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What the fuck is wrong.

This seems like too large an incompatibility for the relationship to work. I think you should cut your losses now and move on.
 
i really doubt its you, even the ugliest, fattest, nastiest girls will be able to get off a guy pretty easily, ESPECIALLY if they have been together for a while and understand each other intimately. sounds like he is either in the closet, has a medical condition, or is just an asexual kind of person. i know a few people that just really dont have any sex drive it all, its very bizarre.

it seems like you guys might be better as friends honestly
 
OP you've had a million threads on this topic. only you can reclaim your life and live each day how you want it...
 
Honestly this is a lot simpler than everyone is making it out to be. Basically he's been spending too much time getting himself off and not enough time having sex. He's wired himself for the stimulation of getting himself off since its his usual form of release. The feeling of sex is different from jacking off. He may be using too strong a grip or you may be very wet resulting in a loss of friction. I've been in a similar position to him before. The silence may be him trying to maintain focus so that he can finish. Sometimes it's harder to cum through sex and so it takes focus otherwise you lose the feeling and just can't get off. He's probably also less sensitive due to the friction of masturbation, does he use a lubricant for it? The initial step is to stop masturbating and to try and rewire the brain to associate orgasming with the stimulation of sex and not the stimulation of orgasm. This can take a while if he has been masturbating for years frequently with irregular periods of sex. There's a big mental aspect of it too. I know for me sometimes I would be worried about trying to finish or something else and then the more you worry the erection disappears. There is hope but it will probably take time. I hade a friend to through something similar and he ended up seeing a therapist about it, turns out he was depressed. Good luck!
 
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I'm only twenty I feel like im missing out on so much
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You are missing out on so much. I'm certain you'll miss out on it as long as you're with this guy. Over the time you've been posting about him, there's been no indication he's been doing anything to improve the situation. If it hasn't changed in this time, it won't. The problem isn't just his lack of sex drive, it's his selfishness. He doesn't appear to have any desire to compromise for your benefit. I think inside everyone there is a part that knows whether someone is or isn't right for them. Admitting that is one thing, acting on it another again. You know what to do here.
 
GreenMachine said:
i really doubt its you, even the ugliest, fattest, nastiest girls will be able to get off a guy pretty easily, ESPECIALLY if they have been together for a while and understand each other intimately. sounds like he is either in the closet, has a medical condition, or is just an asexual kind of person. i know a few people that just really dont have any sex drive it all, its very bizarre.

it seems like you guys might be better as friends honestly
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hey nothin wrong having a chubby for porkies
 
A good number of men cant get aroused unless they are being completely dominated by there partner. This usually involves handcuffs, sex swing sets, full body leather outfits, chains, you get the picture.... also rough sex in general can really get things going
 
maybe he has secret opiate addiction..

sorry about my other post, wasn't thinking that well.

Id leave either way just based on the Twin thing, hope it works out though.
 
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