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I really wouldnt have her there. Only you. I cant see replaceing his dead GF as a good thing until he is ready.
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Using MDMA to help with depression
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toerag
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I would agree that it would probably be best if she wasn't there. If she already is a close friend of his that may be a different matter though, and if he knew she liked him, but the last thing you would want to see is that when she is rolling she gets a bit too friendly, and he isn't ready for that. I'd hate to see him come away from this thinking she used his grief and time to talk about his issues as her attempt to get closer to him. Even if those aren't her intentions, and I am not saying they are her intentions, he may interpret it as that.
I feel if your female friend is there, I'd be completely upfront with how she feels about him. I know if it were me I'd feel tricked, set up, even if the person who liked me never even attempted anything. To me it would feel like someone was taking advantage of what I was going through in order to get closer to me.
But otherwise I think it would be a great time for him to maybe gain a bit of perspective back on his life. I know recently I had gone through some awful stuff, and was feeling heaps down, not myself....and a night on ecstasy helped to clear my head. I find it gets me to really get to the point of what the exact issue is thats upsetting me, and get rid of the trivial stuff around it, thus leaving me able to deal with the real issue properly.
Good luck with it all, let us know how it goes.
I feel if your female friend is there, I'd be completely upfront with how she feels about him. I know if it were me I'd feel tricked, set up, even if the person who liked me never even attempted anything. To me it would feel like someone was taking advantage of what I was going through in order to get closer to me.
But otherwise I think it would be a great time for him to maybe gain a bit of perspective back on his life. I know recently I had gone through some awful stuff, and was feeling heaps down, not myself....and a night on ecstasy helped to clear my head. I find it gets me to really get to the point of what the exact issue is thats upsetting me, and get rid of the trivial stuff around it, thus leaving me able to deal with the real issue properly.
Good luck with it all, let us know how it goes.
kangol1973
Bluelighter
thank you for all of your input
Kaleidescopism
Bluelighter
Psychiatric counseling is a bad idea I'd say. I think this method could definitely work well if used as a psychotherapeutic method to help him open up about his feelings and accept them.
The plan sounds good apart from her being there. Remember, your intention is to open up and be honest and talk about things - you shouldn't start that by hiding an important issue like her interest.
Anyway, it's easy to make the wrong move when loved up on pills, on her or his part, which in the end might make the whole exercise counter-productive.
Just chill with your buddy and talk about things. Good luck and enjoy
Anyway, it's easy to make the wrong move when loved up on pills, on her or his part, which in the end might make the whole exercise counter-productive.
Just chill with your buddy and talk about things. Good luck and enjoy
kangol1973
Bluelighter
hmmm.... i like that idea a lot. I think I will invite my guy friend and female friend along with my girlfriend and I... not a double date, just a time for all of us to talk and relax BEFORE we drop just to make sure that the two of them will have time to talk about things
^^^ As long as the atmosphere is ok, you'd be cool. Remember how setting-dependent the MDMA effect is, so make sure everyone's in a pleasant mood and you'll enjoy your mitsus even more 
Just be aware that it's an occasion for your friend to open up and work through things, not for the interested girl to make a move on him when emotional and vulnerable... I've kinda fallen in love on E, and even though it's sometimes easy and much fun, it's not always the best thing to do, especially in the circumstances you describe.
Just be aware that it's an occasion for your friend to open up and work through things, not for the interested girl to make a move on him when emotional and vulnerable... I've kinda fallen in love on E, and even though it's sometimes easy and much fun, it's not always the best thing to do, especially in the circumstances you describe.