cuz I'm a piece of shit. Thanks to u who did respond.
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Just ask yourself if she's really worth relapsing over? I did the same when my ex gf led me on in a lot of bad ways and I've been in a slump ever since we broke up and I went for the drugs. I haven't stopped since... It's honestly only gotten worse and it's my fault for doing so.

I'm sorry to hear this man but your best bet is to move on even though it's going to be hard. At least you were honest with her and now you know the truth instead of just wondering about the future.
 
Some girls are like that, unfortunately, they just lead you on. Why do you still like her after she's acting like this?
It seems like it is time to move on. There are LOTS of girls out there ... I'm sure you can find someone who won't just lead you on!!

Agreed with the others that, at least you were honest with her. That way you won't always be thinking "what if ...". You tried, which is good. It didn't work out ... things happen, not everything works out. But at least you know now, so you can move on with your life!
 
^^i don't know why I'm still into this girl I just cnt help the way I feel. I feel like being honest about the relapse was the right thing to do, am I wrong in thinking that? I thought that wouldve made her trust me more since I could've just kept my mouth shut but I guess it backfired. fml
 
yeah man being honest was the right thing. but dont do the right thing 100% of the time. especially when shes bullshittin' you.
 
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