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Hey bluelighters
I will try and keep this short so I do apologize if it gets long, Here it goes I have had a rocky past with my wife's brothers girlfriend as she treats him like shit and has no respect for anyone other then herself. Recently She has been attacking him more and more over face book to their friends and just in general. my partners mum passed away a few months back which has been tough on my wife and her brother because there was no will everything gets split evenly down the middle we had organized with him we would take her car and he would have my Holden statesman as he has always wanted one and I have no need for it. Her behavior has been appalling in regards to everything asking for everything they can get and then mentioning it would be worth alot, they were kicked out of where they were previously living because she ran her mouth to her partners friend whom they were staying at back in December last year when he was kicked out by his partner of 10yrs so me and my missus arranged for them to stay with a mate of ours on the proviso that no drugs weren't to be sold at his house (works for a Government Department so will cost him his job if they do) and they both smoke weed and drink. My mate had a friend of mine from the cops call me and him and tell us if they don't stop having "visitors" when his on call they will raid his house(was a warning as he know my mate has nothing to do with it), so he warns them if it happens again he will kick them out which I full understand ( he earns over 120K a year) is not a small wage to lose and he is paying the house off so can't afford to lose his job. During nasty the split from his ex we have supported him in every way he is currently fighting for his kids custody in court.
On top of that the agreement they came to with him meant they split power,food, cleaning and cooking responsibilities and this is one of the main issues has risen from he is but his partner isn't helping around the house or paying there bills without her beening forced to last Friday her daughter just had her 15th birthday which her mum promised her a new laptop she then turns to my mate and says in the same breath "you don't mind if we don't pay rent this week+power this week do you" the power bill had just arrived and tripled $1800 since they moved in because they constantly run all 3 of the air-cons they have access to 4th is in his room which he locks with a key,so he turns and says when yes I do mind as I expect you to pay your bills. her partner says no were paying the bills first much to his credit he does pay his bills on time before spending money on drugs and alcohol she get up and as she is leaving says so your gonna ruin a 15yr old birthday then are you's to. The money isn't an issue for him he hasn't even broken a sweat cover anything extra its the principal of paying your own bills (me and our friend agree).
Her whole attitude towards everything and everyone is fucked
last night his missus decided to go on her usually rant and attack him I had been fighting with my wife over something (not important as neither of us can remember what) and told her to pull her head in and start treating him better as there is no excuse for it(admittedly I should have held my tongue but has been months of things leading to this) to which she starts on me well that didn't end well for her never does I ran a winning debate team for 4 years running in my high school years leading up to year 12, her daughter jumped on and tried to put her 2cents in to which I said this doesn't concern you and before you start acting high and mighty get some life experience (harsh I know but I am a boss of teenagers they think they know it all). At this point my brother in law calls me and says they are not happy with me and my spoilt wife (WTF) and they feel they should get the car from his mum as we have a working car my partners yaris is our day to day car atm but with 2 small kids there isn't much room so her mums car was perfect for what we needed and neither my brother in,law or his girlfriend have a license me and my wife do so my wife turns around and say well then we will sell mums car and possessions split the money evenly down the middle and he say oh well I still get the statesman so it doesn't matter, I calmly said well no you don't as it was gonna be a straight swap car for car. The thing that pisses me off to the point I went around there to beat him for threaten me because I won't give him the car which my mate stopped me and said it isn't worth it( can see his point was a knee jerk reaction), My wife and I have worked hard to get what we want and if we have asked for help or money have always promptly paid back that's why people are willing to help us he however owe lots of people including his whole family and has nothing to show for because he never strives for anything unless its given to him.
We have come to a point where we have asked our mate to kick him out and no longer do we talk to him as we feel given all the help and support we have given him that helping him isn't an option anymore as it always gets thrown back in our faces. The problem I am having is should we be helping him as me and my partners stat decks were the only reason he was gonna get them back because we have seen the the deplorable stat she lives in and the kids health, I feel obligated for the kids safety(he cherishes his kids and always has there best interested at heart) to help him but that's it what would you do?
