Nono - OP did in the original comment
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Maybe it's so that they can have ' something ' on you. So they can then label you as a whore or not a whore.
Oh. Can we say that in here.
Anyway I have noticed that too at times. It's fine. People have orgies and stuff. I realize. That's what they do.
Basically, though, I think it is someone just messing around with someone else's mind. Kind of like mind fck ing
them until they can see ' what else ' they can get. And no, they don't even know they are doing it.
" It's just their way. "
Or some people actually think that others " are that stupid. " And want to ' prove it.'
Why if they are aware of this would they do it !!! I don't know ... for some others it's ' a game maybe. '
Like prey. The thrill of the chase. Sick. Not even the ' kill ' itself .... so to speak.
But seriously, I think it is just so they can one up someone and to see what else they can fall for of course.
Think about it.
I'm sorry that I even butted in. Again.
But its is called manipulation. And power and control.
That's it !
That's all I really had to have written. Is just those two sentence.
Anyway,
bye
But whatever. It all leads to the nature of it all. Power and control. And then add the sex into it and it's their ' dope ' so to
speak.
They try to feed themselves with dopamine ... and your Soul.
i hope this doesn't get removed ... but there has to be another place to put it.
I mean if someone want's to bring gonorrhea home to their loved one. Ewww, sick to my stomach. I'm a Germaphobic too.
So then they'll be like. .... Oh I'll do you with a condom Baby. Everything, Anything you want bb. Okay back off then ????
That's stuff is detrimental. The filth also of yet another disease. STD. Yeah. Do a thread on that too.
Oh well.
bye.
and bye bye post. i bet you won't be here long.
But do .... think about it :
You are manipulating each other. And in a very unhealthy negative way.
I don't really like sl&r ... because it's just called fcking around on somebody.
Why ... would I even fckn want to.
But if somebody is trying to fck somebody that is already in a relationship Or for just anybody for that matter ....
it's ' most likely ' for a reason !!!!
Again, this is probably a whole different thread. But I was just throwing out some ideas. Mine.
damn, i need an energy drink after that traumatic post.
or yeah, try some scopolomine, it works ' the best 'sicko's.
Oh. Can we say that in here.
Anyway I have noticed that too at times. It's fine. People have orgies and stuff. I realize. That's what they do.
Basically, though, I think it is someone just messing around with someone else's mind. Kind of like mind fck ing
them until they can see ' what else ' they can get. And no, they don't even know they are doing it.
" It's just their way. "
Or some people actually think that others " are that stupid. " And want to ' prove it.'
Why if they are aware of this would they do it !!! I don't know ... for some others it's ' a game maybe. '
Like prey. The thrill of the chase. Sick. Not even the ' kill ' itself .... so to speak.
But seriously, I think it is just so they can one up someone and to see what else they can fall for of course.
Think about it.
I'm sorry that I even butted in. Again.
But its is called manipulation. And power and control.
That's it !
That's all I really had to have written. Is just those two sentence.
Anyway,
bye
But whatever. It all leads to the nature of it all. Power and control. And then add the sex into it and it's their ' dope ' so to
speak.
They try to feed themselves with dopamine ... and your Soul.
i hope this doesn't get removed ... but there has to be another place to put it.
I mean if someone want's to bring gonorrhea home to their loved one. Ewww, sick to my stomach. I'm a Germaphobic too.
So then they'll be like. .... Oh I'll do you with a condom Baby. Everything, Anything you want bb. Okay back off then ????
That's stuff is detrimental. The filth also of yet another disease. STD. Yeah. Do a thread on that too.
Oh well.
bye.
and bye bye post. i bet you won't be here long.
But do .... think about it :
You are manipulating each other. And in a very unhealthy negative way.
I don't really like sl&r ... because it's just called fcking around on somebody.
Why ... would I even fckn want to.
But if somebody is trying to fck somebody that is already in a relationship Or for just anybody for that matter ....
it's ' most likely ' for a reason !!!!
