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“Keep thy mind in Hell, and despair not.” — St. Silouan the Athonite
He heard these words while he was asking God why he was no longer able to pray.
There’s this pull in me that never dies. It’s in my blood — a restlessness, a hunger that used to be fed by pills, powders, and bottles. Mostly stimulants: Adderall when I wanted to feel sharp, meth when I wanted to feel alive, then alcohol or Xanax when I wanted to come down or forget. That cocktail became my rhythm — up, up, up, and then crash into silence.
As a chef, it was almost expected. You live in heat, grease, noise, adrenaline. The kitchen becomes a war zone and a home at the same time. Everyone’s running on something — caffeine, nicotine, energy drinks, sometimes worse. The rush of service feels a lot like a high: the focus, the sweat, the noise that turns into rhythm. For a few hours, you’re God behind the line, calling shots, making order out of chaos. So why not enhance it? Like a pro athlete taking steroids.
And when the tickets stop printing, and the burners go quiet, the silence hits like a hammer. That’s when the crash comes. The body still humming, the mind still wired, but you go to your empty home, and the soul is empty. So you find something — a drink, a pill, a line — to stretch the night a little longer. To keep from feeling the drop. That became my normal.
Orthodoxy, though — it demands something else. It doesn’t offer escape; it offers exposure. The light that doesn’t flatter but reveals. Faith doesn’t let you hide behind speed or sleep. It says, “Look at yourself. Look at what you’ve become. And still, don’t despair.”
That’s where St. Silouan’s words live for me — in that space between the craving and the confession. Keep thy mind in Hell, and despair not. I’ve learned that “Hell” isn’t just a place of punishment. It’s the moment at 3 a.m. when your heart’s racing from too much coke and you’re praying God doesn’t let it stop. It’s the hangover that feels like judgment. It’s showing up to Liturgy reeking of last night and standing there, unworthy, and still whispering, “Lord, have mercy.”
I've never actually wanted to quit, I still don't see it happening for a while. The kitchen can make you feel like a soldier — always in motion, always under fire. You can’t slow down without falling behind, so you fuel yourself however you can.
But Orthodoxy slows you down. It forces silence where the world screams. That silence is the hardest part. When I’m not numb or wired, I actually feel — the guilt, the loneliness, the ache for God, the shame of the relapse. That’s when I understand what the Fathers meant by spiritual warfare. It’s not demons whispering; it’s the sound of your own heart arguing with grace.
There’s something about the rhythm of the kitchen that mirrors my spiritual life — the chaos, the discipline, the repetition. You clean, prep, fire, plate, repeat. Every day feels like confession: same sins, different day. But slowly, something changes. Not the pace, not the pressure — just me.
I’ve learned that grace doesn’t always feel like peace. Sometimes it feels like exhaustion that doesn’t end in despair. Sometimes it’s just the strength to show up again — sober or not — and keep trying.
When I read about the saints, I used to think holiness meant purity — no cracks, no stains. But I think maybe it’s more like a scar that never fully heals but still closes. My addictions are very active. My temptations are stronger than ever. But I try to learn to hold them without giving them power — to see them, confess them, and keep walking.
So I stay. I pray badly. I fall constantly. I feel unworthy of everything the Church gives me. But I keep my mind in hell and try, somehow, not to despair.
Because maybe the point isn’t to be completely free of the struggle — maybe it’s to remain faithful inside it. To walk through the fire of your own making and still believe Christ waits on the other side.
And when I’m standing on the line during dinner rush — hands shaking from caffeine and Adderall, the double shot whiskey ginger waiting for me at the bar for when I close — I remind myself: salvation might look a lot like this. Heat, noise, chaos, and the small, steady voice inside saying, don’t despair.
“Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner.”
Edit: I intend to make more blog posts throughout my journey, this comes off more preachy than I anticipated, I'm not here to convert or say the Church is your only way to heal. It's my personal account of struggling between two powerful and opposing things.
