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uncle trying to just ruin me....

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Well I have a uncle that is just one nosey snake I the grass type person.i don't know how to explain it.he goes way out of his way to try and prove/out anyone using anything or doing anything questionable.he used to raid my room when I lived at my grandfathers and find anything old old cotton or old Benadryl cap and say "yea I found this so I know what you doing" then go tell everyone he could.hed sneak around and just stand outside the windows and my dog would go nuts...now he works for the same guy i work for ...the other day coming home I cant remember what we were talking about but he said "yea your moms brother my other uncle said he didnt want you down there cause you came down there blackout drunk and tried to get his girlfriends daughter to take her clothes off"

This blew me away and I was freaking out Inside.i haven't been down there in years and this is the first I heard of this.well I ask my mom about it.shes like wtf are you talking about.i really took it as my nosey uncle trying to stir shit up.but word gets back to her brother and shit hits the fan. They call me and say nothing like that ever happened while I'm having a panic attack the whole day and can barely do anything but breath thinking I tried to basically rape this girl.well the nosey uncle calls and says "what did you start". WHAT DID I START!!!!? And basically says I made it up.then says I must have shot something up and hallucinated it. (I'm on suboxone by the way 16mg). Meanwhile my moms brother calls and says my nosey uncle tried to get him to admit telling him this shit... I cant take this "uncle" anymore.hez also said I've threatened to kill him... .i hav e to work and he's going to be there.basically he just made this shit up...for what reason but to fuck with my head or ruin my already Drug addict reputation to the point nobody will ever look at me the same.by the way hes faking injury from working with old trash company.and getting benefits etc trying to get money.and selling his pain meds to a family friend then talks about how strungout he is ....i don't know how to handle a person like this. It scares me.lime not physically but what would he come up with...how would any of you handle this
 
sorry, all the things i thought of were obvious and probably wouldn't work. This guy seems like the stubborn, pathological liar type, who is impossible to level with.

Even though this thread could easily fit in Second Opinion I'll try sending it to TDS and see if you get more replies.

SO --> TDS
 
Yea I've tried talking etc.violence is out of the question even though feel like it.cant do stay away notice.dont think I can ever get my reputation back from just the things hes said around town.very depressing
 
Arm yourself with as much knowledge on narcissists and psychopaths as you can because he definitely sounds like one. Just go on Youtube, there's tons of videos. Also, has he done anything that could warrant you getting a restraining order?
 
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I would pack up and move decently far away. Sounds like he has it out for you. I would just leave otherwise you're going to be forced into his crazy games. And you wouldn't want to eventually have a freak out on him and end up being the one looked at as the instigator and possibly wind up in jail for battery or something.
 
He sounds dangerous. I guess the best you can do is to calmly tell the rest of your family that this is a lie that is really damaging to you and you would appreciate their support. If I had that much drama and insecurity in my family I think I might move as RDP89 suggested. Any chance of you doing that?
 
Not at the moment.work is slow and I have fines.i make 1200 Saturday.and 1000 god to fines from a OD 2 years ago��....i go to Ukraine next month to my girlfriends parents to meet and them meet their grandson who's 16months �� should be fun but anyway if anymore happens I really feel like reporting him for fraud anybody that is as hurt as he says couldn't climb trees everyday.it's really depressing how he seems to be a friend for awhile then just talk about you like a goddamned piece of shit.its just not in my to be the same way
 
Sorry for the delay in responding - been a hectic week. This guy is absolutely toxic and you need to avoid him as much as possible. When you have to spend time with him, divulge as little information about yourself as possible. Don't confront him, I suspect he enjoys that. I'm sorry you're going through this - how terrible. Is he going to be at your place of employment long term? Can you find another job if he is? It sucks, but I've known people like this and they really are dangerous. There's no rationalizing with them, and talking to them is pointless. The seem to have perfected the method of creating drama while "not being" involved. I have seen someone similar to your uncle totally destroy a friend's life - ruin long term friendships, got him fired, got him arrested, made his girlfriend break up with him - just decimated his life. For some reason these people are very convincing, and try to refute what they are saying is difficult. I sincerely wish you the best of luck!
 
I still think the OP should pursue legal action if he's continually harassed. Either that or murder him but that's illegal.
 
You just dont know...bow frustrating this shit has been.the lack of respect and thoughts from people that think you cant handle any form of responsibility.just from what is said
 
You've got to be your own support inside. Treat your psyche like a body-builder treats his body: train it.

If you can take small steps every single day inside your own head you become far less susceptible to what others say or think. Continue to act with integrity in your own life. Refuse to play the games and eventually you can learn to tune them out altogether. One of the best strategies I've found is to laugh at it--makes it easier to let it go.
 
May e I'm low on testosterone...i read an article about night testosterone and alpha male link to guys that just don't give a shit I don't know...but its like it never even happened now...like I'm sitting here worried about whats next.a few people haven't called me to work and I heard that my uncle has had random talks with these people...so I'm sure they just have no respect what so ever for me...what the hell is wrong with me to just let this keep happening
 
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