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What you think become your reality

You know, I've always said that if someone wanted it enough, they could just shut themselves out from the 'real' world and live in their own imaginary one where they could be happier. It's part of my teenager-y 'nothing matters anyway' phase I think. That's what that sentence means to me anyway.
 
what i think is to live alone in a lonely place with pets and cats :) but i believe that cannot become my reality because according to my indian culture i must marry at some point and settle down with kids and stuff,ive never wanted that because i cannot keep friends,let alone manage a family.funny life
 
^Sometimes you have to help push your culture forward. Follow your own desires. If a lonely life with animal companions is what you want then that is what you should work towards. There is no one right way to do things no matter what culture you come from.

OP, I learned early on what that means from my parents. My mom is an optimist and a very open-hearted person that always sees the good in people. My father, while also a very good person was a pessimist and cynical. My mother's perception of the world brought her good friends wherever she went. My father (they were divorced) suffered lots of disappointment and was more isolated. Observing it all through the eyes of a child, it was obvious to me that my parents could have met the exact same person, perceived that person differently according to their own expectations and had two completely different experiences of who the person was. My mother would expect to meet a good person and so people generally showed her their best selves and went much deeper with her. My father approached people more guardedly and people didn't always open up to him and so they lived up to his expectations that people were more self-centered and superficial. So in this way, they created their respective realities.
 
I think your state of mind or thinking has a lot to do with how you will proceed in your life; so essentially i say yes.

Work your ass off in this life and you can make things happen.
 
Ahh but wat about the dissappointment of parents who wants their daughter to be happily settled.i want to be happily settled,have a bf/husband,that life.but my anxiety prevents me,simply prevents me : p
 
But pets and cats have no expectations from u,kids do,husbands do,how i wish i was dealt a normal hand
Sigh! :p
 
it's tough to deal with expectations but you are your own master; do as you please and don't worry about what other's think. Do as thou wilt is my favourite quote :)
 
What a beautiful quote,but i need to sort out my issues,gather the dormant courage in me,and give life a second chance :)
 
RobotRipping said:
it's tough to deal with expectations but you are your own master; do as you please and don't worry about what other's think. Do as thou wilt is my favourite quote :)
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back in the time when i was using the heaviest, my dad originally thought he might be able to beat it out of me. That he wasnt trying hard enough, so if he threw me around a little bit, that maybe i would "Snap out of it"

after the first few times or contact...i could be up against a wall getting hammered in real life, but in my mind id be nowhere near where my physical being was.
i was sitting on a bench somewhere..enjoying the sunlight on a warm day :)

sounds lame, but everyone has a different way of coping. now a days, this dosent happen because im as tall as my dad..and i wouldnt hesitate to fight back.
But then when i wasnt in control of my situation...i just left the situation.

if you wish hard enough for something, eventually it becomes real..at least to you.
And thats all that matters
 
Almost sounds akin to solipsism. The only thing you can be certain of is the self, everything else could be an illusion. So what you think and believe is the reality you live and according to this rather strange school of thought, the only reality you can be certain of. Don't think about this while on hallucinogens (which obvously no TDSers will be) as it can get you into a tricky head spin!
 
I can see this being true. For example you are always thinking about the army as a kid and watching movies, thinking they are super humans who can do no wrong etc you may end up enlisting as and adult.
 
^Exactly my point. You could have argued that it is a legitimate philosophy and it can't be proved either way. You should only be put in a 'looney bin' if you're a danger to yourself or others. Not expressing an albeit strange school of thought. Outrageous, you should sue. If I started mouthing off some of Derrida stranger ideas I might get locked up in your state! What excuse did they use for that! Seriously, that is messed up. You've certainly had a difficult time Mrflowers, that much is true
 
Well oddly enough i actually came up with the quote myself i know i surprised actually;

The thing is this can be negative or positive; as anything is possible or could happen good or bad;

This really gets me thinking to how much control we really have over our lives and our perception of the world and reality..


Fascinating ....
 
depends on how you look at things; we could just be programmed robots that act out in a certain way for the universe (like it has some sort of goal to be cultivated with life or something).
 
no but i was a major danger to myself and others part of thinking every one/thing else was just my imagination i thought i had to kill them to set them free from my mind then kill myself to set me free from my mind
 
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