He heard these words while he was asking God why he was no longer able to pray.
There’s this pull in me that never dies. It’s in my blood — a restlessness, a hunger that used to be fed by pills, powders, and bottles. Mostly stimulants: Adderall when I wanted to feel sharp, meth when I wanted to feel alive, then alcohol or Xanax when I wanted to come down or forget. That cocktail became my rhythm — up, up, up, and then crash into silence.
As a chef, it was almost expected. You live in heat, grease, noise, adrenaline. The kitchen becomes a war zone and a home at the same time. Everyone’s running on something — caffeine, nicotine, energy drinks, sometimes worse. The rush of service feels a lot like a high: the focus, the sweat, the noise that turns into rhythm. For a few hours, you’re God behind the line, calling shots, making order out of chaos. So why not enhance it? Like a pro athlete taking steroids.
And when the tickets stop printing, and the burners go quiet, the silence hits like a hammer. That’s when the crash comes. The body still humming, the mind still wired, but you go to your empty home, and the soul is empty. So you find something — a drink, a pill, a line — to stretch the night a little longer. To keep from feeling the drop. That became my normal.
Orthodoxy, though — it demands something else. It doesn’t offer escape; it offers exposure. The light that doesn’t flatter but reveals. Faith doesn’t let you hide behind speed or sleep. It says, “Look at yourself. Look at what you’ve become. And still, don’t despair.”
That’s where St. Silouan’s words live for me — in that space between the craving and the confession. Keep thy mind in Hell, and despair not. I’ve learned that “Hell” isn’t just a place of punishment. It’s the moment at 3 a.m. when your heart’s racing from too much coke and you’re praying God doesn’t let it stop. It’s the hangover that feels like judgment. It’s showing up to Liturgy reeking of last night and standing there, unworthy, and still whispering, “Lord, have mercy.”
I've never actually wanted to quit, I still don't see it happening for a while. The kitchen can make you feel like a soldier — always in motion, always under fire. You can’t slow down without falling behind, so you fuel yourself however you can.
But Orthodoxy slows you down. It forces silence where the world screams. That silence is the hardest part. When I’m not numb or wired, I actually feel — the guilt, the loneliness, the ache for God, the shame of the relapse. That’s when I understand what the Fathers meant by spiritual warfare. It’s not demons whispering; it’s the sound of your own heart arguing with grace.
There’s something about the rhythm of the kitchen that mirrors my spiritual life — the chaos, the discipline, the repetition. You clean, prep, fire, plate, repeat. Every day feels like confession: same sins, different day. But slowly, something changes. Not the pace, not the pressure — just me.
I’ve learned that grace doesn’t always feel like peace. Sometimes it feels like exhaustion that doesn’t end in despair. Sometimes it’s just the strength to show up again — sober or not — and keep trying.
When I read about the saints, I used to think holiness meant purity — no cracks, no stains. But I think maybe it’s more like a scar that never fully heals but still closes. My addictions are very active. My temptations are stronger than ever. But I try to learn to hold them without giving them power — to see them, confess them, and keep walking.
So I stay. I pray badly. I fall constantly. I feel unworthy of everything the Church gives me. But I keep my mind in hell and try, somehow, not to despair.
Because maybe the point isn’t to be completely free of the struggle — maybe it’s to remain faithful inside it. To walk through the fire of your own making and still believe Christ waits on the other side.
And when I’m standing on the line during dinner rush — hands shaking from caffeine and Adderall, the double shot whiskey ginger waiting for me at the bar for when I close — I remind myself: salvation might look a lot like this. Heat, noise, chaos, and the small, steady voice inside saying, don’t despair.
“Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner.”
Edit: I intend to make more blog posts throughout my journey, this comes off more preachy than I anticipated, I'm not here to convert or say the Church is your only way to heal. It's my personal account of struggling between two powerful and opposing things.
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