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what if you were about to die?

IAMTHOUGHTS

IAMTHOUGHTS

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this dude i work with i has cancer and i guess he only has about 3 months to live. he has been working there for like 20 years or somthing. the part that bothers me is he comes to work everyday (light duty) and mopes around all day, he feels sick all the time and is going through kemo but comes to work almost every day.

i cant believe some who is about to die would want to waste 40 hours a week when you have so little time left. i think if i was i his situation I would feel hopless and start doing crazy things.

you figgure if got 3 months left does anything matter anymore? if you commit crimes you will be dead before you get sentanced, if you use hard drugs everyday all day you will never live long enough to have to try to quit.

speeding tickets, spending money, taking risks, ect ect.. none of it would have a signifigant impact on the last 3 months of your life. would it?
i think i would feel as though the rules that our societys are built on dont apply to me any more i would feel like i was already dead.

how do you feel?
what would you do with your last 3 months?
 
In my job I deal with sick/injured people and rehabing them back to work, including people with cancer.

The thing is, the will to live is very strong in humans, including people who are dying or seriously ill. They simply don't want to deal with the fact that they might/will die, so coming to work, doing 'normal' things, makes them feel like everything is ok. There's often denial in there also.

Everyone is different too - some people might want to do some crazy stuff, some people might just give up, usually though, people just seem to want everything to go back to normal, before they were told they had cancer so they attempt to go on as normal for as long as they can.

I'm with you on the work thing - I wouldn't want to do anything crazy, (often people don't feel so hot, or look so hot so the crazy stuff might not seem that attractive). I would want to just relax, eat nice food, be with people who care about me, have a few laughs ... It's hard to say though, unless you're in that situation.
 
ByronStar said:
They simply don't want to deal with the fact that they might/will die, so coming to work, doing 'normal' things, makes them feel like everything is ok. There's often denial in there also.
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i can understand that i guess. but i KNOW that would not be me.

I would be at the bank taking out loans, and jumping on planes to tons of differnt places, doing tons of drugs, sky diving, driving fast.

i swear to god if i was told that i had 3 months to live i would get in my car drive home and run over every single mailbox on the way to my house. i shit you not and if i got cought i would probly tell the cops " i only have 3 months to live so fuck you ass hole" and jump back in my car.

does anyone ever actually act that way after getting the bad news?
 
dude.... if you only had 3 months to live, you wouldn't want to spend a single hour of that in a poilce station, would you? let alone spend the night ;)

i think i would get myself a good supply of coke or smack and let things take care of themselves. :D

(i've always wondered what heroin would be like....)
 
^ thats what im saying. maybe i WOULD try to avoid going to jail but i would still be wreckless as hell. id rather spend a day in jail than a week a work.
 
yep, me too.

maybe the guy needs to go to work to pay his rent?

sad but possibly true. :(

in which case, the guy needs to get his priorities straight. :\
 
every drug I could get my hands on loans I couldent repay expensive restaurants then when it got real close to the end dose up on MDMA load a hot shot of heroin eat a handful of xanax then shoot the smack and go out on my own terms
 
Just remember that your family will have to make the repayments for all these loans you're taking out. Maybe this guy has a mortgage and doesn't want his family paying it off for him.
 
IAMTHOUGHTS said:
this dude i work with i has cancer and i guess he only has about 3 months to live. he has been working there for like 20 years or somthing. the part that bothers me is he comes to work everyday (light duty) and mopes around all day, he feels sick all the time and is going through kemo but comes to work almost every day.

i cant believe some who is about to die would want to waste 40 hours a week when you have so little time left. i think if i was i his situation I would feel hopless and start doing crazy things.

you figgure if got 3 months left does anything matter anymore? if you commit crimes you will be dead before you get sentanced, if you use hard drugs everyday all day you will never live long enough to have to try to quit.

speeding tickets, spending money, taking risks, ect ect.. none of it would have a signifigant impact on the last 3 months of your life. would it?
i think i would feel as though the rules that our societys are built on dont apply to me any more i would feel like i was already dead.
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Perhaps he is not just thinking about himself. Perhaps there is a family involved, or at least a significant other.

how do you feel?
what would you do with your last 3 months?
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I really can't tell how I'd feel, but I know I would seek out a second (and third) opinion, so something like this doesn't happen.
 
