What's up with people...?

Alright, here's the deal...in N.A. they give out several suggestions, go to 90 meetings in 90 days, get a sponsor, find a home group, get phone numbers and dial them not file them. I've basically done all of those suggestions. There is one that i didn't follow which was men with the men and women with the women, I'm friends with both women and men in the rooms. I don't discriminate against anyone regardless of age, race,sexual identity, religion, or lack of religon. I will especially not discriminate against gender. But the issue is that other people in the rooms look at me being friends with the guys as me "flirting" with them. It's such bullshit. I can't be friendly with guys without them thinking that I "get around". It's kind of hurtful. I keep brushing it off as them being ignorant but it does honestly bother me. I have every right to voice my opinion about this. Maybe I should share about it at a meeting where these judgers are present.
One thing is sure...I have not hooked up with anyone in the rooms and will not hook up with them. God I'm in a relationship for Christ Sakes!!
But no matter what I will continue being me no matter what other people thing. I am me, some like me, some don't, but no matter what, I will still be me!!!

 

Some guys seem to think that any not-unfriendly attention from a female is flirting. That's never made much sense to me, and I tend to err in the other direction-- often thinking that women are just being friendly to me when they're actually trying to flirt. Or maybe not, but I think that my way is the safer assumption.

Either way, you need to do what works well with you. If others can't deal, then that's their problem.

 

A lot of times the 'men/men women/women' suggestion is helpful. I know a bunch of dudes that come on to females (newcomers) so hard that the women feel so uncomfortable that they don't feel comfortable going to meetings.

In my area, dudes are shameless regarding the women. They basically display dope fiend behavior in an attempt to get laid. We label this as 'predatory behavior'. Women do it to the men as well.

It IS a program of men AND women but some simply disregard another's recovery in order to get laid or replace their addiction to drugs with an addiction to a person. Just another way to get outside of themselves I suppose.

Personally, I can't say shit to the dude's that prey on new women in the rooms since I'd be a hypocrite. I justified my behavior by saying 'well, they have the same amount of clean time as me so its ok'. I've learned that it isn't ok. It detracts from our primary purpose.

This is just my experience though. All people, all areas, all circumstances tend to be different