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Blulite12

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I passed my drug test and a couple of days later i decided to enjoy a couple of bowls after going to the gym. I hid everything and the smell and decided to watch Sunny n Phili , i had 3 shots and felt like taking a nap. When i woke up my parents were shouting and somehow knew that i had taken drugs. *i was drooling on the couch a little bit but they thught i almost suffocated on vomit* after a bunch of yelling my dad started hitting me and put his hand around my neck but it was shortly broken up. My dad started walking away and called me a "useless piece of shit junkie" and i said "smoking weed doesnt make you a junkie" His face looked angry and he started charging at me (looked like he was about to try to beat the shit out of me) and i got scared so i pulled a knife and we wrestled and his arm unintentialy got cut.

Should I do something about it? Should I leave it alone? Or is it my fault for being a "junkie"?
 
anyways. it's not your fault op. i don't understand why your parents would get worked up over some weed. my parents are pretty conservative and they were still pretty understanding the first time they found out i was blazing. unfortunately it was me getting caught by narcotics officers but nonetheless.

i don't think you should ever be put in a situation where you have to defend yourself with a weapon against your parents. it's time to start considering options (moving out, calling the appropriate authorities, etc).

just a question or two. why did you have a drug test? and how old are you?

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How did the fight stop op? I think that you should apologize to your dad I mean he was at fault too but pulling out a knife was definitely not the right thing to do. I agree with baoozs that your father was wrong in the kind of discipline he should have done.

You are living in your parents house so you have to respect the rules they have. I think that the best option for you is to move out.
 
How old are you OP? Do you have options for leaving their house and becoming completely independent? Remember, they can't stop you from leaving no matter what they say. How likely is it that he'll react this way to something else?

You should never, ever have to be put in a position where you have to take up defense against a parent. He was completely in the wrong, not you (apart from smoking in their house/breaking the rules. It's such a fucked up situation with the way cannabis use is viewed). If you leave it alone then he goes unaccountable, but you also have to consider that he was the one who has the visible physical injury so you will be starting a shitstorm if you try to do something like talking to the police.
 
your parents are afraid. they know you are under the influence of "something" and as a parent myself, that notion is fucking scary. its a balancing act, with two options. either your child is going to experiment with mind altering substances, go through that phase of their life and come out of it, able to function legally and sensibly in society based on the social and legal constraints placed on us all. OR they are going to be unable to control the mind escape that drugs/alcohol provide and live a very difficult existence that negatively involves (sometimes the wrong people) the law and moulds their entire future and actions from therein. its a fucking tightrope. and while im sure you just want everyone around you to accept whats going on, and trust that you "got dis"; the people that love you have seen many innocents, very much like you (and undeserving) go down as a result of simple "experimentation" or "hard times" and later be deemed as criminals. their fear is simply a result of experience and knowing what outcome results (with even the most innocent and honest of people).

violence and aggression is not the answer in expressing fear/concern, nor will it aid later communication between you and your family at this stage; but please dont give up op. everyone involved is at a heightened state of emotion and sadly when that occurs, we tend to shit fight it out before reaching an understanding and mutual conclusion. this is just a stepping stone. youll get through this. <3

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I'm 17 and I had my test last Sunday. It was the second time I got caught, the first time my friend and I were hanging out in the back yard but then had to go cuz my dad came home early and looked like he was ready to fight him and then he called the cops on me but thats a different story. I had a drug test the day after I got caught, my dad told the school and made us pay $100 for the test even though I already addmitted it. And it's not like I grabbed the knife and lunged at him, I held it in my hand while he was coming just in case because I was scared and didn't want to get hit or choked out.
 
I dont condone what your father did, but when a somewhat out of control situation has a weapon added to it it can turn real bad and irreversible real quick. Your almost grown so I would get your own place when you are able so you can have your freedom. Until then I would nock of the drugs if thats what your father wants as you are at his place.. if thats unacceptable then get your own place.
 
The weird thing is my parents dont care at all if I get wasted, which I rarely do and only with friends, even to the point of puking and passing out. But if a little bit of weed gets involved they go crazy
 
Blulite12 said:
The weird thing is my parents dont care at all if I get wasted, which I rarely do and only with friends, even to the point of puking and passing out. But if a little bit of weed gets involved they go crazy
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Yeah public acceptance is completely backwards when it comes to cannabis. And your parents are being rather hypocritical if they let you get wasted whenever you want.

Maybe try talking to your mother and showing her some scientific research done on cannabis. You might have a chance of getting through to her, but your father is a lost cause from the sounds of it.

By the way, just ignore One Thousand Words.
 
My mom and brother were there and saw the thing, and I was standing far away with the knife, he still charged at me and I didn't stab him. He tried grabbing the knife away from me even though I didn't use it. I held onto it because I didn't know what he would have done if I didn't have anything to defend myself.. He just has a small cut on his forearm, I have a bruise on my head, cut lip, and marks on where he chocked me. I thought about leaving it alone but next weekend my dad and I are going to be in my house alone for the entire week. I just told my school counselor, hopefully it was the right thing to do.

