What to do in this situation?

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Are you Indian?

 

[Stevenski]

I was pretty angry then for being ignored just like that...Sometimes I can't control myself and I do weird things...

Anyway, after a week, when I was returning home, I saw her in front of the door, carrying a big backpack. She was nervous and walking left and right. I believe she didn't have the key to the building door and there was no one else in her apartment to answer the intercom and open the door from inside. She flinched when she saw me, and then I saw relief on her face. However, I just walked past the building and entered a shop. I didn't want to face her in any way. I bought a pack of gum and watched her through the shop's window. She was nervous again, watching in all directions hoping that another neighbour would come and open the door. Several minutes passed, I couldn't wait in the shop anymore, so I exited the store and went to my building. I made sure she saw I bought the pack of gum, and I didn't simply went past the building so I wouldn't face her. I opened the door and let her inside. We didn't say anything to each other - it was an awkard moment....
Any suggestions? How should I approach this girl the next time?

How can I put this? You are the definition of a cunt in my eyes. Here is the catalogue of events

• You hold open the door for a lady & when unacknowledged you deliberately slam it in her face
• You see her struggling with a backpack & instead of offering to help her buy gum
• Then you watch her like a peeping tom (I suspect you enjoyed her distress)
• Eventually letting her in after she had been "suitably punished" for her rudeness

You still want to ask her out? You had a golden chance to help her with an excuse for talking to her & you chose to act like a cunt.

Looking at your posts in this thread I can only suggest you seek help from a professional STAT.

 

[T. Calderone]

I didn't read all the responses but initially, she saw you were holding the door for her. She didn't need to choose that very moment to check her texts for fuck's sake. I mean, how long were you supposed to hold the door open? I think that was a little inconsiderate of her, like your time is nothing. Stop watching out for her, pretend you never saw her and stop liking her. Forget her, when you see her look the other way like she does you. Shes the cunt, not you.

 

[Memeito]

Maybe, if I talk to her and explain to her that we started off on the wrong foot she would understand...So we could start all over again from begining like nothing happened. I saw from my window that she has a little dog and takes him for a walk every morning. I could buy a similar dog too and take him out in the morning so we would meet and have a subject for conversation... However, some mornings her boyfriend walks the dog - it would be really awkard if I encounter him...

 

[Tude]

Maybe, if I talk to her and explain to her that we started off on the wrong foot she would understand...So we could start all over again from begining like nothing happened. I saw from my window that she has a little dog and takes him for a walk every morning. I could buy a similar dog too and take him out in the morning so we would meet and have a subject for conversation... However, some mornings her boyfriend walks the dog - it would be really awkard if I encounter him...

Having a dog is a serious thing. Don't do it because you want this girl's attention. I really love dogs, but don't adopt one because it's a huge responsibility. I had a dog before and was a shit owner (no abuse ever, plenty of food, just never walked her and worked nearly 70 hours/week). So many dogs end up in shelters because selfish people get them for the wrong reasons and bail on them the first chance they get. PLEASE don't get a dog.

 

[llama112]

Maybe, if I talk to her and explain to her that we started off on the wrong foot she would understand...So we could start all over again from begining like nothing happened. I saw from my window that she has a little dog and takes him for a walk every morning. I could buy a similar dog too and take him out in the morning so we would meet and have a subject for conversation... However, some mornings her boyfriend walks the dog - it would be really awkard if I encounter him...

Having a dog is a serious thing. Don't do it because you want this girl's attention. I really love dogs, but don't adopt one because it's a huge responsibility. I had a dog before and was a shit owner (no abuse ever, plenty of food, just never walked her and worked nearly 70 hours/week). So many dogs end up in shelters because selfish people get them for the wrong reasons and bail on them the first chance they get. PLEASE don't get a dog.

Yes PLEASE don't get a dog if this is your only reason for getting a dog.

Also, if she has a boyfriend, just leave it alone. You don't need to be friends with her or have a relationship with her. Just stick to the people you do know. If you're looking to make friends, try another group of people.

 

[Memeito]

Also, if she has a boyfriend, just leave it alone. You don't need to be friends with her or have a relationship with her.

I think she's an open-minded girl. I've seen her with plenty of other men. All sorts of guys come to her apartment and there are parties there all the time. A crazy old neighbour often yells in the middle of the night through the walls at her that she's a junkie and a drunkard and that he will call the police,etc.
My father saw her working at a mall in a liquor shop...She stood at the entrance offering shots of vodka to people passing by...LOL!
Her dog is a Shar Pei, a pretty rare and difficult to train dog breed, that requires constant attention..Anyway, I don't even like dogs that much, I'm a cat person...

 

[alasdairm]

my gut reaction tells me that none of this really happened and that, if it did, the events actually unfolded very differently...

if i take the posts at face value, i would tell you, memeito, that you're being dishonest, deceitful and very creepy indeed. i echo simon - respect the fact that she's made it pretty clear she's not interested and move on to your next victim.

alasdair

 

[Noodle]

I think that might be a good way to wrap up this thread.