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Two girls going to the same club

socko

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Two women I'm seeing are going to the same club tomorrow night. I use the term "seeing" loosely. Laëtitia and I have been planning to go together as a date. We have been seeing each other regularly for the last month. But at the last minute, Daniella has asked me to meet her there. I told her three times that I am busy tomorrow night. Daniella has said she is going to the club anyway. Daniella and I have gone there together several times before. This is a popular club called Maxim's.

Daniella and I have been seeing each other for half a year, but we only see each other once or twice a month. Daniella and I have not even spoken since I met Laëtitia. I assumed she had forgotten about me.

I don't want to lie to anybody, and I don't want to mess up with Laëtitia. I'm thinking about telling Daniella about Laëtitia, but I'm not sure if that is needed.

I'm lost here. I don't know what to do.
 
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She's already expecting this one. Changing plans will look weird.

I was thinking about timing it. I know about when Daniella leaves her house and how long it takes her to arrive. I would go to the club but leave before Daniella arrives to eat a late supper or something.

It's either that or just telling her which seems even worse than sneaking out early.

I could explain more to Daniella. I could tell her 'yes I am going there for a little while, but as I said, I have toehr plans. I'm going with some other friends and we have a bunch of other things lined up as well... blah blah blah...and I am already committed to them for the evening.'
 
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Are you planning on seeing both of them in the future too or is just the newer girl you are interested in?

Answer to that will most probably tell you what to do.
 
Yeah, i think it would be best to be straight-up with Daniella about why you can't meet her there.
 
Ive done this "juggler" type of act before. just Meet laetitia at the club, then tell her ur going to the bathroom and go see Daniella secretly, tell Daniella u go to bathroom and go check up on Laetitia, etc

My club has two floors so keep the girls far away or a fight will break out. I got caught due to being way too drunk and sloppy one night, mind you I was an "expert juggler" at this point dealing with 3 girls at the same time. they went medieval on my as so I told them I was going to bathroom, then left the club and never look back. Lol
 
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If I could see only one in the future, it would be the newer girl. I've liked spending time with the other girl as well and hoped to stay friends with her long term, even if it's not romantic.

I need a strategy. If I keep seeing the newer girl, there is more than one older girl.

Ive done this "juggler" type of act before. just Meet laetitia at the club, then tell her ur going to the bathroom and go see Daniella secretly, tell Daniella u go to bathroom and go check up on Laetitia, etc
My club has two floors so keep the girls far away or a fight will break out.
There is only one door, and they close off the downstairs sometimes. I saw a girl go apeshit there last winter. She made a terrible scene. I don't want to take any chances.
 
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tell daniella you have been seeing someone

she can go where she wants but she should expect that you wont be available
 
You could take the girl you want to spend time with elsewhere to dinner and a quiet drink elseehere afterwards or look on line for aomething going on this weekend to seem like its a better plan than the club.

Tell the other girl you have met someone else and you cant hang out with her. Dont string her along.

If you dont know if you want to be with L as a couple dont hurry that de ision but maybe its good that it happened to make you think about it a bit.

Dont go to that club this weekend mate.
 
Just be upfront. Don't be shady. Be like, ok, see you there! I'm going with, blah, this girl that I met a couple weeks ago. She's cool.
 
Thanks for the suggestions everyone. It was hard, but I told the older girl I was taking somebody else.
 
just Meet laetitia at the club, then tell her ur going to the bathroom and go see Daniella secretly, tell Daniella u go to bathroom and go check up on Laetitia, etc
you're joking right? maybe in some hollywood rom-com...

socko, i think you just have to be honest with yourself and with them both.

[added later: i saw your post only after i replied. sounds like you did just that :)]

alasdair
 
Yes, I told them. Still, it was kind of a fustercluck, but I survived. Since yesterday, I had been afraid of upsetting Daniella. Daniella and I used to see each other, but only once or twice a month for half a year. I don't know how long. I told Daniella I was taking somebody else to the club.

