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kayladelmo

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How do you guys define trust? How do you know when you trust another person? Would you say you trust people easily, or does it take you a while?

I am interested in hearing everyone's opinions.
 
I can't really define trust. It's like a gut feeling. I pretty much trust no one. I've come close, so I kind of know what it is, but I've never truly experienced it. To me, if I ever trust someone, I'll tell them about me because I know they will never judge me and they'll take whatever I tell them to the grave.
 
I trust everyone until I find out they don't deserve my trust. If they aren't deserving I have no problem walking away from the relationship weather it's romantic, friendship or even family. I'm pretty much an open book so there isn't any infomation they can use to hurt me. They could try but again I'd just move on.
 
When it comes to trust in relationships it is about having enough confidence in your partner to believe they won't betray you and enough confidence in yourself to question why they even would betray you. A huge part of that is being open to threesomes with my partner. Having another woman in the bedroom with us is the ultimate display of trust in our relationship. In the end, when the fun is respectively over, and it's just him and I again, the trust is strongest and I feel closer to him than ever.
When it comes to trust in friendships, I am easy to trust people but disrespect that by doing me wrong once, that's it for them. I suppose that goes for intimate relationships as well.
 
When you no longer have to play games with them to keep them interested.
 
In the words of Tori Amos, "the sexiest thing is trust," and I'd like to believe she was right -- trust... and a pair of thigh highs, maybe. ;)
 
trust is a tricky one for friendships its knowing your freinds that you can trust with your life ,money and partner.
for a relationship its knowing no matter what goes off you can trust them to be there and they can trust you .
trust to let you be you without any doubt when your out with your freinds regaurdless of there gender or sexual prefrence .
trust to know you can go away with freinds or work for a few days or weeks you will be faithfull even if temptaion is under your nose .
be honest and open tis the way to be

thats how i see it =D
 
To me trust becomes a secondary word to primary emotions revolving around the relationship on multiple levels of the mammalian brain function. "Trust" as a word emboldens the concept as a singular whole when it has more to do (my opinion) with the many little obligations one presents his or herself to keep another at a "sacred" part in their relationship. The sacredness of what was their initial bond must then be later be propped up by behavior or action that supports their original fall for each-other. "Respect" is an auxiliary notion of trust that is continually applied as means of allegiance, how far one is willing to go to earn their partners love. In this way Trust is quantified as loyalty of another's virtue, and the constant grasp and clawing one pushes into head of acception on a level of need.

However, there comes to me the original meaning of what one considers trust on a purely domestic scale that writhes within materialistic means of someone's assuredness' of means of living comfortably. Why do men buy diamond rings in asking a woman to marry him? Because he needs to present himself as someone who has money and the means to care for in another relationship. Marriage and Trust are interlinked as it is the primary bonds of human civilization and familial order. However, it is a ridiculous notion that this bond is not there when marriage is not present and if a relationship that uses trust on it's most considerately defined level of social comfort is concerned, then we are to be care-givers and use what we learned growing up in our family into practice in relationships. The maturity of our familial bonds and the way through we work through each-other in both harmony and strife is the means of trust that one knows how to handle our partners psyche. Stability in one's own consciousness is a reliance in another that of existential confidence, partnership in something that is not you, (you are the only thing you really know for sure exists) and an ideal of love greater than original comfort of survival pervades that trust that seeks social-order.


Having said that, "Trust" is another word in the human language I'd have no problem abolishing in favor of more specific terms. Word's such as "Love" and "Euphoria" do incredibly poor justice that to what the word actually applies how one is experiencing them, and Trust is no different since the semblance can't be converted into a manifold, or complete idea that doesn't contradict itself.
 
kayladelmo said:
How do you guys define trust? How do you know when you trust another person? Would you say you trust people easily, or does it take you a while?
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I normally trust somewhat until proven otherwise, but I find this to be quite a taxing and disappointing approach.

