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citysmog

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So this year I stumbled upon the magical substance which is mdma, I am not an abuser I have only done it maybe 5 times this year. My question is can mdma really cause someone to create a deep bond with someone?

I ask this because me and I'll say my lady friend of mine parted on what seemed to be a very bad note. Every roll except my last was with her, not saying my last roll wasn't amazing it just seemed somewhat... empty(?). Now I would not say I am "heart broken", it just feels like I have lost a best friend. Have any of you seasoned rollers experienced anything like this?
 
Im not really sure what your asking.

Are you asking if anyone else has ever broken up with someone they loved before?

Are you asking if anyone else cant roll without the first person they rolled with?

I think you need to be a bit more specific.
 
MazDan said:
Im not really sure what your asking.

Are you asking if anyone else has ever broken up with someone they loved before?

Are you asking if anyone else cant roll without the first person they rolled with?

I think you need to be a bit more specific.
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I am asking neither, I am just asking can mdma really open up hearts to this degree when it comes to bonding? Its just a very profound feeling, I just don't know if its normal?
 
Yes mdma can cause people to bond together. The degree to which it is received and actually kept is up to the individual person (people) is up to them. Mdma isn't going to ensure that a relationship stays together, much more work is needed to keep a relationship alive than just bonding on mdma. There are day to day needs that every single relationship needs and if that isn't there then the relationship just won't survive.
 
purplefirefly said:
Yes mdma can cause people to bond together. The degree to which it is received and actually kept is up to the individual person (people) is up to them. Mdma isn't going to ensure that a relationship stays together, much more work is needed to keep a relationship alive than just bonding on mdma. There are day to day needs that every single relationship needs and if that isn't there then the relationship just won't survive.
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I can know see why this used to be used in therapy. Thanks for the help :]. I was just really curious if this was a normal thing.
 
I met someone that i have come to fall in love with over the past couple months rolling....

It wasn't intended, but it happened...
 
I've found the MDMA bond to be strong, but it definitely deteriorates over time apart. I have a group of friends that I roll with and only see each other when we roll... so it's only about once a month. When I'm rolling, it feels like they're my bestist best friends and I feel an incomparable love for them that's very very real. For about a week after I continue to feel this way, but as we only party together, I'll go a month without talking to them and notice that we're not that close after all. Then we'll meet up again at another party and create that bond again.

This sort of happens with my friends who I see on a daily basis and roll with too. That once a month roll really solidifies our friendship and we'll slowly return to that normal non-huggy non-secret sharing friendship that we shared in the first place.

It's weird, but I feel that the MDMA bond is causing the close friendships that I really want, but normal life dulls them down after a while. MDMA is like my once a month bonding session with my friends.
 
citysmog said:
So this year I stumbled upon the magical substance which is mdma, I am not an abuser I have only done it maybe 5 times this year. My question is can mdma really cause someone to create a deep bond with someone?

I ask this because me and I'll say my lady friend of mine parted on what seemed to be a very bad note. Every roll except my last was with her, not saying my last roll wasn't amazing it just seemed somewhat... empty(?). Now I would not say I am "heart broken", it just feels like I have lost a best friend. Have any of you seasoned rollers experienced anything like this?
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yes very much, but dont be surprised to see it fade away with less mdma use.
 
If you were accustomed to get high with your 'lady friend' and then the last time you didn't have her by your side then yes that would cause an 'empty' feeling and not as good of a high, especially if you had true feelings for her.. Look at it this way.. Having her there with you your first couple of times made your mind accustomed to that and needing that connection with her while in that state. If every time you got high you took a shower your mind would get used to it, and almost crave a shower every time you got high. If you were unable to have a shower one time then your mind would not 'feel' satisfied. So that is what I believe your 'empty' feeling comes from.. But just like everything, your mind will be able to subside it's 'craving' for something the more it isn't there.. Sorry if it's a bit confusing.. Hope it helps.
 
Yea some of the people i've rolled with have become my closest friends as a result. I think maybe the bond was already there but the MDMA enhanced/re-inforced it. I don't have to keep rolling with them to maintain that bond tho
 
I've been involved with several girls as a result of rolling with them. I'd advise you all not to roll with someone you don't know too well, if you think there may be more than just friendship, ect. It's caused more problems than I've ever wanted and more emotional damage than I can almost handle. Rolling has caused misattributed feelings and a lot of emotional trauma. For some people who live by PLUR, they die by PLUR. It's shitty and sometimes I almost wish I'd never rolled in the first place.
 
Ugh I know what you mean- I have a chum that I roll with (only once a year) last year she decided she doesn't want to roll, this was after huge drama she created. I was crushed because I was hoping that just one pill would have rebonded us and it would have let her open up to me (she always seems guarded). I wish I could force her to do it because I know she wants to she just is stopping herself for some reason. /randomness
 
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