I didn’t mention the lovely Odette before because I had assumed we would never see each other again. We have a history together which ended abruptly about six months ago. Odette found me in a park near the club this evening. She was on her way so we went into the club together. I was to meet Laëtitia at the club in another hour. Odette and I bought drinks, and then I saw my date Laëtitia who was watching me and Odette. By the expression on her face, I suspected Laëtitia had seen me and Odette come in and order drinks together. I started sweating.

I introduced Laëtitia and Odette. The three of us talked together for another hour. Odette and Laëtitia were born in the same village in Normandy and had been to some of the same places growing up. They had probably seen each other as children and maybe even met. They exchanged phone numbers.

Daniella who had asked me to go to the club with her yesterday after I had already committed to Laëtitia finally arrived. I had already told her I was going with somebody else so I wasn’t worried.

For the first time, I was thankful for the Brazilian. He had been putting his moves on Laëtitia for the last half hour, and although Laëtitia was giving him hints that she was not interested, it looked to Daniella and everybody else who could see them that Daniel and Laetitia were a couple. That’s the kind of thing that happens at clubs and is why I don’t like to take dates to clubs.

I introduced Daniella to Laëtitia (my date), Daniel (the Brazillian who was behaving as though he believed Laëtitia was his date), and Odette. There were no surprises. Daniella, the old girlfriend, was cool. Daniel finally went away to chase some other girl. Odette, on the other hand, abruptly became sick and rushed out of the club.


you're joking right? maybe in some hollywood rom-com...

socko, i think you just have to be honest with yourself and with them both.

[added later: i saw your post only after i replied. sounds like you did just that :)]

alasdair
 
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Glad it worked out okay! No crazy scenes or anything. Good for you for being upfront and honest, I think that is pretty important in those kinds of situations.
 
Thanks for your advice everyone. You helped me handle a touchy but ongoing situation.

I should have called this "Three girls going to the same club."

Odette appeared out of the blue yesterday, found me in a park, and went to the club Maxim's with me in a way that made it look like she might have been my date. This was the first time Odette has been to this club, and it was a strange coincidence. She seemed to really hit it off with the new girl Laëtitia. They exchanged phone numbers. We used to see each other but not seriously. Odette abruptly broke it off six months ago without explaining why.

Today, Odette has unblocked my email and phone number and has been messaging me wanting to go out. I already told her about the new girl. I introduced her to the Brazillian dude and some other people hoping she would find a new friend. Also, Odette goes to the same book club as me, so if I ever go back, she will be there. I don't know how to handle Odette. She is persistent. I fear this will only get more complicated if I continue to try to see Laëtitia exclusively. I will appreciate any advice.
 
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Wow. How come I don't end up with these kind of problems?

Is it just my face or the fact that France has 111 citizens per square kilometer and Finland only 17.3?
 
Wow. How come I don't end up with these kind of problems?

Is it just my face or the fact that France has 111 citizens per square kilometer and Finland only 17.3?
It comes out to nothing more than population density. Paris has around 10 million people squeezed into the space of around 100 km^2. Finland has that many in the whole country.You can apply a modified form of the Drake equation and calculate the odds.

I went for years at a time without any girlfriend, friend or even one date when I lived in interstellar voids (Minneapolis, Minnesota in particular - plagued by displaced fjortisar) in parts of the USA.
 
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Thanks again for the advice about my problem. This strategy has been working. I have been telling each of the older girls about the new girl when it comes up. Some of them still want to be friends which is good. I don't tell the new girl about them unless I have to. Too much disclosure can be as bad as trying to hide it.
 
Socko glad you're still on here. I saw a post u did back when u moved here. I just moved to Paris and speak French. From Vancouver canAda so you can guess what I'm gonna ask I'm sure. I own dispensaries there. Anyways I'm cool and down just need your help. If you could meet up I'll make it worth it for ya. Sn_canow@Hotmail. Com
 
Also dude you're hilarious. I have had the same issue. Actually have that issue right now. Ah multiple women what to do. You always get caught. Eventually. It's best to pic the one that's the hottest aND tightest and keep her. Tell them other one she is too good for you and you have mommy issues or something and get her to move on.
 
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