And I know that I shouldn't be smoking, drinking, or doing any drugs at this age and it's "their house their rules" but beating the shit out of your own kid for weed and alcohol seems juuust a little too extreme. And I'm a senior in high-school that smokes weed, is that uncommon?

Strangely he is actually pro-weed and thinks that it should be legal for 21+ year olds to do it. He showed me his bong when I was 12 and said that he has an ounce in my basement. Weird...
 
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My mom and brother were there and saw the thing, and I was standing far away with the knife, he still charged at me and I didn't stab him. He tried grabbing the knife away from me even though I didn't use it. I held onto it because I didn't know what he would have done if I didn't have anything to defend myself.. He just has a small cut on his forearm, I have a bruise on my head, cut lip, and marks on where he chocked me. I thought about leaving it alone but next weekend my dad and I are going to be in my house alone for the entire week. I just told my school counselor, hopefully it was the right thing to do.

And I know that I shouldn't be smoking, drinking, or doing any drugs at this age and it's "their house their rules" but beating the shit out of your own kid for weed and alcohol seems juuust a little too extreme. And I'm a senior in high-school that smokes weed, is that uncommon?
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it's not uncommon at all. i think you've done the right thing in contacting your school counselor. for now i think you should stay away from smoking weed so you don't run the risk catching another beating. it's sad that it has to come to that and it's certainly not your fault but it's better than getting beaten up. study hard, make sure you get into a good college/university so you can get on your own feet and move out as soon as possible. the faster you can do that the quicker you can have him out of your life.

is this an isolated incident or has this happened before?
 
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He usually just yells a lot, the only time he used force was this time and when he tried to attack my other friend but failed.

I don't think the police cared that much about the beating, it seemed to me as though they thought because I was high the fight was justifiable and the conversation soon turned into a question of should they send me to a rehab, did I cause this problem by smoking weed, and where did I buy from.

I guess I'll just quit weed until the summer. My mom explained to me how weed "messes up your brain irreversibly and makes you stupid like ecstasy" so there's no getting through both of them.
 
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sometimes parents act on their impulses out of frustration. it doesn't make it right at all but as long as it's a one time incident i think you can tip toe around it if you don't smoke weed in the house. some parents don't understand that the best way to raise a kid is to simply be their friend.

just get high at your friends house or whatever. maybe even at home in the back yard when they're asleep. just don't nod out, and don't neglect school/college.
 
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How did the fight stop op? I think that you should apologize to your dad I mean he was at fault too but pulling out a knife was definitely not the right thing to do.
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Why? If someone's beating you you have the right to defend yourself, even if it's a family member. Best advice I can think of OP is to get the hell out as soon as you can. You'll be 18 soon and that means that your parents have no legal rights over you. Your family environment sounds extremely toxic and dysfunctional.
 
Dude you're 17, right? I don't know your father and HOW violent he is but IMO pulling a knife on your own dad (who clearly cares about you) is a pretty insane thing to do. The only time you should ever be pulling a knife on anyone is when you feel that your LIFE IS BEING THREATENED. Don't get me wrong, your dad is going about parenting the wrong way if he feels like putting his hands on your neck is going to solve anything... but listen man... maybe you're over-reacting to HIS anger and getting more scared than you should be. Has he ever beaten you before? Not just like a slap on the face I mean actually BEATEN you? If he HAS, then that's a different story and you might want to consider talking to somebody about it (your mom, other family members like aunts and uncles etc).

But for the future... please don't be pulling knives on anyone unless you seriously think they're going to try and kill you. Mistakes happen (shit one happened between you and your pops) and you don't want that mistake to be severe or even fatal.
 
Im 17 too. I will in no way condone what your dad did, but you and me both know what we can do to change this. You dont want a violent relationship with your parents, its so awful. Just dont smoke weed until you are out of their control. And dont hurt your dad, he just cares and shows it in an awfully stupid and hurtful way.
 
I was incredibly drunk and out of it to consider the repercussions of pulling a knife I just felt scared and threatened and did the only thing I could come up with in that second. I know it was wrong for me to pull the knife during a situation that most likely would not have been fatal but sh*t happens and I can't take it back. And yeah I'm quitting weed. Apparently my dad didn't even know about the weed and just thought I was drunk...but yeah I'll just quit weed for this year unless I go to after prom or another huge event.
 
Your parents sound like savage animals. Anyone who responds to feelings of concern about someone with violence against that person is mentally deranged. You need to begin to provide for yourself and sever all dependence on them. Get emancipated if necessary.
 
Yeah my dad is a nut but even though my mom sometimes overreacts I understand her concern.
 
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