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What constitutes cheating to you?

Apart form the obvious, flirting, holding hands, kissing, and so on, constitutes cheating. I do not want to lose my girl for one kiss. Not for one second.
 
Ok some interesting replies regarding role reversal. The pic that I 'liked' was of some random lass, no name no nothing just a random pic of someone, nothing more. Of the roles were reversed I really hand on heart wouldn't be bothered....
T.calderone - you guessed it! :/ except no one got cut. When I grabbed hold of her she went for me! Luckily I'm far too strong for her. But still.... No she's not getting help because she says 'your trying to change me' etc
 
What do you have to do to prove that you're not cheating? Her history is sad and I know you want to help her with her past trauma. But if she refuses to seek counseling and get help, her future looks bleak. Like the proverbial "you can lead a horse to drink.."

Did the police make a report about this? Or the other things she's done to hurt herself? I'm asking because some women, especially when they have mental disorders will try and turn it around and say you beat her. She could start cutting herself again and blame you for it. I'm not sure how this type of situation works in the UK.
 
What people who are in a relationship together consider to be cheating is different for everyone.

Is your girlfriend very insecure, or insecure about your relationship?

I can see why she reacted the way she did even though you just commented on a picture of someone on the internet, if she's very insecure about herself or your relationship together. How old is she? This is a major red flag and it's not good she tried to attack or hurt you apparently. :\
 
PTCH - yeh a few weeks back she slashed all her arm up. And I mean proper cut herself up! Then this time during the argument I hid the knife block but she got one out the draw luckily it took her a few secs to get one, so I was able to stop her yet she tried to go for me with it....
Thing is she is controlling me to the point I feel like I'm walking on egg shells, her gran died Friday and I was working I downed tools and got another lad to stop and he took me 80 miles to be with her as she had gone in the morning in the car to see her gran but she had died Thursday night.
I dunno what to do. All you saying about role reversal I couldn't care if she did, I did nothing sleazy or post any comment that could even be seen as inappropriate!
 
It seems like she will always have an excuse for her bad behavior. You keep getting sucked in to being her caretaker and this is not a healthy relationship. Maybe she did have a shitty upbringing but she needs to move ahead and get help. She's dragging you down and this should be the happiest time of your life without the burden of worrying what's going to set her off next.
 
mr.buffnstuff said:
PTCH - yeh a few weeks back she slashed all her arm up. And I mean proper cut herself up! Then this time during the argument I hid the knife block but she got one out the draw luckily it took her a few secs to get one, so I was able to stop her yet she tried to go for me with it....
Thing is she is controlling me to the point I feel like I'm walking on egg shells, her gran died Friday and I was working I downed tools and got another lad to stop and he took me 80 miles to be with her as she had gone in the morning in the car to see her gran but she had died Thursday night.
I dunno what to do. All you saying about role reversal I couldn't care if she did, I did nothing sleazy or post any comment that could even be seen as inappropriate!
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oh damn...I just realized. Are you the guy with the girlfriend who cut herself up with the kitchen knife? I remember that thread. This is the same girl? Holy shit.
 
This just doesn't seem like a healthy relationship in general. I vaguely remember that thread about her cutting herself with the kitchen knife as well. I'm pretty sure I suggested leaving her then. There seems to be many issues.

Getting jealous over "liking" a pic is hardly worthwhile being jealous of. I certainly wouldn't get upset if my boyfriend did that nor would I expect him to get upset with me if I did that. That being said, we have a pretty trusting relationship when it comes to things like that. We can acknowledge that our friends and random people are good looking, to each other. As long as he isn't physical (kissing, etc.) with that person, it's okay. Or if he says "omg I was to fuck her" then I might get upset. But we both know that there are TONS of other attractive people in the world. So we both appreciate other attractive men and women.

Maybe if he started an online relationship with another woman, that might be borderline cheating. But I'd wonder why he'd feel the need to, you know. But looking at pics, "liking" them on facebook, etc. ... not a big deal to me. But I can see how a very jealous person would be upset with that.
 
I know :( she got in last night from doing a trial for a new job around 10:30 I had stayed up so I could see how I went but she was just mardy. I'm up before 6 for work so was shattered so went to bed, she came up and wouldn't let me sleep just kept arguing till early this morning.
Now I feel fucked and I'm a supervisor! I can't even think straight I'm so tired! I'm not allowed to go to sleep tonight till she will let me! This can't go on!
 
what is cheating in your opinion?

Got inspiration from this thread and searched a bit, didn't find broader thread with the same subject.

So I will start one now. What is cheating for you? Kissing? Hugging? Dirty texts? Phone sex?

For me... I don't think sex is definitely cheating. I believe that sex can be an act without feelings involved and I don't consider "meaningless sex" cheating.

But for me crossing the line is falling in love with someone else. If he/she doesn't want ot wake up next to me anymore, or wants to talk about his/her day with someone else... even if there isn't anything physical, FOR ME it would be cheating and definite dealbreaker.

What about you?
 
mr.buffnstuff said:
I know :( she got in last night from doing a trial for a new job around 10:30 I had stayed up so I could see how I went but she was just mardy. I'm up before 6 for work so was shattered so went to bed, she came up and wouldn't let me sleep just kept arguing till early this morning.
Now I feel fucked and I'm a supervisor! I can't even think straight I'm so tired! I'm not allowed to go to sleep tonight till she will let me! This can't go on!
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You have to end that. That is just no way to live. Personally, someone like that would affect my mental well-being. I can't even be around those kinds of people for longer than a few minutes. I don't know how you can still be with her.
 
I wasn't even flirting just clicked like on a random pic! :/
FFs! She just been to the hospital and text me... When she punched the wall on sat night she broke her hand! She's trying to get into work.... Good luck with a bust hand! Arghhh! I'm losing my fucking rag here!!!!!
 
Lysis said:
I can't even be around those kinds of people for longer than a few minutes. I don't know how you can still be with her.
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This. Like Lysis, I can't even be around those kinds of people, I can't be manipulated.

I strongly advise you to dump her and move on. She seems to be abusing you in more than one way, and I can't see any reason why you should put up with that.
 
Easier said than done! We live together and if I ever suggested it she would try n kill herself! :( we do get on so well tho! We are like 2 peas in a pod! It's just this controlling shit! I'm not even allowed Facebook anymore!
 
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