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What do you need to do to be the person who you want to be?

Jabberwocky

Jabberwocky

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I have been pondering this question now that I am 26 and have learnt a lot along the way and as such my list as follows:

- Quit boozing (Get help of some sort through AA or other)
- Quit smoking
- Eat healthier
- Lose weight (Am 100kg now but was 77kg mid this year)
- Complete my degree (Have 5 subjects left of my Masters course)
- Get a job
- Get new friends (People who want to progress forward)
- Learn to manage my depression and anxiety better and not cave in with alcohol or food to calm this
- Get a girlfriend
 
The last time there was a thread like this I made a list and didn't do any of it...so maybe this time will be different.

-Quit smoking
-Meditate daily
-Dance more often
-Learn to mix/create electronic music
-Buy a bunch of new clothes (I hate shopping)
-Increase gym frequency
 
the ability to accept myself as I am at this moment, there'll always be something....

but basically,

-eat healthier/exercise more
-sleep more
-keep on doing what I'm doing without relying on chemicals
-learn how to handle money better
-girlfriends come and go, can't explain love, so just be happy by myself.
 
I too have been going over this a lot lately-
I will list things I am sure of atm-


-Get healthy
-Allow myself to be open to more people
-Focus more on my happiness and learn that caring for myself does not make me selfish
-Meditate
-Reintroduce myself to my spiritual self (I've let my spiritual self fall to the wayside rcently)
-Forgive
-Make more concrete decisions on what I want from my life
-Come up with a plan for my life
-Continue in therapy

That is all for now I can list..........I may have more at a later time :)
 
I am so glad you started this thread. I was thinking about starting a thread along the lines of 'things you've put aside during addiction and want to accomplish in a sober life.' There are already responses that will reflect this idea, though there is certainly a distinction between what we need to do to be the people we want versus the activities we can do now sober/ living with limited abuse.

What I need to do:

Commit to subutex program, not just staying clean a week to pass a UA.
Save money from above actions ans buy a car and continue to pay bills on time.
Complete graduate degree.
Get a better job.
Re-establish social base of forward thinking individuals.
*Essentially the main objective is to regain self stability, confidence,and an identity beyond 'addict.'

What I want to do once there:

Practice fire hooping and participate in festival conclaves.
Apply for a spot on BIG BROTHER 13 lol.
Volunteer at local animal shelter and organize food/ supply drives.
Travel Europe
Get my ass to a gym regularly.
 
-get a promotion or two
-stop giving away/wasting ALL my money to the point where I need to eat rations and sleep at work. (I give away my my huge paycheque to all my staff who make about 1/6th of what I do cause I don't think its fair they make so little, but it leaves me broke)
 
Quit smoking
Cut down on the weed
Stay in therapy and stay motivated to recover from my depression/anxiety
Pray more
Practice yoga more (way more) frequently
Lose these last 15 lbs or so
Stop blaming others
Stop blaming myself
Love, respect and honor myself, my thoughts, and my body

**FIND PEACE OF MIND**
 
- reunite with family (on break)
- get off the fucking computer once in a while ;)
- start working out again
- cut back on the ciggy's
- meditate
- find myself spiritually
- start figuring out what the hell i wanna major in
-be happy with who i am, and less about what i am to others
 
Get back to where I was a couple months ago,

Not smoking
Running
Sleeping better
Working hard
Feel something
 
-get a job.
-finish school (1 year left for my BA).
-build a social circle or at least make some friends.
-start working out again.
-move past my shitty memories.
-get a hobby that isn't drug related.
-follow through with my ideas instead of giving up halfway through.
 
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Fall in love.
Stop smoking weed, or at least don't binge on it when I have it.
Think more about other people, help people.
Start a new sport.
Find a purpose in life.
Win the lottery (optional bonus activity)
 
not possible for me. however:

- quitting smokin sucks but is worth it 100% sure of this
- never , yes never touchin an opiate again. I simply do not trust myself nor will I ever again.
- finish up get my personal trainers license
- move the hell outta here , fresh start.
- continue to keep an open mind to whatever the world shows me.
- knock out my last fight , and not end up with 10th concussion.
 
before i can do or even think of that person i want to be, ive got to stop shooting ice into my veins first and foremost. if i can achieve that then i can start making plans to a better me.
 
I have thought about this question alot lately:

~ Quit smoking
~ Quit pills
~ Yoga and Meditation daily
~ Work more
~ Finish my 2nd Bachelors Degree
~ Be a nicer person
~ Spend more time with my mother/family
~ Be a all around better person
 
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