What's everyones take on keeping old friends when your trying to stay sober? If it's a life long friend that you can't totally avoid, do you just maintain the self-control to reject any offering of drugs or do you make up a story why you can't hang out for a while? I need to at least stay sober another 2 weeks to completely drop this opiate/bupe dependency, which right now I'm day 7 clean and the past month I've spent a week clean, relapse, a week clean, relapse, etc.. So I've been relapsing at about this point I'm at now, day 7. I'm pretty determined to stay clean longer, because I'm tired of all the sickness. However, If I'm at a friends and a roxy is staring me in the face, I will think of every reason to justify using it.
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Trying to stay sober around friends who use
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its not a very good lifelong friend if he/she is offering you drugs when you are trying to stay clean..imo, if he/she is truly a good friend you should avoid them for a while until u get clean and are comfortable, they will understand..in reality though you just should find different friends...sober friends, hard to do i know..
caseface99
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It pains me to have to tell you this, however every time I have been to rehab and returned to hanging out with the same people who were still using, I relapsed shortly after. This last time I went to rehab I deleted the phone numbers of everyone I knew and moved to a different city. It's been the most difficult thing I have ever done, and I am still struggling to make friends. I know it's extremely difficult especially when you have been friends with someone for so long, but whats more important? Your LIFE, or hanging out with someone thats going to offer you drugs and potentially kill you? I'm not being dramatic, it's just that this is truly a life and death matter.
these days I have almost 8 months sober, and I feel comfortable hanging out around people occasionally that are drinking or smoking pot, however I don't think I will EVER be willing to hang around people doing opiates and other hard drugs. It's not worth the risk.
I know it's difficult, but staying clean and hanging around these people will be even more difficult. I sincerely hope you make the right decision.
these days I have almost 8 months sober, and I feel comfortable hanging out around people occasionally that are drinking or smoking pot, however I don't think I will EVER be willing to hang around people doing opiates and other hard drugs. It's not worth the risk.
I know it's difficult, but staying clean and hanging around these people will be even more difficult. I sincerely hope you make the right decision.
Yeah thanks for the advice. I will need to think up some long term solution but for now, I've told my friends that I have flu, which I think is true. My throat is all fucked up today so opiate sickness on top of whatever this is, going to be a fun next couple of days lol.
caseface99
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Hang in there bman. You can get through this. Rest up, try to eat healthy foods. Remember not to overwhelm yourself. Tackle one problem at a time.
I know this question has no exact answer but do you think I'm on day 7 clean or do you think I could add a few days like... day 10-15 since I've been using sparingly the past month (once a week)? But after every time I relapsed, I felt like my withdrawals were almost back to step 1, so I'm not sure if those several weeks of sobriety really did anything for me since they were followed up by me using each time. I took probably 2-4mg bupe almost daily for a year maybe a little over. Now it's been a month before I've touched bupe.When I've relapsed over this past month, it's been on a roxy or 2. I know I'm probably looking at a couple weeks total of physical withdrawals, because I'm definitely still feeling the chills and all that. I just hope this isn't going to last too much longer. I've basically been in withdrawal for a month, because I'm an idiot and keep giving in. Anything past today, is new territory as far as length of sobriety and in one sense that excites me. But in another, I know it will be harder and harder to stay clean if I don't start feeling some relief soon. Realistically I know this can't last forever, but it feels like it's never going to end. My own fault, but it fkin sucks....
On day 2 of being clean, I took my friend to the city for some horse and I got some blow instead(which I rarely do btw). So I sat there and watched my friend shoot while I was sick. That was pretty hard to do but the girl helped out a lot. I have moments of pretty good self-control but then other moments where I give in.
caseface99
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Wait... did you cop some coke for your friend while trying to stay sober? Is that what you meant?
I don't see this ending well if so.
I don't see this ending well if so.
No, I did girl. We would have both gotten a bag of H like usual, but I resisted and got coke instead. I wouldn't be taking a risky ride for nothing, I wanted something to help me get through the night that wasn't an opiate. It's not something I will do again for quite a while. That particular friend just went into inpatient rehab the other day anyways and that was his connection. I try to keep away from the bluffs when possible, I stand out like a soar thumb going into the ghetto. Anyways, I looked at this as a "special occasion" in my head. At least it didn't set back my opiate withdrawals, that's all that matters to me really.Wait... did you cop some coke for your friend while trying to stay sober? Is that what you meant?
I don't see this ending well if so.
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Groundhogdayagain
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Congrats on making the decision to get clean Bman. It's admirable that you were able to turn down the H while in withdrawal. I wouldn't recommend making that a typical occurrence. Its like that old AA saying, "you keep going to the barber and you will eventually get a haircut". At the same time, you seem to be aware of how perilous that can be. In my experience, when I've been around ppl using, even if I was able to refrain, it seemed to set off pretty strong cravings for my DOC that would last for a couple of days. Sobriety is difficult enough, no need to make it any harder.