B1tO'RoughJack
Bluelighter
The friendzone exists - it is a rare box I personally put people into - either too old, too physically unattractive, or just not someone I would ever twice consider fucking or dating romantically - gals we grown up perceiving as sisters, women who are more insane than me, women who just clash with our personality too much etc etc...As I said though for me to put a gal in the friend zone is a rare occurrence - it's either done immediately, as time goes by and more information has been acquired or it JUST DOESN'T HAPPEN.
Mostly the third - most women I am friends with I would get intimate and sexual with at the drop of a hat.
This is just me - but I think I can say as a generalization us guys just love women...so friendzoning doesn't happen as often as it might for women. MAYBE - it depends on your personality and how important emotions/sexuality are to you.
Sounds like he needs to work on himself more if he is talking about you not fulfilling his "whole" - no other person can do that, only he can make himself who he is supposed to be, ultimately.
Stop talking about it with him, and act on it, as long as he understands you have feelings - if he is a good guy and is not interested, he will not use you. If he uses you - life and love lesson learnt, aye?
Mostly the third - most women I am friends with I would get intimate and sexual with at the drop of a hat.
This is just me - but I think I can say as a generalization us guys just love women...so friendzoning doesn't happen as often as it might for women. MAYBE - it depends on your personality and how important emotions/sexuality are to you.
Sounds like he needs to work on himself more if he is talking about you not fulfilling his "whole" - no other person can do that, only he can make himself who he is supposed to be, ultimately.
Stop talking about it with him, and act on it, as long as he understands you have feelings - if he is a good guy and is not interested, he will not use you. If he uses you - life and love lesson learnt, aye?
I have a question about the friendzone for women, since it seems so debated what it is and if it exists. Because if it does not I have no freaking clue as to where I was put.
I have been told I am a fairly attractive girl (I don't smoke, I work out regularly, I dress nicely and woman-ly, take care of my hair etcetera) by both guys and girls.
Some time ago I met a guy I was instantly attracted to. I mean, not in the sense of "well he's handsome" but in the way of "holy crap my world just stopped". I could not believe my luck when we actually hooked up (due to him inviting me out).
We had sex a couple of times over a couple of months time, did stuff like go to the movies, have dinners.
So far it seems like just you know, two people being attracted. But, after that I lost all clues on what the hell is going on...I have since been told by him that I am attractive, friendly, caring and sexy. That he was attracted to me and felt a connection when we met. And when I told him I had feelings both of love, warmth and friendship he told me they were mutual. But I have also been told now that I am not the woman who makes him feel whole, while also another time saying he felt like he could really be himself with me. On one hand he has admitted that he felt attracted to me, that I was interesting etcetera. But that we are perhaps "too similar" for him to want me. We do like many of the same things and have similar values. We hooked up a second time around as well after him telling me that it was not happening, (after him replying to a casual text with really hot invites) and then he went back to saying that it was not happening. So imagine my confusion here, and my heart has been smashed by this.
So where am I going wrong to go from a guy who finds me attractive and interesting to someone who describes me as a perfect woman when I talk to him but that it isnt happening?
And how the hell can I turn it back around?
He was the first guy I slept with - am I a conquest? At the same time, he wants to be my friend he says. And well, he has said that it might have worked out between us and if the situation was a little different when we first met (he was leaving shortly after) we would probably have become a couple. And he has at separate times told me it would probably have worked and it would not probably have worked. So I am completely at a loss of understanding.
At the moment I cannot do a thing about it since he is not single. But I would just like to know where the hell I was zoned and how to get back out if I had a chance? Because, after all this time and me going on dates with other people and having feelings for others, he is still by far the guy I have met who I feel the most for in my life. I know I have a tendency to be too clingy in the sense that I talk and discuss too much, but it is difficult when you meet someone whom you feel so strongly about and who gives you so many different signals it's like a morse code.
So yeah, guys? If we were both single at the same time; how would you (especially you who claim that men have no friendzone for women they find attractive) recommend me to do to elevate my chances?
I'm sort of thinking just to give it a rest (which, well, I do naturally since he's not on the market) and should we ever be single at the same time, just make a move. Would that be a bad thing?