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What can I do to ease this kid?

Casezilla

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My friend Andy is a cool kid and all, but he's a bit of a shy kid. He doesn't have too many friends, you know, and he does fairly about in social settings. Whenever he gets high, he gets very paranoid, and COMPLETELY changes his personality. If he is in a VERY (I mean 100%) comfortable situation, he appears to do fine, but when anything is out of place, he freaks out. For example, the other day, he was hanging out with like four of his closest friends, and he started crying becuase there were "too many people."

Contrary to this, I've seen him drunk and high once, and he was going absolutely nuts, talking to EVERYONE, and making quite the fool of himself.

Anyways, he says he likes pot, but I am not sure I believe him. What can I do/say to ease the kid, next time I smoke with him?
 
tell him to try smoking a bit less so you dont have to deal with waterworks? obviously being drunk takes away your shyness, along with your intelligence, so that goes without saying.

ive never had anyone burst into tears being around 4 close friends because there were "too many people" so i honestly have no idea. maybe you should ask him how he feels about that? could have been a short lived feeling and generally he likes being high, might be just that everyone else gets high and likes it so therefore he likes getting high too in his head.
 
Yeah, I'd agree with Eldaren, tell him to try smoking a little less. However, maybe he should just take a break from smoking marijuana until he figures out why he's experiencing so much anxiety.

On another note, try giving him 1mg of xanax and then smoke with him. I bet he'll have a fantastic time.
 
just had another thought... does he smoke alone a lot?

i used to be a VERY shy person (that went out the window a while ago but thats irrelevent) and i used to avoid smoking weed if id have to deal with social situations because it was WAY too hard for me. when you already find it hard to spit out what you want to say, being stoned definitely doesnt help. also, is he forced to participate in conversation etc? in my earlier days chit chat used to bother me a lot depending on how i was feeling at the time, and some people just dont know when to shut up. sometimes being shy is just a preference to thinking, rather than saying the first stupid thing that comes to mind.
 
Weed isn't for everyone ...

Or if he still wants to smoke tell him to have a few beers to calm the nerves or take some Xanax

But I really don't think weed is for him period . He could have something seriously wroomg with him as well maybe ?
 
It sounds like this guy would be better off just drinking, smoking don't really seem to be his cup of tea.
 
It sounds a lot like social anxiety disorder. I get the same way, just I haven't been reduced to tears. The marijuana probably doesn't mix well. He should see a doctor about it. If thats unrealistic, they sell benzos (xanax) on the street. He should try it. It works wonders for me. (Don't take too much!)
 
He could have a low level of Aspergers which is magnified when he smokes. My cousin has Aspergers and has problems coping in social situations and when things arent as he's used to, his is quite severe but i do know it exists in less severe forms.

......but this is speculation only, can't really tell from what you've said. Here's some more info if your interested

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndrome

Try getting him in the same situation as last time (the 5 of you) and only let him smoke a small amount at first and see if he reacts the same as before. It could just be that he's smoking too much to be able to comfortably deal with. If your smoking cones, try a pipe or J next time (if you already are, just try to cut down on the amount he smokes)
 
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Yeah, I'd agree with Eldaren, tell him to try smoking a little less. However, maybe he should just take a break from smoking marijuana until he figures out why he's experiencing so much anxiety.

On another note, try giving him 1mg of xanax and then smoke with him. I bet he'll have a fantastic time.

I agree with this post, up until the 1mg of Xanax. If he's benzo intolerant, wouldn't that be a "bit much?" I would start him off around .25 mg's or so, just to see how he handles it, and if it works for him. And if it doesn't, at least he won't blackout, you know? But, that's just my opinion. Lol.


But, I agree with everybody else. Have him try smoking just a bit less, and see how he handles it. Just try it in a setting that he's really comfortable in. Close friends, good music, nothing to worry about, etc. And just go from there.

Or maybe hook him up with like a gram of herb or something.. and have him smoke by himself, or just the two of you. Just to test the waters.

But, when you guys all smoke together, is he pressured into smoking? Or is it just his choice? Because if he's being pressured into smoking with you guys, that could also play into his anxiety/paranoia issues as well.
 
i think i used to be like this kid a lot too...shy and never really wanting to talk to anyone. Socially Awkward you might put it...but something that seems to always do the trick could be smoking some indica dominant strains (the body/mellowed out sit around do nothing) high...and maybe a few shots of hard liquor <3 just for fun
 
It sounds a lot like social anxiety disorder. I get the same way, just I haven't been reduced to tears. The marijuana probably doesn't mix well. He should see a doctor about it. If thats unrealistic, they sell benzos (xanax) on the street. He should try it. It works wonders for me. (Don't take too much!)

Ya I'm thinking Social Anxiety Disorder. Bud just increases any anxiety you're feeling, and smoking bud in social situations with SAD generally makes you appear to be an incomprehensible stuttering idiot. Breaking into tears is a bit extreme, so I don't really no what to think of that. It could be a more extreme case of SAD or it could be something completely different.

As previously stated, try limitting how much he smokes next time, and see how he feels. Also, smoking alone at home can really give one a feel for the positive aspects of the buzz.

I would definitely NOT recommend any benzos unless you're sure your friend has enough self control to take them responsibly.
 
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give him some benzos iv got a friend like this and he takes 2mgs os xanax and hes great

Do the exact opposite of this.




Sounds like your friend should stop smoking or smoke a lot less until he can properly handle it. I'm 23 and am never shy, but pass a blunt with me and you'll think I left the room, I get really quiet, really paranoid, and just generally don't want to say a word. It happens.

Now if I smoke I take like half a hit, that's how low my tolerance is. And believe me, I still enjoy it as much as the next time but getting too high for me equals no fun.

However, I used to be a major pothead back when I was younger and this only happened to me when I first started smoking or my tolerance went down again.

Sounds like your friend just needs to smoke less is what i'm saying here. I find the buzz from a tiny bit of pot to be relaxing, anymore than that and I became withdrawn, and paranoid.

my .02
 
it sounds a bit unfortunately like me - i have schizophrenia and before i was medicated i would be very antisocial - my whole life.. weed would make me nervous and uncomfortable at times - but booze makes me go talkative..
i think he needs a professional diagnoses..
 
just go to his mom, be like:
yo, your kid got some mad problems whenever we get super fucked up off our asses. i mean, hes like jumping off the fucking wall and acting crazy.

but seriously,

-mixing amphetamines and weed is a horrible come down, but ive only mixed with vyvanse and weed so maybe legit adderol and weed may actually calm him down.

-or maybe get a heavy indica to make him drowsy as fuck and that may calm him down. Try not to get sativa (although it is the absolute best) because sativa makes you very energetic.

-maybe you are smoking too much ( or too little )

but the thing that is guaranteed to work is dont let him smoke.
... how old is he?

....to be an incompreHensible stuttering Idiot. BrEaking into teaRs is a bit extreme, sO I don't really no what to..... ....SAD or it could be somethinG compLetelY different.

As Previously.... .....limitting How much he smokes next time, and see.... ....can really gIve one a... ...positive aspeCtS of the ....

HIEROGLYPHICS!
 
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Just get some speed and make a snow cone of his bowl, then he'll be right as rain.
 
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