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alcoholic333

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So a girl who dumped me after dating a year a few months ago, we went to lunch. She cheated on me with the guy she is with now and has been for awhile. After lunch she wanted a massage in her car then put my hands down her shirt and pants and kissed. We went to my place to fuck but people were there and she didn't want anyone to know.

So nothing else happened but a few days later I told her new bf via Facebook exactly what happened. I have never met the guy or anything. Was this a dick move? I don't know why I went to lunch with her, guess I kind of miss her but still have tons of resentment built up
 
Yeah, total dick move. Now your chances of getting laid from this check are nil.
 
Well, it was a good way of taking revenge. I don't know if this is part of the so called "man code", which by the way usually doesn't really apply in real life but whatever. It certainly was a good way of letting her know a) that you're still not totally over her and b) to get the fuck away from you. I¡m not saying it was a good or a bad thing to do, I could have done the same thing if I didn't want anything else to do with the girl and I was still upset. BUT, you never know what the future might bring and it's a shame that you dismissed this buddy call possibility.
 
Pretty much what Cyc said. She's a shithead for cheating on her BF and you, but ya know, ya didn't have to get into the car with her. "I want a massage" was code for "let's do naughty things." If you didn't see that coming, consider this one of life's lessons that most people mean more than what they say, especially when it comes to cheating.
 
Basically everything was a bad move. Going for lunch was OK. But putting your hands down her shirt, bad. Telling her boyfriend, bad. That's for him to learn for himself.

I find that it's best to avoid people who cheat, in general.

I guess you got revenge though, if that's what you were looking for. That isn't really good though.
 
I can't understand what is so bad about that behaviour. You could call it cunning or even evil if you will, but mind that she was the one who cheated on OP with her now bf, and again she was the one who made the first move in this incident. It's surely not a gentleman's deed but this isn't the situation to be gentle in. She made her bed, now she has to sleep in it. Pun intended. Same for the new guy.

I think it's absolutely acceptable.
 
I don't think he believes me, blocked me on Facebook but I was never friends with the guy, just know his name. It made me feel really good. BEen having horrid luck with women in general lately anyway. Had a girl I would see once a week to talk and fuck, after about ten visits I told her I really like her and she wanted nothin to do with me after.
 
VanWeyden said:
I can't understand what is so bad about that behaviour. You could call it cunning or even evil if you will, but mind that she was the one who cheated on OP with her now bf, and again she was the one who made the first move in this incident. It's surely not a gentleman's deed but this isn't the situation to be gentle in. She made her bed, now she has to sleep in it. Pun intended. Same for the new guy.

I think it's absolutely acceptable.
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I second Herr VanWeyden. It was a pretty bad ass move, it was Machiavellian. IMO, that is good thing.
 
Well I'm sure you will find out if he believed you or not by whether or not your ex calls you bitching you out.

I wouldn't have told the dude, but that's just me. If I ever did though, I wouldn't do it via facebook. Now the guy has your information whereas before he didn't.
Also, he did you dirty so you did him dirty back. Your whore of an ex did you both dirty though.
 
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I second Herr VanWeyden. It was a pretty bad ass move, it was Machiavellian. IMO, that is good thing.
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Thanks man I thought it was pretty bad ass too. I have a bunch of
Old pics of my dick in her mouth too but figured doin anything with those is going too far, less anyone can convince me otherwise?
 
I'd be dumping those photo's on /b/ right now! Make her into an unwitting internet porn star, with thousands of neckbearded virgins furiously fapping away to her, ejaculating on their screen as to give her a virtual facial.

A sweeter revenge and trolling then that is hard to come up with.
 
If she is of age, and the sex and photograph where consensual, it is not a penal/criminal offense here in Canada. But it could create civil liability in theory, but how likely is she to pursue a civil suit against you? Even then, you are probably protected by the common law principle that something which is genuine and truth that has not been exaggerated is not libel or defamation per se.

But I am no lawyer, the above is just a generality.
 
I agree with llama112 on all fronts.

alcoholic333 said:
figured doin anything with those is going too far, less anyone can convince me otherwise?
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Why potentially ruin someone else's life and possibly yours (if it backfires legally or other)? Once you put them online you may never be able to undo that. I think it'd be despicable thing to do.
 
I personnaly wouldn't put the pictures online... I think that crosses the border between being machiavellian and being a blunt asshole...
 
same- its too over the top. you seem very bitter and while its understandable how is it making YOUR life that much better. move on, you've thrown them a spanner in the works, move on as their relationship probably will fall apart in time through the big injection of insecurity this has caused
 
I'm not sure of how the legal system works in your country, but is Australia you would def not be liable for defamation (or anything else really) given the information you relayed to this chick's bf is the truth!

Fuck her, you totally did the right thing and are also doing her current partner a favour by revealing to him the kind of woman he is with. If anything, you have done your bit to society so I take my hat off to you sir!
 
alcoholic333 said:
Thanks man I thought it was pretty bad ass too. I have a bunch of
Old pics of my dick in her mouth too but figured doin anything with those is going too far, less anyone can convince me otherwise?
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It seems you've already done enough to express how petty and bitter you feel towards this girl. Maybe you should just let it go and feel humble that you got a hookup out of it.
 
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