How I am now going
Well I haven't really posted for awhile (none of you probably remember me anyway!) so I thought I would let you all know how I am going on my 'break'. I think that at the start the aim of my break was that I was going to take something when my friend came up in April (that was about 3 weeks into my break) and then nothing for a 6 months or so. Well I guess that plan didn't really work for me but what I ended up doing was just not doing it every wkend like i had but instead increased the no and length of my breaks. After the April party, I waited prob. 3 weeks, then 3 again as a going away thing when my a friend of mine had a going away thing, then prob. 4 weeks when I went down to Melbourne for a fantastic holiday!! It has now been nearly 4 weeks since I dropped again and feel no urge!! (Only when I think of really good nights out!)
Anyway what I am trying to say is that at first I was disappointed when I dropped in Melbourne...I had thought I can make it over 4 weeks this time since I hadn't last time and really beat myself up about it. Then I thought..."why do i have to set specific periods for my breaks that seem out of reach like 2 months, 6 months etc" Even though I end up dropping after a little while I seem to be able to control to not drop again until some time later and sometimes I don't even feel the urge (like now). So I am in a better position than what I was a few months ago when I 'HAD' to do it every wkend....this time I am actually controlling it. I know that I can still have a little fun and not rule it out completely by going cold turkey.
To me taking a pill every few weeks is moderation...It feels great to be in control!! I am getting on with my life, getting stuck into uni and not thinking about getting wasted which is great but I also know that if I wanted to I could have a bit of fun this wkend but still not lose control like I used to....i have come to realise that 'less really is more'! I am finally realising what its like to not find normal life boring again! And catching up with old friends i never saw and doing things (like sport) that I couldn't be bothered doing on wkends!
so I guess to those who are on a self imposed break of 6 months or so and are finding it hard to keep and its only the second week or something...(!)...just take it one day/week at a time....try and just space it out more instead of stopping cold turkey and you will eventually be comfortable with just taking it once every month or so and then perhaps less. I am not saying it's easy but it can be done
I know this seems obvious to a lot of you but I guess it took me a little while to realise this...
Cheers!