whiteroom67
Bluelighter
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- Apr 5, 2014
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Everyone experiences the same negative emotions and yet everyone deals with them differently. As long as its not being held in. It needs to be let go somehow, whether through ranting (hopefully on a message board like this or to a close friend or something) - but releasing negative emotions, no matter what the technique, is never a weakness. Its all the same. Everyone is different, yet the same at our core. In whatever way feels right for us, we need to expel any negative energy we may have. But then its important to move on. Its like watching animals fight sometimes. They let out ther aggression and then move on, assuming theyre both still alive lol. But we cant just keep suppressing. It will only build up. We need to accept it, embrace it, shake it off and move forward, and stay in the present. We as conscious beings though, have the advantage of learning to eventually recognize that negativity, and learn to not let it get to us so much in the future. Negative thoughts will always be there, but are not always necessary. I try to learn to recognize them and blow them off, one way or another, whether its ranting or meditation or working out, whichever feels best at the moment. But te important thing is to not keep thinking negative thoughts and letting them control you - that would be like going back to the same restaurant to eat even if the food kept getting you sick. But releasing is never a weakness, regardless of its form, because its all just that - release.
My ex was raised that it's inappropriate to vent to other people too, but I disagree. It can be taken too far, and if someone is an unwilling recipient then you shouldn't do it, but we need to be there for each other. Venting can be completely healthy and is a common way to release anger in a productive way (ie, it's not held in and no one was hurt and your life hasn't been negatively impacted). My cousin used to fight to release anger, and he ended up with a felony. Fortunately he got it under control, well the fighting, now he just explodes verbally quite easily. My sister is slowly turning into a negative and cynical person because she holds so much stuff in, it's really sad. And my ex has an explosive rage problem where she constantly denies she is bothered or has an issue and then, sometimes daily, a little thing will send her off into emotional and physical abuse in a blinding and terrifying rage. It clearly doesn't work. Sometimes we feel angry, or negative, and you have to embrace that and release it. For many years I suppressed my anger and frustration at my ex and it caused me to break my hand on a refrigerator and feel suicidal eventually, I felt that I had lost my mind and would never recover. It was the lowest point of my life. I tried to just think positively and think of the good parts, but the suppressed feelings grew and grew under the surface and began to erode every aspect of my life.
Plmar 
