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what makes a person good in bed ?

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drfist

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in your opinion, what is it that makes a person a "good" lay ? because, honestly, just because the other person makes you cum, doesn't necessarily mean they did a great job. what would you consider the qualifications to being good in bed?

to keep this fair I'll start with my own opinion. to me it's when the other person pushes you over the edge just when you thought you were in control of the situation. one word in the right tone, one touch in the right place, and you're gone. when they manage to do the same thing a second time not a half hour later, that qualifies you as "good in bed".
opinions ?
pleasse share.
 
When it comes down to it, good sex is when you both orgasm at the same time, and someone who's good in bed is someone who knows how to make that happen.
 
You can do everything I am about to say, and it not be as good if you lack chemistry.
So
1.) Chemistry
2.) The ability to say the right thing at the right time
3.) FOREPLAY.. God, I cannot stress how important foreplay REALLY is. Eat that pussy up!
4.) Being open to whatever
5.) Take control: male/female.. so hot when roles get reversed
and uhm yeah I probably am missing a lot, but that will lead to overpowering orgasms and nice a cuddle sesh ;]
 
Being receptive to what the other person wants, but, at the same time, taking the initiative, knowing that you are THE SHIT.
 
There are tons of things. But it depends whether or not you're in a relationship with someone. Because there would likely be lower standards for a one night stand or a friends with benefits.

- chemistry
- foreplay (a lot of it, and if they focus on me much/at all)
- confidence
- knowing what I want
- knowing what he wants
- communication
 
I always found passion to be a key element. If you both aren't intensely into it, neither are going to enjoy it anywhere near as much. Beyond that, I always found being attuned to physiological responses is very important - pay attention to changes in breathing, subtle moaning, flexing into certain touching versus flexing away and you will very quickly learn what your partners likes.

Beyond these basics, I always found sex improves the more you know your partner and the more intimate you are with them in every way so building trust and becoming closer outside of the bedroom will lead to more enjoyment inside it.
 
iheartthisthread said:
in a word, enthusiasm.
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This.

To be good,

-its important for both people to know exactly how to pleasure eachother. It really turns me on when my partner knows exactly what to do without being told, but I prefer sex in long term relationships, and this is obviously a lot to ask for one night stands, etc.

-So basically^, being able to read your partners body. You don't have to be a mind reader, but as Cane said, attention to even the most subtle body language will get you VERY far.

-it's important to be aware of the female anatomy, the clitoris and G spot and everything in between.

-Foreplay is important, giving oral should be as important as receiving it.

-Stamina is obviously helpful, and will improve with time.

-I think size matters to an extent. It may only help boost things like 10-20% but the perfect fit between partners really can't be beat. Obviously having a decent cock is not enough on its own, but combined with these other criteria, it really helps.

-knowing/respecting each others boundaries
 
Sensuality and being in tune with their sexuality.

Too many people think that bucking their hips is all there is to fucking.

Fucking is the climax of a process. I don't think it should be focused on without considering everything else.

You don't just find yourself amidst sex, you get there... everything in between makes good sex, great.
 
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