When I entered the drug usage scene, it wasn't long before there were large numbers of people going through my life (and my home!). However, over time it quickly came apparent that some people made for good drug buddies, and some didn't.
Many were not invited back. As with most groups, an equilibrium was found - those that stayed had certain traits, and were free of others.
What dynamics helped gel your group of friends?
Not Invited Back
The Paranoid - People who became paranoid on drugs were not invited back. My core group of friends do not have self-esteem issues to speak of - certainly none that were amplified by drugs, and paranoia is not something that comes up. We're not babysitters.
Drama Kings/Queens - "Oh man, we were at this party and I was all like, 'We need more drugs'. But I couldn't get money from my buddy who was trying to suck a coke dealers dick for a free line, so I beat up some kid and took his lunch money so that we could go to the ghetto for some shit. But the cops pulled us over and totally..."
Insecure people - Relating to paranoia. If people obviously need continual reinforcement it's wearying. If you are worrying that your k-holed appearance isn't flattering, then you aren't enjoying your k-hole. Be comfortably certain that nobody in the group is thinking negatively about it.
Everyone's Party Girl - Girls who tried to make drama waves in the group by hitting on or sleeping with several members without concern for the interference waves they set up. They simply got excluded quickly.
Neverending Partiers - For our group, the solution to being tired after 48 straight hours is "Get Some Sleep", not "Buy Some Meth". Scary, overstimulated people weren't invited back.
Invited Back
People who can be quiet, relax and listen to music without saying anything for an hour.
People who understand that weed etiquette greases the wheels of sketch day.
People who can enjoy psychedelics without turning ugly.
People who don't feel it necessary to correct others.
People who don't mind ketamine conversations that start out of nowhere. One girl said something abruptly from silence about hay bales - we all just started talking about hay bales. It's easier and more fun than starting on, "Where'd that come from?"
People who understand that sketch day is not the day to square up debt situations, resolve issues, or make really important decisions. The issues can wait a day.
Example Bad Drug Buddies Fear and Loathing, that's all I gotta say.
In short, I guess we favoured peace at all levels of drug use, from the lightest hint of marijuana to the deepest, darkest k-hole.
Many were not invited back. As with most groups, an equilibrium was found - those that stayed had certain traits, and were free of others.
What dynamics helped gel your group of friends?
Not Invited Back
The Paranoid - People who became paranoid on drugs were not invited back. My core group of friends do not have self-esteem issues to speak of - certainly none that were amplified by drugs, and paranoia is not something that comes up. We're not babysitters.
Drama Kings/Queens - "Oh man, we were at this party and I was all like, 'We need more drugs'. But I couldn't get money from my buddy who was trying to suck a coke dealers dick for a free line, so I beat up some kid and took his lunch money so that we could go to the ghetto for some shit. But the cops pulled us over and totally..."
Insecure people - Relating to paranoia. If people obviously need continual reinforcement it's wearying. If you are worrying that your k-holed appearance isn't flattering, then you aren't enjoying your k-hole. Be comfortably certain that nobody in the group is thinking negatively about it.
Everyone's Party Girl - Girls who tried to make drama waves in the group by hitting on or sleeping with several members without concern for the interference waves they set up. They simply got excluded quickly.
Neverending Partiers - For our group, the solution to being tired after 48 straight hours is "Get Some Sleep", not "Buy Some Meth". Scary, overstimulated people weren't invited back.
Invited Back
People who can be quiet, relax and listen to music without saying anything for an hour.
People who understand that weed etiquette greases the wheels of sketch day.
People who can enjoy psychedelics without turning ugly.
People who don't feel it necessary to correct others.
People who don't mind ketamine conversations that start out of nowhere. One girl said something abruptly from silence about hay bales - we all just started talking about hay bales. It's easier and more fun than starting on, "Where'd that come from?"
People who understand that sketch day is not the day to square up debt situations, resolve issues, or make really important decisions. The issues can wait a day.
Example Bad Drug Buddies Fear and Loathing, that's all I gotta say.
In short, I guess we favoured peace at all levels of drug use, from the lightest hint of marijuana to the deepest, darkest k-hole.