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what is wrong with me ??

I can't tell from your posts whether you are having intercourse or just mutually pleasuring each other with your hands. In any event, guys can't read your mind. They may not know what you like. We don't all like the same thing. If I want to be touched there, I'll take my partner's hand and put it there, put my hand over his to show him how I like to be touched. I'm very sensitive down there, so a very light touch is all I need. But how would someone know that unless I tell him? Plus women's bodies are sometimes (usually) a mystery to men. They may not even know where to look, or what they are looking for. (Sorry guys, no offense!) You can't expect them to be fully responsible for your orgasm - you do have a part to play. So play. Don't pout because your partner can't read your mind. He's not trying to "shaft" you - I'm sure he wants nothing more than to please you.

Chill out and have fun.
 
OMG too much complaining!! You are going to drive your guys crazy with the intensity of your dissatisfaction! 8o

First of all, you are responsible for your own orgasm. Whether that means asking for what you want (and demonstrating the techniques that work on you) or taking care of yourself, you need to start with you and not with them. So why not try my suggestion, above? Then you will be happy every time. And your guy will be happy because all the pressure will be off him.

And/or, you can learn to suck cocks extremely well, give the guy a taste of what you can do, then tell him you will finish him off after he does you. Then show him exactly how you like your clit touched and licked. But be patient with him, and relax about how guys all suck in the clit department, because if you don't it will be a huge buzzkill for your partners.

Also start dating older guys (if you are over eighteen).
 
thanks, i dont mean to sound like a bitch im just really trying to look into the issue here.... ive slept with my fair share of guys and what ive found by and by large that usually a guy WILL NOT VOLUNTARILY, INSTICTIVELY, or however you want to put it, spend enough time there. do guys not know thats how most chicks get off ???? like im just trying to figure out the cause of why guys act this way is all... does anyone have any theories ?? you could say its because they cant read my mind, which is true, and obvious... but do they literally lack the knowledge at the average age of 25 that women like their clitties touched and licked.... like... cant you guys get what im saying..... isnt it more or less obvious that a woman would like that? i get the impression that guys are kind of "backing down" or "shying away from" that area... is it just me who experiences this with guys im sleeping with for the first few times or does this happen to most women.... in that case if it is true, why do you guys and gals think this is happening ? is it because they are ignorant of the pleasure it could provide, or they just feel stupid doing it, or they think its boring ? and guys and girls, if this hasnt been the case for you, if you have ever met a guy or are a guy who is WILLING and ready to spend a decent amount of time on a new gals clitoris..... how often are you willing to do this with a new or new ish woman, and girls how often does this really happen to you ? and i mean being stimulated clitorally to orgasm BEFORE SEX. .... as a side note im beginning to see that a guy most likely will not provide a girl with an orgasm unless you stop him from having sex with you until he does... do i really have to bogart in this way........ starting to think so, definitely yes. im sorry i dont want to offend anyone, im just highly interested in why these patterns keep repeating themselves.

yes, i may not be being assertive enough. all the same.... i think some initiation from the guys is due, and i dont see any happening.... how would guys feel if we waited for them to put our hands on their dicks ? think about it, and answer that question guys if you like.
 
You didn't offend me at all. :) I just didn't want you to get into an "all guys suck in bed" rut because I don't think it would help you or therm. I am seeing your point - I think you are right. Part of the problem may be that different women have differently sensitive clits and from touching the most sensitive ones too roughly and messing things up, guys tend to be extra-cautious which means not enough stimulation (time devoted and/or intensity) for other women. So you will have to figure out how to let your guys know what you need from them. But I think you should do it in a sexy way.
 
Well, if you need clit stimulation to get off and want the guy to do it, and you're communicating this to them and no one is doing this for you... Sounds like you're with some lame ass crappy lovers and time to find new ones! Perhaps you should get with slightly older men who have lots of experience? Or just be very clear about your needs... Nothing to be embarrassed about! :)

Yep, I totally agree with older guys. Although I've had some great lovers in their 20s and their stamina is awesome, older men are usually more sure of themselves and have the experience to really make good lovers. One of the best lovers I had was a guy 13 years older than I was and going through a midlife crisis. lol He wanted to try everything, and it was obvious he was an older dude going through that thing older dudes go through. :D But, he was so much better than the other guys I had been with. Too bad he was a lying POS. lol But, if I dissect sex from him and nothing else, those were some of the best nights sexually.
 
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