Hey, so I'm actually a trans male sex worker. I used to do more conventional stuff, now I'm much more a higher class escort.
My initial foray into sex work was actually to pay for my testosterone while homeless. I had no welfare payments and I needed the prescription filled. I'd sort of always known there was significantly higher interest in trans rather than cis sex workers, but I never thought it would apply to me.
I didn't initially engage with it as I (correctly) feared it would create a vicious cycle. Eventually my drug use increased with my introduction to intravenous meth and temporary access to heroin and I started in earnest.
I advertised on Craigslist personal back when this was a thing, and I'd deliberately make myself sound disgusting. 'ftm tranny slut' and shit like that so I would be sure to get people contacting me. I needed the drugs. Problem was, there was a huge power imbalance and it was obvious from the start. I got paid between $50-$150 to have sex with men old enough to be my dad, who would often deliberately misgender me in anger when I refused to wear women's clothing, and demand I refer to myself often as a 'dirty little girl's or 'daddys princess'. Often they wouldn't even let me shower after they were done, they'd just throw the money at me telling me to walk home.
It actually fucked me up so much because my original childhood trauma was being intentionally misgendered by way of being sexually abused as an assigned female person and it was blow by blow living it over and over again.
But I couldn't go without the money. When I went to rehab in late 2017 my friend begged me to stop doing sex work when he found out that was how I afforded the drugs. He bluntly stated he could imagine it resulting in a relapse. I promptly agreed.
I did a bunch of work on this in therapy over the years and eventually dipped my toes back in but in a very different nature. Now it isn't my main source of income. If I see two people in a week or two in two months I'm unbothered. I don't meet pushy clients, nor ones that don't respect the hours I have set for being contacted. I do not enagage with people who demand additional pictures, as I'm very upfront about being discreet and ensuring that for my clients. I am unwavering that if they bring up me being trans at any stage during sexual activities that their money is forfeit and the session over - I'm aware it's a fetish, but I don't actually have to hear it. They can book a another seperate session if they are so interested in it. I have had to adhere to that rule twice in 2 years. I don't agree to see anyone who thinks my prices are steep or I'm asking too much. I am literally the sole trans male sex worker in the entire stage on the agency website. my price is the market price and what I say is valid goes. If they dont want to pay, they can go without. I don't see people who try to get a bargain or ask me to do a 15 minute session because they don't want to pay for the full 30. And I never see people who don't pay me upfront. Most of all, I won't do outcall to a new client until I have a decent read on them.
A lot of the time I don't actually spend having sex these days. Coffee dates and dinner dates, listening to clients rant about work, hearing about impending divorces. Basic bitch stuff. Going on walks. They want the partner experience and I can provide it. And it's lucrative money for me when I want some extra cash. Even the sex stuff isn't bad anymore. I have a couple of clients my age or younger who just have really specific kinks, like one submissive guy who just begged me to twist his nipples for 30 min then he nutted in my sink because he's not allowed to cum while having sex, apparently. Weird but who am I to judge. I just get paid.
However I say this with full force. Do not do sex work to pay for basic necessities or anything you are unable to live without. Do not do it out of necessity. It will ruin your life and more and strip your soul from your body. You will learn new ways to hate yourself. Sometimes I left seeing clients crying about only being paid $150 because if I had gotten double that I'd have been able to afford enough heroin to try and kill myself.
If it does that much damage to you and you also have a trauma connection like I do, take a very extended leave of absence from it. Completely. I am seriously not lying when I said I didn't do it in 5 years. Not one single thing. Then when I did, I flipped it on its head. I made it my choice, with my rules, for my money, and my boundaries. No questions asked, no second chances.
The only way I am able to do it now is that I also do not enagage with it to have extra money for drugs again. It's just nice stuff. The last thing I bought myself was a Nintendo switch.
Sex work *is* work. But it has to fully be free and consenting. I find it liberating to have all the power in the relationship now because I have want they want and they have nothing really that I need.
However, it is important to remember that I also am in a unique position being asexual for the most part. So every once in a while when my sex drive would get triggered I'd find some random off Grindr and hook up with them. And I'd think the whole time 'fuck this is boring and a chore he should really be paying me' until it dawned on me. I could fix the bi monthly asexual desire, and get paid. It's a chore to me anyway. Why not get $500 for an hour of work with someone who wants to worship my body.
In short, do not recommend if you need to do this to make ends meet.
However if you can establish good personal boundaries and have no moral issues it's very flexible and lucrative.
Also lol did some guy just say trannies are all men? I love when tramsphobic people are so stupid and ignorant they compliment me without meaning to. Thanks man. Wanna talk to me about my tranny penis now too? I reckon it's super cool when I donate $50 to some guys fundraiser to help out since he seems in a bad spot then he reveals himself to be a full transphobe. Really makes me feel like money well spent. Should have donated it to my local trans group. But ah well, he can live in peace being aggressively tramsphobic to people like me for zero reason while knowing a gross disgusting tranny was kind enough to donate to him. Funny now the world works hey.
