Foreigner
Bluelighter
I look forward to addressing this at greater length ...but as side note - yes there's more men in prison than women ... for all manner of crimes ... but there's one crime for which they rarely do time: spousal assault.
I was lucky to survive my ex's final beating/choking bonanza. He'd locked me in our flat. After he'd choked me twice and seemed to be coming at me for a third go, I picked up a rubber mallet and told
him to back off or I'd hit him. He kept coming at me so I hit him twice in the head. He was bleeding a lot and I begged him to let me call an ambulance. Instead he made a noose and said he was going to hang himself (nice move asshole, since my Mum hanged herself in 2013). But he kept rubbing his blood all over my face and suddenly I realised I
had to get out at any cost ... next thing I was trying to escape by climbing down from balcony of
my 4th floor apartment. Of course it couldn't be done. I fell fifty feet and would've been killed, except a small tree broke my fall. The fall did destroy my left knee, however.
The cops told me if I'd died he would've been charged with murder.
Since I did not die he only got charged with common assault (for choking me) and was sentenced to ten month supervision order (reporting once a week to cops).
this despite previous convictions for assault ...
in meantime he told everyone how he chivalrously didn't have
me charged with assault for hitting him with rubber mallet ... because he'd been choking me Oh and I'd broken his nose.
In fact he had 2 minor lacerations on his scalp and it was so obvious that I'd acted in self defense that one cop told me he was proud of me for hitting him.
And yet I still WOULDNT HAVE HIM CHARGED.
Cops had to charge him because I wouldnt.
And I didn't want him charged because I wanted to protect him from a gaol sentence ...
Since all this happened I had some group therapy.
Must say it was mostly bullshit since we were not allowed to explicitly talk about getting assaulted for fear of "triggering" happening. I think most of us had enough experience with scary situations to handle a little "triggering".
We were also made to do kindergarten-level stuff like fill in worksheets and colour in pictures.
The women's shelter was even worse!
Y'know why men don't need DV shelters! Cos they're able to physically remove their wives from the family home and lock the door. I met women who'd been locked out, along with kids, in their pjs or even just their underpants, without so much as a bus fare.rule..
Man thereby retains house and car.
The women I met in shelters - often encumbered with little kids - have to go from shelter to shitty little flat or community housing (sharing with strangers.)
One woman was sledged because she was meant to take her very young kids to share a house with 3 totally strange homeless men.
She was being "sexist".
I appreciate your story and even feel for you, but it's not really responding to anything I said. You brought up all the stuff about how women are disenfranchised and how men aren't, and that we should be less about emotions and more about facts. Then you go telling your story for... what reason? To elicit sympathy or something?