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What's your biggest fear ?

theartofwar

theartofwar

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Not as in the sense of horror , unless that is actually holding you back. What is it in life that scares you the most ?

To me failure is by far and away my biggest fear. Until recently i accepted failure now I despise it - im hoping w/therapy I will be able to get this under control and not have the weight of comparisons etc dwelling in my mind.

Jus curious what it is for you guys - I know trust is huge for me also , I'm sure we've all been burned and after awhile its very difficult to trust also.

Secondly: what are you doing to change this fear in your life that holds you back ?
 
Death, not knowing where we will end up after leaving this earth.

As far as failure, it doesnt scare me, its part of learning & it makes us stronger. Some of the most successful people on this earth failed multiple times before they succeeded.

Earthly fear for everyone: not having someone to love you
 
my goals/calling/principal achievements in life dying unnecessarily.

my,,,
not having children.

im trying to do what i need to, i am going to learn, think and fight enough to do so.
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idk, i get lost in that thought...
 
TheLostBoys said:
Death, not knowing where we will end up after leaving this earth.

As far as failure, it doesnt scare me, its part of learning & it makes us stronger. Some of the most successful people on this earth failed multiple times before they succeeded.

Earthly fear for everyone: not having someone to love you
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completely agree on fear for everyone not having someone to love you.

failure is a broad term when I say it I mean simply put I have seen the person I can be, and to me that person was a failure until he did just as you stated - learned from his mistakes and pushed forward. NOW , if i was to slide back into that ... and not come out ... that is my ultimate fear. An utterly wasted life due to failure. Hope that makes more sense.
 
it's admitting I could be if I allowed myself that drives me to never ever let myself go down that road bro.
 
Being an only child, and of a certain age, I'm beginning to feel like all this college was a waste of time. I still have no sense of direction; what I want; what I want to do. It's just not there. Granted, I've been so occupied with trying to score every day for the past 2 years and this is the first time in my life I've been clean....for a week now :) "the internets" high five!! I'm hoping after I'm done teaching English here in Korea I'll go back to school knowing what I truly want to do for the rest of my life.

One thing is for certain. As soon as I get back, I'm marrying my girl. Only if I can remain clean though, 'cause she deserves nothing less.
 
theartofwar said:
completely agree on fear for everyone not having someone to love you.

failure is a broad term when I say it I mean simply put I have seen the person I can be, and to me that person was a failure until he did just as you stated - learned from his mistakes and pushed forward. NOW , if i was to slide back into that ... and not come out ... that is my ultimate fear. An utterly wasted life due to failure. Hope that makes more sense.
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It makes complete sense. I go in circles with some things saying I will do it differently because every time I do a certain thing the same way, I can see im doing it wrong every time & I still make the mistake of doing it the wrong way. Some times im just a retard or stuck in losers cycle as I like to call it.
 
Failing as a mother.....or dying and leaving my children without a parent. This honestly scares the shit out of me. :(

I am staying sober to make sure I am doing what I should be, to be here for them fully.
 
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That everyone has a duplicitous nature is the fear that's holding me back. I could give mounds of personal evidence that most people are comfortable on some level with deceit. I constantly doubt the trust-worthiness of the people closest to me and I feel that I have good reason in doing so. I tend to keep people at arms-length, though often much farther than that. I have no trouble being outgoing and can make friends easily, but its really hard finding people that I can actually count on to maintain any significant level of care about my well-being.

I won't even get into the women of my past, but I've wronged and been wronged. Right now I've got a really good one, and we're a year in and I've had no reason to feel anything but faith in her, though despite that I'm often plagued with doubt that she says one thing and does another. That doesn't seem to be the case though. If it ends up she's not who I think she is I'll probably make the conscious decision to be alone. I actually enjoy being alone and sometimes it feels like that's what's best for my happiness.



tl;dr? Fear: What if everyone would fuck over anyone if they'd never get caught?? Solution: Careful character judgement and blind faith.
 
I don't know, that's a tough one, death doesn't scare me like it used to. I'm more afraid of dying a long slow agonizing death, or losing people who are close to me. The older I get the more I realize that worrying is a waste of time yet I still worry, so maybe my biggest fear is that I'll worry my life away and not live it fully.

I don't know if I have a biggest fear, I just have a bunch of smaller ones that will take some work to get past.
 
stellablue said:
Failing as a mother.....
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^This scares me too Stel and I dont even have kids!!8):\



I dont know about the biggest, I have a cluster of them!
Being Overlooked and ignored/forgotten about/alone is a big one- being 'invisible'.
Also, not being able to express my emotions in a clear balanced way.
Losing control of my emotions, another big one.
Being deceived.
Being misunderstood/not listened to.
Losing connection to people/life in general.
Paranoia.
 
Asclepius said:
^This scares me too Stel and I dont even have kids!!8):\
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Asclepius said:
I dont know about the biggest, I have a cluster of them!
Being Overlooked and ignored/forgotten about/alone is a big one- being 'invisible'.
Also, not being able to express my emotions in a clear balanced way.
Losing control of my emotions, another big one.
Being deceived.
Being misunderstood/not listened to.
Losing connection to people/life in general.
Paranoia
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^ we must be related, lol. We are a lot a like. :|
 
not finding love
not finding a job I love
becoming physically paralyzed
killing myself in a fit of rage

dark thread man. those are my biggest fears
 
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