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What gets you through the day?

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even a cynical misanthropist like me that all that matters are our relationships with other people. I am living, for now, for those moments of raw human connection.
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This is so true! <3 :)
 
clementines_ghost said:
Since I got clean, what keeps me going through the hours of anhedonia and tedium are the most miniscule moments of what feels at the time like tiny miracles of human interaction. The smallest moment of ephemeral connection with another human being can light something up inside me that keeps me going through the grimmest of hours. Three or four times in the (relatively) early days of post-acute withdrawal (weeks 2-4), strangers have flashed the most amazing, beatific, heartbreakingly affecting smiles at me, it's like a punch to the heart.

Those moments are few & far between since I am still pretty unwell and not out and about as much as I could be (and the weather is just a bitch right now on the East Coast), but it amazes me how far just one tiny moment can carry me.

After ten years on opiates, the external structure & trappings of my life are pretty bleak (messy house, no work I am passionate about, etc) but these last few weeks have taught even a cynical misanthropist like me that all that matters are our relationships with other people. I am living, for now, for those moments of raw human connection.
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seb?
n/m

the past few weeks have been the most epiphamatic of my life so far...
ive been inhaling the entire time, when i finally do release,,, i really hope a much brighter light is burning.

because i feel like im going to be giving and needing more of these, gleams, more then ever.

"nous somme l'un l'autre"
-unknown phrase
"we are the sum of each other"
-empathy
 
OverDone said:
So, what helps you push on through those 'harder than other' moments/days? (Not looking for the 'take more drugs' answer, that shit ain't real.)

What thoughts, motivations or other tools do you use to just get through another day when everything seems to be stacking up against you?

for me, its just realizing that these feelings and thoughts won't always be there. They never have before so why should that change? The previous bad times weren't forever. Neither were the good ones. Shit, even the 'meh' type of days always passed.

Its just having to go through it that is the hard part so i guess what helps me is... 'hope'
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I'm the same. Just recognizing the truly transient nature of all life and all emotions and thoughts and even physical pain makes it easier to deal with the difficulties. And it's not even like you have to instigate the change yourself, change happens regardless and you'll eventually get thrown wayward by it.
 
drugs.

just kidding.. that stopped working years ago.


Lady Codone said:
Journaling, meditation, exercise...
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this.

Lolie said:
Sometimes I give myself permission to wallow for a set period when things are really tough. it sounds counter-intuitive, but taking off the pressure to feel anything other than how I truly feel can be a release in itself and help me rebalance.
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and this.
 
panic in paradise said:
i like this,
i know id have a hard time trying to explain, but
what is your perception of time?
and how does it help you?


patience?
inertia?
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Time and emotion are so inner connected with me that I view true time perception as stability so each minute is 60 seconds and each day 24 hours, etc.
With this I am able to be a more stable person while handling some hard times :/ . I also don't seem to stress much anymore - a lot of things bother people and stress them out - I've found that when I crack, ya it's bad, but in general I am very calm and collected. This is all due to the fact that I honestly view everything as the second of life it is , or minute , hour, day - however long it may take .
 
Distraction - with exercise at the moment! afterwards I'm just feeling the endorphins :D

and of course pets!!
 
I could probably think of something inspirational and deep but at the moment two things are helping me get by.
1. Delicious food
2. Call of Duty: Black Ops for PS3 online multiplayer
 
On rough days where everything seems hopeless, I try to think about the future and how everything's going to come together sometime soon. I'm 19 and am in my 2nd year of college at UC Santa Barbara. I just try to look forward towards the next chapter of life and look forward to everything I'm going to experience in the next few months.

I try to stay positive, but not overly optimistic; just realistic. However one needs to maintain a positive attitude in order to keep yourself motivated and to keep your drive for life going. It's a rough battle somedays, but in the end it will all pay off and come together.
 
I've found that remaining aware of all of the negative events and feelings I have already experienced...and survived helps immensely.

When I am having a day that an average Joe (or Jane) would deem undeniably 'shitty', I think briefly about all of the events and emotions in my life that were so agonizingly worse in comparison. After realizing that I have fought through so many brutal struggles, things like bouts of depression become much more manageable. I think "hell, If I could come out of _______, I can definitely get through this! =D
 
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Used to be drugs :| Still kinda is I guess

But now I like to clean my house up, do laundry, I try to help out whenever I can with anything my neightbors might be doing(like shoveling out his car the other day), and when all the darn snow melts I hope to have a beautiful vegetable garden <3
 
Music, Coincidences, Ritalin, The Ever Present Realization That Life Could End At Any Moment, My Students, My Gigs, My Favorite TV shows and Comedians. Lots of coffee. And food when I remember to eat!

Oh yes, and Love.
 
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