Trust is something you build over time - I know that I trust another person when they have been in my life for a long enough time and haven't done anything to allow me to question their credibility, and that they have always been completely honest and upfront with me (even if it's about something bad that would hurt me).
 
I guess I'll trust anyone until they've proven they're not trustworthy, but I'll trust them with bigger or smaller things depending on how well I know them, for how long I've known them, etc.
 
That's a really good question.
Certainly hard to nail down a real world definition.

I think of it as not having to question what the other says as truth or fiction.

I hate being lied to. It's so stupid and the consiquences are severe (to me). Lieing, especially over stupid shit, is one of my biggest pet peeves.
I have no trust if they're lieing about dumb shit. It's probably a fault of mine, but trust is huge and once it's betrayed it's near impossible to regain, yet.
 
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DeathDomokun said:
Trust is taking the risk to be betrayed.
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Oooh, I really like this answer. :)

Trust is kinda a double-edged sword. To be smart about people, you can't really put anything past them, especially when it comes to sex and money. Hindsight is 20/20 when it comes to trust and betrayal. You always kinda beat yourself up after betrayal and think "FUUUUUUUUUUCK I should have seen that sign!"

So, I try to have the understanding that people are capable of anything when it comes to sex and money, but I cannot control them and what they do, so I have to be smart and protect #1 and give people the freedom to do what they want and hope that they do the right thing.
 
I've risked my life for friends with my heart trying to leap out of my mouth and flop frantically away toward the horizon and my brain screaming 'WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!' but my feet still moving forward. I realized that the most absolute truth I believe in is knowing I'd rather die loyal than live disloyal. Maybe it's just because I'm a coward at heart, afraid of expiring in some mangy hospital bed at a ripe old age while regretting the chances I had to die with honour for something I believe in. Either way, trust means everything to me and to earn my complete trust a person has to convince me they feel the same way.

So basically... forever alone it looks like D:
 
Tude said:
I can't really define trust. It's like a gut feeling. I pretty much trust no one. I've come close, so I kind of know what it is, but I've never truly experienced it. To me, if I ever trust someone, I'll tell them about me because I know they will never judge me and they'll take whatever I tell them to the grave.
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I would have to agree with this. It is the best reply I've seen in this thread. Due to my past and whatnot I have trust issues with almost everyone. I used to be a fake person in almost every situation. Now I've met an awesome girl and this above statement sums it up for how I feel about her.
 
Everyone lies. Whether its a small white lie, "with-held" information/half truths, or the shockers. Its bound to happen by both partners.
With that being said, to me trust is knowing that at the end of the day neither of you will go to bed until all issues are reselved, that even if being lied to or doing the lying it doesn't mean you love them any less/trying to intentionally hurt them and that no matter what the current circumstances may be, you will be there for each other always.
Breaking trust doesn't mean the love isn't there; if you were trying to intentionally hurt your partner, what would be the initial reason for the relationship anyway? It just wouldn't make sense. You must also trust that your partner understands you, just as everyone else, has limits. When forming a deep meaningful relationship, both must have a mutual trust from the very beginning that you will equally putforth every effort you can to make it work, as long as the effort is always recipricated. So, if one continually is hurting the other, making the same mistakes, and although attempts have been made to solve the issues at hand, they are not doing their share as a loving caring committed partner, that's when the trust in a relationship setting has been exhausted.I do not believe in the "three strikes, yourre out" rule, as we are human beings, we are imperfect make mistakes and often hurt others, more often than not it happens to be the ones we love most. We are not athletes and I don't think relationships and/or friendships should be treated as such games.
Just my opinion, hope I worded it right, it made sense in my head lol. This is generally how my current relationship is. His views vary from mine in a few areas. Mainly because of double standards of course -_- lol.
 
So, if one continually is hurting the other, making the same mistakes, and although attempts have been made to solve the issues at hand, they are not doing their share as a loving caring committed partner, that's when the trust in a relationship setting has been exhausted
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I absolutely agree with you, Shady Kaity. Your comments made sense to me. :)
 
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