I will try and keep this short so I do apologize if it gets long, Here it goes I have had a rocky past with my wife's brothers girlfriend as she treats him like shit and has no respect for anyone other then herself. Recently She has been attacking him more and more over face book to their friends and just in general. my partners mum passed away a few months back which has been tough on my wife and her brother because there was no will everything gets split evenly down the middle we had organized with him we would take her car and he would have my Holden statesman as he has always wanted one and I have no need for it. Her behavior has been appalling in regards to everything asking for everything they can get and then mentioning it would be worth alot, they were kicked out of where they were previously living because she ran her mouth to her partners friend whom they were staying at back in December last year when he was kicked out by his partner of 10yrs so me and my missus arranged for them to stay with a mate of ours on the proviso that no drugs weren't to be sold at his house (works for a Government Department so will cost him his job if they do) and they both smoke weed and drink. My mate had a friend of mine from the cops call me and him and tell us if they don't stop having "visitors" when his on call they will raid his house(was a warning as he know my mate has nothing to do with it), so he warns them if it happens again he will kick them out which I full understand ( he earns over 120K a year) is not a small wage to lose and he is paying the house off so can't afford to lose his job. During nasty the split from his ex we have supported him in every way he is currently fighting for his kids custody in court.
On top of that the agreement they came to with him meant they split power,food, cleaning and cooking responsibilities and this is one of the main issues has risen from he is but his partner isn't helping around the house or paying there bills without her beening forced to last Friday her daughter just had her 15th birthday which her mum promised her a new laptop she then turns to my mate and says in the same breath "you don't mind if we don't pay rent this week+power this week do you" the power bill had just arrived and tripled $1800 since they moved in because they constantly run all 3 of the air-cons they have access to 4th is in his room which he locks with a key,so he turns and says when yes I do mind as I expect you to pay your bills. her partner says no were paying the bills first much to his credit he does pay his bills on time before spending money on drugs and alcohol she get up and as she is leaving says so your gonna ruin a 15yr old birthday then are you's to. The money isn't an issue for him he hasn't even broken a sweat cover anything extra its the principal of paying your own bills (me and our friend agree).
Her whole attitude towards everything and everyone is fucked
last night his missus decided to go on her usually rant and attack him I had been fighting with my wife over something (not important as neither of us can remember what) and told her to pull her head in and start treating him better as there is no excuse for it(admittedly I should have held my tongue but has been months of things leading to this) to which she starts on me well that didn't end well for her never does I ran a winning debate team for 4 years running in my high school years leading up to year 12, her daughter jumped on and tried to put her 2cents in to which I said this doesn't concern you and before you start acting high and mighty get some life experience (harsh I know but I am a boss of teenagers they think they know it all). At this point my brother in law calls me and says they are not happy with me and my spoilt wife (WTF) and they feel they should get the car from his mum as we have a working car my partners yaris is our day to day car atm but with 2 small kids there isn't much room so her mums car was perfect for what we needed and neither my brother in,law or his girlfriend have a license me and my wife do so my wife turns around and say well then we will sell mums car and possessions split the money evenly down the middle and he say oh well I still get the statesman so it doesn't matter, I calmly said well no you don't as it was gonna be a straight swap car for car. The thing that pisses me off to the point I went around there to beat him for threaten me because I won't give him the car which my mate stopped me and said it isn't worth it( can see his point was a knee jerk reaction), My wife and I have worked hard to get what we want and if we have asked for help or money have always promptly paid back that's why people are willing to help us he however owe lots of people including his whole family and has nothing to show for because he never strives for anything unless its given to him.
We have come to a point where we have asked our mate to kick him out and no longer do we talk to him as we feel given all the help and support we have given him that helping him isn't an option anymore as it always gets thrown back in our faces. The problem I am having is should we be helping him as me and my partners stat decks were the only reason he was gonna get them back because we have seen the the deplorable stat she lives in and the kids health, I feel obligated for the kids safety(he cherishes his kids and always has there best interested at heart) to help him but that's it what would you do?
