Agreed. I went to a Halloween party yesterday (my first party in a long time) and learned that 1. I can have a good time not blasted out of my mind, and 2. most people don't get completely wasted. Anyone get my costume?
Thank you for your kind encouragement, Lady. It's humbling to go to these parties now sober, and see that I was pretty much the only one that would get shitfaced. I've learned that an addict can never say never, but I hope that chapter is behind me.A, I also meant to add this to my last post...I'm super proud of you for not drinking at the party! I know how tempting it can be in those kind of situations and I know you have anxiety issues and I wanna say KUDOS to you for going and still having a good time! I think you're making tremendous progress this go round :D
Thank you for the encouragement, Lady. I just stopped at my mother's on the way to my friend's wedding (flew to Nashville - had a few things to do there) and borrowed her car so I didn't have to bother with a rental and drove to Illinois, so I won't be going there for Thanksgiving. I don't have any firm plans yet, but I was thinking about having a small group of friends over in the evening after everyone's done with their family obligations, and getting one of those small, catered holiday meals from The Fresh Market. I can't do the AA Thanksgiving thing again. That was just too fucking depressing. It would be far less depressing to be at home with takeout Chinese and football or a movie on the TV, and perhaps going out in the kayak (I live on a lake) with Sonny now that he has a spiffy life preserver of his own.Kudos! Enjoy your thanksgiving! You going to your mothers? I know you and her have an interesting relationship..
Some can drink and not experience negative effects. Studies are now showing even 1 drink per day isn't actually health benefiting.It's true that when I sobered up I realized people didn't drink as much as I had thought they did. However, I always knew I was an alcoholic (since about age 16). I was the guy who drank before the party, drank the most at the party, was the last to pass out, and was the first one up drinking again in the morning. This on top of excessive use of various drugs. If I'd known I would live this long, I'd have taken better care of myself.
Peace&Love,
jasper
"Man invented language to satisfy his deep need to complain." -- Lily Tomlin
Getting "out" of the addiction will never happen. I mean we will always be wired to return to old ways once we have learned them. However we can change and become free from addiction and thoughts of using. Cravings may be caused by a need that is going unmet or perhaps not so much however they should reduce and diminish completely over time, a long time.Halloween was a fun sober time for me. I still have mad cravings when I go out but doing more family stuff really helps. I still don?t feel like I?m out of the addiction and will never be. I have faith this month will be better. Look forward to helping others when I can.
For me they have gone away but as you said we will never be out of the addiction.