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Serious What to do when your daughter is getting battered by a coke/sted head?

F.U.B.A.R.

F.U.B.A.R.

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Man, this Christmas has been fuckin shit. We found out on boxing day that my grandson's 'father' has been battering my daughter for over a year.

We had our suspicions, but never had proof.


Luckily, one of her friends grassed the cunt up to the police, because she would never have done it by herself.

He's been arrested, but released because my daughter is refusing to make a statement. The cops know he's a fuckin low life cokehead, but need evidence.

My initial response was to shoot the cunt in the face. But that won't really help the situation...
 
Dunno. Sounds like my ex. She left me and got back with the guy from my understanding.
Not much you can do; like my ex said, she's too fucked up mentally from trauma in early life to want anything better for herself.
Actually enjoys the abuse in a fucked up way. I don't want to give out too many personal details, but its something for you to consider with regard to the situation you find yourself in right now.

We can't go back in time, but we can learn from the past mate.
I don't know all the details in this situation here, but I will say there are typically psychological pre-dispositions that lead women into relationships like these that start in their youth from what all we know. Rarely are there exceptions to this rule.

Nothing is going to change for her unless she wants it, and she'll likely have to undergo lots and lots of counseling.
 
ShulginsReincarnation said:
Dunno. Sounds like my ex. She left me and got back with the guy from my understanding.
Not much you can do; like my ex said, she's too fucked up mentally from trauma in early life to want anything better for herself.
Actually enjoys the abuse in a fucked up way. I don't want to give out too many personal details, but its something for you to consider with regard to the situation you find yourself in right now.

We can't go back in time, but we can learn from the past mate.
I don't know all the details in this situation here, but I will say there are typically psychological pre-dispositions that lead women into relationships like these that start in their youth from what all we know. Rarely are there exceptions to this rule.

Nothing is going to change for her unless she wants it, and she'll likely have to undergo lots and lots of counseling.
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You're bang on there mate. She is slowly coming round to the realisation that he's a deadbeat dad, but she needs a little more time. The police have been brilliant though. They picked him up straight away, but without a statement, there's not much more they can do. :\
 
Oh fuck man, that's a fucking terrible situation for a father to be in. Gotta be one of my worst nightmares

I have no idea what to say tbh. If I was in your shoes I'm pretty sure I'd want to get the fucker hurt real bad, or that would be my initial reaction anyway. I highly doubt that that would actually help anything though except briefly satisfying the desire for revenge maybe, and could very easily make things much worse

One thing though maybe, encourage her to get some decent therapy, pay for it if you can. It could really help her see things from a different perspective. We all know how complex 'love' can be and how it can cause us to think/act in a less than sane manner
 
ageingpartyfiend said:
Oh fuck man, that's a fucking terrible situation for a father to be in. Gotta be one of my worst nightmares

I have no idea what to say tbh. If I was in your shoes I'm pretty sure I'd want to get the fucker hurt real bad, or that would be my initial reaction anyway. I highly doubt that that would actually help anything though except briefly satisfying the desire for revenge maybe, and could very easily make things much worse

One thing though maybe, encourage her to get some decent therapy, pay for it if you can. It could really help her see things from a different perspective. We all know how complex 'love' can be and how it can cause us to think/act in a less than sane manner
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He is going to get hurt real bad soon, but it will be nothing to do with me. He owes thousands to dealers. He had his car taken off him by one the other week, as a warning.

Shit will happen, but we have to stay out of it because social services are getting involved because of our grandson.
 
My heart goes out to you @F.U.B.A.R.
I am so sorry to hear this news.

My first reaction would be to beat him to death!
But, you are correct that would solve nothing.
It would take away the help that your daughter needs.

Be there for her.
Support her.
Love her unconditionally.

Unfortunately, it is up to her to make that first step OUT.
Encourage her and let her know she has a safe place to come to.

That is my best advise.
I have never allowed anyone to physically abuse me, but I imagine it may be similar to our drug addiction struggles here.
We just keep going back and abusing our own selves!

Until we do not!

We are here for you.
With Love
❤️
 
F.U.B.A.R. said:
He is going to get hurt real bad soon, but it will be nothing to do with me. He owes thousands to dealers. He had his car taken off him by one the other week, as a warning.

Shit will happen, but we have to stay out of it because social services are getting involved because of our grandson.
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The Universe is in motion to teach him a lesson and some respect for others!
I am pushing that forward.
May he meet with what he deserves starting right now!!

It is coming to him.
No worries @F.U.B.A.R.

PS: it is your Grandson that is the helpless victim in this situation.
You need to prepare yourself to possibly raise another child.
If you can.
 
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