Again, this is probably a whole different thread. But I was just throwing out some ideas. Mine.
damn, i need an energy drink after that traumatic post.
or yeah, try some scopolomine, it works ' the best 'sicko's.
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I completely understand this point of view as well. I believe you have some very good insight on it. I’ve noticed the same things.
There was a time when I felt healthy. I was happy. My energy was vibrant. My eyes were bright and shiny. My skin looked and felt healthy.
I’ll even allow my ego to say my energy was “electric” - this was something I was told by several people who had seen me rise from absolute instability.
Im not speaking in terms or anything even remotely sexual.
Just… a certain confidence and comfort that I felt deep within myself. I felt worthy. my partner bounced the same energy around as well.
It didn’t last for reasons that don’t matter.
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This is what started my post. I was trying to quote this one. Also. I guess. I meant to quote this one.
Anyway. What's wrong with me.
Don't answer that question.
Please and thank you.
Anyway. What's wrong with me.
Don't answer that question.
Please and thank you. 
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Huh?
I'm not seducing anyone btw. Winky winky at my ' post ' if you will.
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First off , are you trying to be a player? Cause you're about to age out of that category..I'd say work on yourself.... People often cheat / go astry whatever, to find " something better" then when they realize it's not better , they bail and many times go back to there former partner or the next " better situation". Seems like you're getting that. Make sure you're not a selfish lover , make sure you listen and don't blab about yourself all the time.. You have to be a strong man but a sensitive and caring partner..at first, maybe act like you're not even that interested.. idk. Works for me.
I was a player, then a great partner and now invisible so I think I have a good perspective
Oh and if you're still riding the bus at 30, get a car for Christ sakes.. nobody wants to be flirted with on the city bus ..
.lol
I was a player, then a great partner and now invisible so I think I have a good perspective
Oh and if you're still riding the bus at 30, get a car for Christ sakes.. nobody wants to be flirted with on the city bus ..
.lol
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I've got a similar recurring problem.
Whether someone is physically or emotionally unavailable, people often just lack the mental stability to know what they really want, they lack the discipline to commit to what they want in one way or another, and they lack the empathy to consider how acting on their desires will effect their partners. Essentially they want the easiest roads available, most amount of payoff, least amount of work or energy. I've been on both sides of this, so, I understand the struggle, and relationships are difficult and life is about growth.
It's got nothing to do with what you look or smell like. It sounds like you're repeatedly making yourself available to partners that are not actually available, so you should just stop doing that. Be clear about what you want, and commit to it. Don't be afraid to say no to obviously toxic situations and just don't give it your energy, otherwise people will use every ounce of your good will and you will gather hate from jealous people like a magnet. It's not great, so don't do that or keep putting yourself in those situations.
Someone once said
"I do know one thing though,
Bitches they come and go,
Saturday through Sunday,
Monday through Sunday,
Yo"
It applies, so just be patient and have some standards.
Whether someone is physically or emotionally unavailable, people often just lack the mental stability to know what they really want, they lack the discipline to commit to what they want in one way or another, and they lack the empathy to consider how acting on their desires will effect their partners. Essentially they want the easiest roads available, most amount of payoff, least amount of work or energy. I've been on both sides of this, so, I understand the struggle, and relationships are difficult and life is about growth.
It's got nothing to do with what you look or smell like. It sounds like you're repeatedly making yourself available to partners that are not actually available, so you should just stop doing that. Be clear about what you want, and commit to it. Don't be afraid to say no to obviously toxic situations and just don't give it your energy, otherwise people will use every ounce of your good will and you will gather hate from jealous people like a magnet. It's not great, so don't do that or keep putting yourself in those situations.
Someone once said
"I do know one thing though,
Bitches they come and go,
Saturday through Sunday,
Monday through Sunday,
Yo"
It applies, so just be patient and have some standards.