Think 2 needle junkies can last forever? I do. :-)

[theimp]

This is not gonna end well....

and you know this because ? I`m interested really, I agree to an extent but strikes me as lazy making an offhand post like this ? do you intend to qualify this statement or is that too much trouble maybe ? Do you base this on your extensive experience in relationships for example ?

 

[CoffeeDrinker]

^lol that post really affected you didn't it?

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in the event that a relationship like this could work out, it's probably best that it doesn't.

This strikes me as the only necessary response in the thread.
/thread

...I'll elaborate in case any more imps get decide to get uppity.
Codependency feels really good at the time, but you're going to have to deal with the ugly results of this looming problem in the relationship at some point. It's only a matter of time. Also I've found that opiates make me okay with people I naturally am not okay with. Who knows if you even still love the person if you're always getting high with them. Plus there's the whole issue of tolerance and the inevitable depression that being a junkie brings.

What happened that you started off sober together, then you wound up junkies together? Healthy relationships don't generally follow that path. You might be really good at putting up a front, but that's all is at the end of the day.

Why not thrive with someone rather than hobble along in life with someone?

 

[rickolasnice]

There are plenty of threads here, if you look for them, that will imply that your relationship is destined for disaster.. To be honest I don't think I've read about a functioning meth addict.. Heroin addicts, coke addicts, cannabis addicts, sure.. But meth.. especially IV'd.. seems to be an addiction you're unlikely to avoid.. Couple that with being in a relationship with someone that does it too? Super serial.. I'm so.. super serial right now.

I've been in relationships (kind of am in one now) where we will agree to only do something every now and again.. or.. that we won't do substance X again.. All it takes is for one of us to say "I want some X" for the other one to respond with: "yeah me too".. or it's a "noooo but we said" and the other party then saying "yeah but it's been x amount of time / if we only get this much / it's all goooooood"......
Or 1 of you will start using without the other.. causing arguments.. causing more use.. causing more arguments.. causing more use.. You're playing with fire.

I'm sorry. I don't mean to be pessimistic but seriously.. I'm so super serial.

 

[Psyduck]

I'm so super serial.

But have you actually seen Clean-Junky-Dragon?... it's half clean and half junky-dragon, or half sober-junky and half dragon.

 

[will430]

Wow. No this isn't a troll post. I am 23 now. But i know exactly where your coming from. I met my high school sweetheart at the age of 14. We started dating and things went well untill we were both about 17. From 17-19, we both started doing blues and coke. And bars when we had nothing else. We ended up blowing our combined savings for a apartment on blues/blow. At the height of our binge. I ended up crushing 3 blues and snorting them. Then proposed to this girl. We were happy for about 3 months. When we depleted all our money in the end. She deicded she was done with the dope. And i still was using. She ended up breaking up with me. I spent about two weeks drinking a fifth a night and crying. Wondering where it all went wrong. We were perfect for each other, or so i thought. Eventually i put the bottle down after a couple of weeks. Signed up for the army in 2008 and honorably served untill 2011. My contract ended. Moved back home. and started messing around with opana again. Almost four years being sober as a bird in the army. and i come back to my old stomping grounds and fall back into similar ways. Now im on subs. Talk about a disease. Eh..

Trust me, what goes up will come down. And the highs become less high, the lows become very low. Trust me, i lived the junky verision of twilight. And it rarely ends well.

 

[verso]

I'm... skeptical, and that's coming from someone who finds himself in a situation very much similar to yours.

I have been with my significant other for five years now, and we've been using together for about two years; we're not "needle junkies," as we sniff our dope, but we do lots and lots of dope, and often, too.

I'm under no illusion, however, that this can last and that it will not end badly. Ideally and as a couple, we'll clean up our acts and start to move in a different direction, taking on different projects and setting more life-fulfilling goals for ourselves. It's sort of what we've begun to do, albeit slowly, but it may not end that way... it may just fall apart in our hands before we can even make it that far.

It's sad, but it's true, as there are very rarely, very few things in a self-proclaimed junkie's life that one can count on; it's a life, an existence, almost defined by its rickety, unsure, nomadic-ness where everything seems to be just a hair's breadth away from falling apart. But, at any rate, I wish you all the best, OP, and I hope that things go well for you.

 

[theimp]

^lol that post really affected you didn't it?



This strikes me as the only necessary response in the thread.
/thread

...I'll elaborate in case any more imps get decide to get uppity.
Codependency feels really good at the time, but you're going to have to deal with the ugly results of this looming problem in the relationship at some point. It's only a matter of time. Also I've found that opiates make me okay with people I naturally am not okay with. Who knows if you even still love the person if you're always getting high with them. Plus there's the whole issue of tolerance and the inevitable depression that being a junkie brings.

What happened that you started off sober together, then you wound up junkies together? Healthy relationships don't generally follow that path. You might be really good at putting up a front, but that's all is at the end of the day.

Why not thrive with someone rather than hobble along in life with someone?

Uppity was a bit harsh :D lol. Nice post and some good advice and there it is basically...