^^ oh my god 8o,

I have the opinion that this guy was given such bad news, that he wasn't able to make educated or informed life decisions, the hospital is definitely negligent on some level.
 
SillyAlien said:
Perhaps he is not just thinking about himself. Perhaps there is a family involved, or at least a significant other.
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Exactly. If he's got a family of any kind I'm sure he's concerned about their well being, both emotionally and financially, after he passes.

People deal with news of terminal illnesses in all sorts of ways. My priority would be my children.
 
Yeh but if i had a wife and kids then i would get a divorce and put everything in the wifes name anyway. that way they couldnt take the house to pay back loans you took out, right?
if your about to die why do you want anything in your name anyway?
the only thing that sucks is your now ex-wife wont collect life insurance...
correct me if im wrong.
 
not having any children or obligations of any kind, i would go to the hospital and ask to spend the rest of my days hooked up to a constant iv of hydromorphone--with the button to administer it when i wanted more.

im actually looking forward to this when i get old and diagnosed with a terminal illness. go out in pure bliss :)
 
Take all of my money, and take out debt/use credit cards to live the remainder of my life in Amsterdam shooting smack and going to clubs. Although given my current spending habits without drugs, I don't know if I could get a large enough credit line to live the hotel/drug life in Amsterdam for 3 months %)

Originally Posted by Doooofus
Just remember that your family will have to make the repayments for all these loans you're taking out.
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Is this true?
 
captainballs said:
Take all of my money, and take out debt/use credit cards to live the remainder of my life in Amsterdam shooting smack and going to clubs. Although given my current spending habits without drugs, I don't know if I could get a large enough credit line to live the hotel/drug life in Amsterdam for 3 months %)



Is this true?
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no, your debts do not transfer to your family after you die. at least credit card debts im sure of. this is also only in the uS that i speak for.

and why shoot dope, theres WAY better drugs you could get if you just asked for em. *cough * dilaudid* cough* fentanyl * cough * pharmacutacle grade diacetylmorphine...

i bet they could even hook you up with pharm grade cocaine if you asked!
 
I'd get a huge loan, buy (or just fucking steal) a Subaru and several tons of beer and drugs and just drive around the countryside getting fucked everyday for 3 months. Then, on the last day, I'd take some ketamine and and just float off.
 
I think you guys have a very optimistic view of what it would be like to die from cancer. It would be nice if it could be so fun, but it's not realistic.;)
 
I feel that people that can still hold down a job knowing death is around the corner are some strong people. If I was going to die within 3 months I would not be working.However, I would do things in life I never had a chance to do.

This Thread reminds me of when I was in Fallujah. Before a mission you write a letter to your loved ones incase you dont make it back. At first it was weird but after time you accept the fact that you might die. The hardest part about combat is when they shoot at you we have to bound towards them while they are shooting to take them out. Its just really hard to train your brain to move towards gunfire.
 
my grandma is dring of cancer right now, and shes TOTALLY SHOCKED that at 90 years old, somethin gave out.

after seeing her lost her dignity competely and revert back into a guilt-tripping child, id like to think that yes, there is a comfortable (to say the LEAST) way to go, if you allow it.

she of course refuses all medications and then BITCHES about the pain SO SO MUCH. but thats because no ones ever there to support her--my dad has taken 2 years worth of sick leave in the last 3 weeks in order to spend time with his mom and get bitched at for 'letting this happen to her.'

i plan to die with dignitiy, in a blaze of opioid glory.

...o and my point with that story was to show that i do ineed have some experience with death and dying.
 
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