• S E X
    L O V E +
    R E L A T I O N S H I P S


    ❤️ Welcome Guest! ❤️


    Posting Guidelines Bluelight Rules
  • SLR Moderators: Senior Staff

Unsatisfied with my sex life -HELP

Deano88 - you know what? I was pretty "meh" about having a kid, but she was really keen. We're getting older and were pretty settled (house, jobs and all that). I was excited once she got preg', I was excited the whole time. The birth was the most amazing thing I've experienced in my life! And now 3 1/2 months in I'm still over the moon. I'd never change anything, our daughter is worth the loss of our sex life a thousand times over! But that doesn't mean i want to give up my sex life
 
(sorry OP. But also this secondary discussion keeps your thread alive)

@Deano88 : Have kids when you're over 25 (over 30 is even better). Get your party / drug days behind you. Meet, date and fuck lots of different people (as safe as possible). When you meet that person who makes you melt, who you want to grow old with, then its THE ONE, a keeper. And if possible, stay together for 1~3 years before having a child. One is enough, two max.

@Chicken_Nipples: Even thou my tool wasn't working. We'd cuddle, we'd make out... and do the best we can. My feelings for her didn't drop. Also, sleeping naked helps - and we do that most nights. Going out on dates, helped too. Allows us to think more about each other - than the baby. Even out drinking and dancing - "baby" will come into your head "Is she sleeping well?" etc.

Congrats! I was NOT wanting a baby, but I love my woman and its the only baby we'll ever have (I'm too old for this shit). I went to every doc visit, took classes, never left the hospital, etc. Seeing your child for the first time - is AMAZING, but very stressful. She's past newborn, this is when things start happening fast. By the time she is about 12, you'll notice almost something new every day. A little stronger, a little better motor skill, problem solving, etc. When she calls you "dada" the first time will hit your heart. And when she HUGS you, for real - she'll have you wrapped around her finger. Crawling is cute. Record it as much as you can, you'll have a few months before walking.

Walking - then when the game changes. Nothing is safe. Now her hands are free to grab things, to climb. But trying to eat anything off the floor starts to go down (because her eye level is different). Temper tantrums suck. You also know, that you are capable of killing another human being to protect your baby. Also, remember the odd yet cool thing of seeing the baby move, the sonograms, etc.

Make arrangements to go out... like a couple. Twice a month. No phones or FB (other than EMG calls), not hanging out with friends at a club. Go to a NEW club or whatever so that YOU are both talking to each others, NOT friends. Go to bed naked, cuddle. Kiss, make out. Also, she may not feel so sexy. The birth weight and other normal things from having a baby. Work out at the gym, etc. Being healthy = being their for your child.
 
sounds like hes bored of you and was putting in an effort at first that wasnt really him (lust or trying to impress a FWB) then when you are in the bag so to speak he starts slacking. like how people let themselves get fat over time

personally i would lose interest.

anyone who slowly chips at me with repeated rejection will get my final rejection soon enough
 
I'm already starting to put my party/drug days behind me and now I found a girl who seems to tick all the boxes and things are going great so far. I get the feeling she wants a kid with me but doesn't make it too obvious cuz I think shes worried it might scare me off.

I do want a kid one day but wanna wait a bit first and my gf is in her mid 30's and I'm in my late 20's so she won't wanna wait forever. She already has one 9 year old boy from previous marriage.

I'd only ever want one kid anyway I just like to wait first and test the waters and if after a year and things are still going well then I'll think I'll go for it. Hope the sex life doesn't dwindle too much tho as
Its amazing atm.
 
Great to hear that!

Well, I still club and party with my woman - and I'm almost 46. :) She's 30 and likes to do the same. But we don't do it nearly as much as a few years ago. Family comes first.

Wish ya luck! A real relationship different from anything in the past.
 
This seems to be an underlying issue when one (and or both of you) lose interest in one another. That or when you have to much sex, the desire disappears. Sex is boring.

Try doing something different, if your too tight loosen yourself up. Spice up your relationship.
Try not seeing each other as often, might be hard if you share the same bed.
People need space at times, maybe he's depressed. Making you depressed. Some stupid vicious circle.

I got so fed up of some girls I would sit there and play video games, get fuxked up, I even told an x once whom we went from fuckin for 8 hours at a time. lol to like once a week because she was "tired".. it wasn't working out anymore and she came back to bed like there was no fuxking tomorrow.

Anyways it's normal, people grow apart. As for having kids never. Sex life goes to nothing.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top