To the OP, I think you already know the answer to this question don`t you ? If you need reassurance that your relationship will work, then there is likely something amiss. This is not to say it can`t work, only that your heart and head are trying to tell you something. What that is, only you can decide really

Take Care

uppity lol

 

[Lysis]

and you know this because ? I`m interested really, I agree to an extent but strikes me as lazy making an offhand post like this ? do you intend to qualify this statement or is that too much trouble maybe ? Do you base this on your extensive experience in relationships for example ?

I base it on the multiple examples you are welcome to read on this forum.

 

[Lustmord]

No-one here has the sample size to determine whether your relationship will work or not, so don't listen to "It will work!" or "It won't ever work!".

All you can do is try if you love them, and don't let yourself love the drugs more.

 

[pastelcircus]

Lol.

 

[rakeone]

and with needles if you continue and continue eventually one of the two will die. It's not like shooting yourself is really good on the heart

 

[Mr.Scagnattie]

I've had many many junkie relationships and seen even more.... I've never had one that ended with the two of us riding off into the sunset clean and our lives on track. Junkie relationships=destruction... you destroy yourselves as a couple and yourselves as individuals. Sorry for the bleak outlook but I can only go on what I've seen and experienced.. and it ain't good.

 

[theimp]

I base it on the multiple examples you are welcome to read on this forum.

Could I suggest that you link them for the OP so she can better understand the statement you made ? You could try something along the lines of "I think this will end badly.. because "(insert short answer with example links) . It might be best to add that while your examples suggest that this is the case and while the scenarios may indeed be similar and evidence clearly suggests a particular outcome they are in fact... not her.

I agree it`s not as dramatic as "It will end badly...." (thunder clashes in the distance with mournful music) but may in fact provide her with some useful advice.

What do you think ?

 

[amnesiaseizure]

Well first things first is that we pay everything we need to pay for that month. Bills, mcellaneous, things, and the cats. Every little thing is taken care of. Then we take whatever money we have left over and figure the days we wanna go for it. Depends on the days is how we decided how much we are going to get. What we get for that time period is what we get. No calling people when the come down sets in, no pushing bills back or asking for favors. We just get through it together. We help each other out and keep each other healthy and safe and not all freak out. We were actually in a sober committed Relationship when we first got together. We know that this is not something that we are going to do forever. And we also know how it could effect us as a couple. So we also have mutual rules between the two of us that help out.

It doesn't really sound like you're actually addicted to using intravenously, is that right? And what is it you're injecting out of curiosity? I went through this with my gf and thankfully we're still together after giving it all up. Wasn't easy though and it's very true that the rules soon go out the window once you've got a proper h addiction. Good luck to you both, I've got a feeling you'll need it.

 

[Lysis]

I base it on the multiple examples you are welcome to read on this forum.

Could I suggest that you link them for the OP so she can better understand the statement you made ? You could try something along the lines of "I think this will end badly.. because "(insert short answer with example links) . It might be best to add that while your examples suggest that this is the case and while the scenarios may indeed be similar and evidence clearly suggests a particular outcome they are in fact... not her.

I agree it`s not as dramatic as "It will end badly...." (thunder clashes in the distance with mournful music) but may in fact provide her with some useful advice.

What do you think ?

I've been interacting in SLR for 5 years now. Notice how no regular SLR poster is arguing with my statement? That's because we've seen it time in and time out. She's welcome to use the search function.

 

[Pagey]

I base it on the multiple examples you are welcome to read on this forum.

Could I suggest that you link them for the OP so she can better understand the statement you made ? You could try something along the lines of "I think this will end badly.. because "(insert short answer with example links) . It might be best to add that while your examples suggest that this is the case and while the scenarios may indeed be similar and evidence clearly suggests a particular outcome they are in fact... not her.

I agree it`s not as dramatic as "It will end badly...." (thunder clashes in the distance with mournful music) but may in fact provide her with some useful advice.

What do you think ?

There isn't really any point in telling people how to answer posts, just answer how you feel is right and let others do the same

 

[llama112]

I still feel like, if you have your priorities straight, then there is no reason for drug users to not have a successful relationship. If you're smart about things, why not? I mean, I always make sure I have everything paid for before I even think about drugs. Making sure rent, food, phone bill, pets, etc. are paid for first. Putting some money into savings. Then see how much you have left and go from there.
And since you're using needles, make sure you're always using clean needles, etc. Just be as safe as you can be!
Also, being honest! If you have to start hiding your drug use from your partner, that's a big problem. Make sure you're honest about it. If you end up avoiding telling your partner about your drug use on purpose (just avoiding talking about it or lying about it), then that is a sign that you need to figure things out.

 

[Captain.Heroin]

I don't think two people are supposed to stay together forever, let alone two needle users.

Of course there are people who last 50+ years, but in this day and age, it's unreasonable to expect someone to stay with you for the rest of your life or theirs IMO.

 

[GodSpeedK]

Well I can't help but think of that extremely depressing documentary Dope Sick Love, which was about two junkie couples...and yeah, it didn't really work out too well for them.

 

[Pagey]

Well I can't help but think of that extremely depressing documentary Dope Sick Love, which was about two junkie couples...and yeah, it didn't really work out too well for them.

Yeah, or Requiem for a Dream and probably countless other films...
We don't even need to speculate about the accuracy of fiction though, you just need to read through BL to see what the odds are
But as I said OP, I hope you'll beat those odds.