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Bluelighter
It’s hard for me to express emotion, and that means it’s hard for me to even understand what I’m feeling sometimes. Sometimes I manage to figure out what I’m feeling, but then, a second later, my body goes into defense mode, I start overthinking, and I become disconnected from my surroundings, because I’m kind of disconnected from myself. Accepting situations starts to get easier the more I realize that, first of all, everyone is going to die, so what does it matter, and mostly, by talking about it more.
Talking about what you’re experiencing and feeling in this exact moment can be a bit hard, but the moment you manage to put the abstract thoughts running through your head into clear language, you can not only get perspective from someone who sees it less emotionally than you do, but also understand yourself better.
The “filter” process your thoughts go through forces you to organize the chaos running in your head, the same chaos that causes all the pain and suffering. You can’t escape all the shit running in your mind, so you have to be honest with yourself and with the people around you. If you really want to get rid of unnecessary suffering in life, you have to learn how to function inside your own head.
You learn to deal with your thoughts and feelings by diving into the core of the problems created by that chaos in your mind. That means you have to feel a lot of things. This is experience that builds up slowly, after each small challenge in life that you manage to get through. And over time, you start to understand the feelings that come and go.
Feelings just come and go, so you need to focus on the actions you’re taking, the steps you’ve taken so far, and start asking: When did the pain and suffering come in? What’s their source? And how do you act to deal with it?
Once you know when it started, you can begin to look into what change triggered these kinds of negative emotions. When you understand the source, only then can you begin to overcome it. This whole process takes mental energy and forces you to feel the pain and suffering you’ve just been trying to push away until now.
Use the pain and suffering you experience as fuel, as a reason to keep trying. Because when you stay aware of everything, you realize your feelings can’t work against you anymore. The feeling of victory is worth a lot, so imagine beating those feelings every day and proving to yourself that it’s not about how you feel, it’s about how you react.
Let me put it this way: your desire for comfort and to avoid suffering comes from emotions that have no real base except “empty dopamine.” Now see it like this, one feeling makes you feel good in the moment but doesn’t move you forward, and the other feeling makes you uncomfortable in the moment but gives you options for self-improvement, depending on how much suffering and pain you’re willing to accept.
There’s only one thing to do at that stage, you can’t stay stuck and suffer in the same place in life. You have to choose the path of pain and suffering, which means doing what needs to be done when it needs to be done, no matter how you feel.
Along with that, you also have to give your mind some quiet from time to time. That can come in a lot of ways, and I try to mix in as many as possible. And instead of trying to silence the noise, I focus on the quiet that appears inside me when I let my thoughts and feelings pass without judgment.
Judgment can create a lot of irrelevant noise by making you analyze every situation. Instead of just accepting what happened, you start building a judgment in your head about how you’re “supposed” to be in that situation. That only creates more inner resistance and an emotional block, because on one hand, your subconscious feels and thinks one thing, and your conscious mind tries to act according to the judgment it created for itself, so you end up feeling and thinking something else. That lack of alignment creates a lot of internal dialogue and just confuses you even more.
type shi tho
You can focus on quiet even when there’s noise around you, but internal noise has to be silenced. If there’s no order in your mind, it will never accept the facts you think you should just be reminding yourself of. Inner quiet brings mental calm, meaning the negative feelings won’t be as intense, because you’ll be able to catch negative patterns of judgment, bad habits, intrusive thoughts, or whatever else comes your way much earlier, and in doing so, save yourself pain and suffering in the future.
Talking about what you’re experiencing and feeling in this exact moment can be a bit hard, but the moment you manage to put the abstract thoughts running through your head into clear language, you can not only get perspective from someone who sees it less emotionally than you do, but also understand yourself better.
The “filter” process your thoughts go through forces you to organize the chaos running in your head, the same chaos that causes all the pain and suffering. You can’t escape all the shit running in your mind, so you have to be honest with yourself and with the people around you. If you really want to get rid of unnecessary suffering in life, you have to learn how to function inside your own head.
You learn to deal with your thoughts and feelings by diving into the core of the problems created by that chaos in your mind. That means you have to feel a lot of things. This is experience that builds up slowly, after each small challenge in life that you manage to get through. And over time, you start to understand the feelings that come and go.
Feelings just come and go, so you need to focus on the actions you’re taking, the steps you’ve taken so far, and start asking: When did the pain and suffering come in? What’s their source? And how do you act to deal with it?
Once you know when it started, you can begin to look into what change triggered these kinds of negative emotions. When you understand the source, only then can you begin to overcome it. This whole process takes mental energy and forces you to feel the pain and suffering you’ve just been trying to push away until now.
Use the pain and suffering you experience as fuel, as a reason to keep trying. Because when you stay aware of everything, you realize your feelings can’t work against you anymore. The feeling of victory is worth a lot, so imagine beating those feelings every day and proving to yourself that it’s not about how you feel, it’s about how you react.
Let me put it this way: your desire for comfort and to avoid suffering comes from emotions that have no real base except “empty dopamine.” Now see it like this, one feeling makes you feel good in the moment but doesn’t move you forward, and the other feeling makes you uncomfortable in the moment but gives you options for self-improvement, depending on how much suffering and pain you’re willing to accept.
There’s only one thing to do at that stage, you can’t stay stuck and suffer in the same place in life. You have to choose the path of pain and suffering, which means doing what needs to be done when it needs to be done, no matter how you feel.
Along with that, you also have to give your mind some quiet from time to time. That can come in a lot of ways, and I try to mix in as many as possible. And instead of trying to silence the noise, I focus on the quiet that appears inside me when I let my thoughts and feelings pass without judgment.
Judgment can create a lot of irrelevant noise by making you analyze every situation. Instead of just accepting what happened, you start building a judgment in your head about how you’re “supposed” to be in that situation. That only creates more inner resistance and an emotional block, because on one hand, your subconscious feels and thinks one thing, and your conscious mind tries to act according to the judgment it created for itself, so you end up feeling and thinking something else. That lack of alignment creates a lot of internal dialogue and just confuses you even more.
type shi tho
You can focus on quiet even when there’s noise around you, but internal noise has to be silenced. If there’s no order in your mind, it will never accept the facts you think you should just be reminding yourself of. Inner quiet brings mental calm, meaning the negative feelings won’t be as intense, because you’ll be able to catch negative patterns of judgment, bad habits, intrusive thoughts, or whatever else comes your way much earlier, and in doing so, save yourself pain and suffering in the future.
