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Wanting to ask a girl out at work.

Blowingclouldzzz

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Hi y'all,

I want to ask this girl out, we work at the same place but she's a security guard. I can tell she is into me, 1 major sign is she is so interested in me that she smiles and acts quirky and talks to me (small talk but still) and once she askes what im doing for the weekend and the next week she asked abd remembered about it. I didn't lol.

It's been say? 2.5 weeks of being flirty, when she sees me (shes a door and access security and signs you off and opens the door for you and check your bags if you stole anything. ) her eyes brightens up and etc..

I asked her age and surprising we're basically the same age, and we had a lovely awkward silence after that.

I was gonna ask her out today because if its left too late she'll lose interest.

Anyways i am going to ask "you seem like a cool/awesome and very alluring person... would you like to go out sometime and get to know eachother more if that interests you?

If shes silent then i will quickly add on " or do you have snapchat or whatsapp"?

What do you guys think? Any advice and opnions is greatly appreciated.

Thanks and warmest regards, J. 🥰
 
Anyways i am going to ask "you seem like a cool/awesome and very alluring person... would you like to go out sometime and get to know eachother more if that interests you?

I wouldn't even say that much.

Definitely not the alluring part.

Just straight up ask her.

Even if it's all kind adjectives, don't give her any reason to think you're taking it more seriously than it is at this point.

Also, in saying she's awesome / whatever, that might make her feel pressure to hold up that expectation.

And yet another perspective: she may think it's phony
 
You don't have to tell her she's alluring, if you've both been flirty she knows that. Best not to say that, or indeed try to spin any kind of 'sexy' chat-up line, that usually comes out cheesy and/or sleazy and doesn't go down well. In fact, don't try for a chat-up line at all. Don't script something in your head. Just give her your best smile and simply ask her if she'd like to go out with you sometime.
 
You don't have to tell her she's alluring, if you've both been flirty she knows that. Best not to say that, or indeed try to spin any kind of 'sexy' chat-up line, that usually comes out cheesy and/or sleazy and doesn't go down well. In fact, don't try for a chat-up line at all. Don't script something in your head. Just give her your best smile and simply ask her if she'd like to go out with you sometime.
Ok good, that i asked.

Ill take out those words. I added that on cos she's like European or someshit with a cool as accent, so id assume her vocabulary is different to here.

*smile, look her in the eyes and say*
" uh hey would you like to go out sometime, get to know eachother if that interests you?

Would that be good and whens the best time. Usually when i was younger in my early 20s i just ask whenever i feeel is right, meaning anytime 😄

Thanks i hope shes in today.
 
*smile, look her in the eyes and say*
" uh hey would you like to go out sometime, get to know eachother if that interests you?

Would that be good

If that's how you normally talk, then yes.

But if you threw the "uh" in there to act casual, lose it.

Be yourself because if it ever lasts, that is why. If you're looking to get laid, be as phony as you want.
 
Ok good, that i asked.

Ill take out those words. I added that on cos she's like European or someshit with a cool as accent, so id assume her vocabulary is different to here.

*smile, look her in the eyes and say*
" uh hey would you like to go out sometime, get to know eachother if that interests you?

Would that be good and whens the best time. Usually when i was younger in my early 20s i just ask whenever i feeel is right, meaning anytime 😄

Thanks i hope shes in today.
Leave out 'if that interests you'. You're not proposing a business venture. Xd

Obviously don't ask her when she's clearly distracted with some task. I'd go for lunch break or whatever, dunno if there's a canteen or if people at your workplace all gravitate to the nearest coffee shop, or take smoke breaks, whatever... So make it so you stand next to her without very obviously 'marching up' to her and just ask. Don't complicate shit and don't try to impress and be extra witty or something. Remember how when you were a kid and you liked someone you'd just go, 'hey, you wanna be friends?' In the same natural, simple direct way ask her if she'd like to go out. You can add 'I know a real nice restaurant' (provided you actually do). Just don't sweat it.
 
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**I apologize, not accusing you of being phony.

All I want for you, and everyone, is to know that putting yourself out there and finding someone who accepts all of you, is beautiful.

Not to hijack, but I do that to a fault. I over-share. I got banned from tinder and bumble for what I thought was lighthearted banter, but my current girlfriend knows I'm a fucking creeping lunatic so I'm very, very happy.

I wish you the best.
 
I wouldn't even say that much.

Definitely not the alluring part.

Just straight up ask her.

Even if it's all kind adjectives, don't give her any reason to think you're taking it more seriously than it is at this point.

Also, in saying she's awesome / whatever, that might make her feel pressure to hold up that expectation.

And yet another perspective: she may think it's phony


Yeah ok so I'm going with the quick simple and easy one

"Would you like to go out sometime, get to know eachother more if that interests you?"

What do you think?

Also she's from a European country i forgot and has a accent similar to russian but shes definitely not. I can tell shes so goofy and quirky that shes very kind. So take that into account aswell.

Abd if she rejects me id just say its ok and smile especially if she does say sorry in a puppy face.

Thanks for the reply.

Warmest regards, J*s*n 😄
 
Jisan,

If it interested her, she'd say yes.

It's just unnecessary fluff that could cause unneeded confusion.

Edit: the "if you're interested" part
 
If she’s not from there (European?) then you could also offer to show her around. As others said, don’t overthink it, just ask casually.

-GC
 
What do you think?

i think you are overthinking it.

don't plan what to say and guess what she'll say next so you know what to say after that etc.

it's a recipe for disappointment.

why not try having anything planned? just wait until you see her, embrace the moment and go talk to her and ask her out?

maybe you fumble it a little. maybe it doesn't quite come out the way you expect. but it'll be pure you in the moment.

alasdair
 
No
I mean, you're asking her out.

Yes = interested.

No = not.

Asking if she's interested is just fluff.
No i meant, if it interest'S you as in if thats ok.

Should i knock that off?

Shes been here for 23 years but still got the accent.

Gimme some good quick lines.. anyone or is mine good.

The" would you like to go out sometime and get to know eachother, if that interest's you?"

I should take off the last part should i?
 
No

No i meant, if it interest'S you as in if thats ok.

Should i knock that off?

Shes been here for 23 years but still got the accent.

Gimme some good quick lines.. anyone or is mine good.

The" would you like to go out sometime and get to know eachother, if that interest's you?"

I should take off the last part should i?
You wanna hang out this weekend?

That's all you gotta say

Ask it during a usual time when you're just talking. Don't just show up to work and ask it first thing right away, lol
 
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