The Lolie Appreciation Thread

OverDone

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If anyone deserves an appreciation thread it is YOU

<3 <3 <3 You've only been with us a short time but... DAMN GIRL!!!!!! You have been a HUGE asset to TDS!!!!

Your experience, knowledge and sharp perception has helped so many!

Personally, I am grateful for the words I read that you have so thoughtfully typed out for so many of us here <3

you have definitely helped make TDS a better resource for those that struggle

LOLIE RULES!!!!
 
Lolie, i've only known you for a few days. Your experince in addiction helps me stay sober. hearing your hope gives me hope.
I like to say i'm alone in this shit, but it's bs.

thanks for the positive feedback, you have something going for you!
<3 <3

*friends request sent*
:)
 
This is great...I don't know you very well Lolie but you have a lot of insight and I appreciate everything that you share here :)
 
This is incredibly weird. I was going to post the SAME EXACT thread yesterday but I was suspended.
And it was gonna have the same exact title something along the lines of appreciating Lolie. At the exact minute I came to post it, I saw the thread right underneath and actually though "did I already post it?", I had to look at the name and saw it was Overdone and was like "wtf you have to be kidding me" lol.

But about a week ago I tried pmin Lolie to tell her somethings, noticed she doesn't take pms which is why I wanted to make the thread for x-mas.

Lolie ALWAYS deduces a post to the single most important thing and addresses that issue. I have seen her read threads before, and pick out concepts that over overwhelmingly important, and even obvious, but it seems she is the only one who notices them.
Lolie ALWAYS has the strictest attitude of professionalism. NEVER gets too emotional about anything and always has something extremely concise and important to say.
Lolie rarely if ever complains about her own problems in threads, or her own experiences, and is always backing up her positions with sound empirical knowledge.
Lolie also comes off extremely educated, and my pm to her was to ask her if she had an LPC or was qualified in helping people with mental disorders. She appears to know things and treat issues in a way that you would expect from a doctor. I will often read her responses after reading a very lengthy post, and it really is amazing how she can look through a wall of irrelevant information and pick out the fundamentally most important thing in that post to address. Her mind seems biologically geared towards solving problems, and she has an uncanning degree of intelligence towards everything she says.

I also want to say her posts are always the most helpful, and if she ever became moderator I'd absolutely consider her the "Queen Bee" lol. She is ALWAYS using practical knowledge, and things people can relate to, and she knows what solutions are dumb and what solutions work. At one point when I first met her I thought she was the female version of me... then I realized I'm not even close to the level shes at. She never breaks character to complain or bitch, always focuses on the person at hand, and always has sound advice to give. Nor does she EVER get frustrated when people don't seem to be improving, and she just keeps on keeping on.

Lolie is also one person noone should hate just because shes incredibly smart. If you pay close enough attention to her posts she really deserves every amount of thanks she gets. And I don't think bluelight could realistically thank her enough for everything shes done. At one point she just use to post and noone ever really made an effort to thank her, but I knew soon enough there'd be some kind of consensus that shes simply the best when it comes to helping people.
 
valuable member of the forum for sure, and I appreciate the work and thought she puts into all her posts :)<3
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I heard that we dont actually mine diamonds but rather miners go into Lolies bathroom everytime she does a "# 2" and fetches them from the toilet lol.


(sry I had to do that)


edit: QUASI just cleared them out buddy give me an update!!
 
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Bojangles! Clear out your PM'S dude, lol.

Sorry to intrude on this thread guys, I haven't been around for the past 5 months and haven't read any of your posts Lolie, but it sounds like you've been contributing a lot on this board and that's great!
 
Wow.

To address a few points raised by Bo. I have my PMs set to friends and contacts and I do accept friends requests.

I have no formal qualifications in the area of substance abuse but I spent ten years of my life from the early 80s to the mid 90s in the field of HIV/AIDS which involved a huge amount of immersion in harm minimisation. That was the time when needle exchanges were being set up here, when injecting drug users gained a political voice, when the goal of methadone programmes shifted from reduction to maintenance, etc. All of those things were created from the ground up with no road map.

I did study some behavioural science units as part of a degree I never completed in Criminology and Criminal Justice and a lot of the issues involved in addressing criminality are similar to those involved in addressing longterm substance abuse.

I do get frustrated at times, but the great thing about forums like this is that they offer a unique combination of intimacy and distance - I can walk away from the keyboard when I'm feeling frustrated and come back later. I can comment or not on any given thread depending on whether I think I can contribute anything useful.

My own struggles with both alcohol and mental illness have taught me that there is always another option. Even when you think you've exhausted them all, there are still other options to explore if you can summon the energy to try something else. From personal experience I know just how hard summoning that energy can be.

I try to keep in mind that our goal here isn't to "fix" anyone. While I do try to focus on the OP of any particular thread, I'm aware that what I say may turn out to be more useful to someone else reading the thread than it is to the OP - and that's fine. I'm just putting the ideas out there in the hope that they'll benefit someone, even if that someone isn't the OP.

Anyway, that's enough about me. I love this place and hope to be a part of it for a long time to come - the good, the bad, the ugly, the successes, and the inevitable sadnesses.
 
Dammit! Lolie, I posted earlier but my hindernet connection must have bailed. Anyway, it went a bit like this:
Lolie, you dont beat around the bush, you are heartfeltly honest and have helped alot of people on TDS. Much respect! Look forward to your future posts you straight talkin woman! :)
 
Lollie.

I actually thought you may have a degree in either mental illness or drug addiction as well.
But then again those who know the most are those who have been through it and come out the other end.
I know I have commented before that if I ever get strung out again I want you as my sponsor. I wasn't kidding.
You are truly a gem in the darkside.
I've seen you say things that are just spot on and I mean spot on.
Stay just the way you are and I would love to read your story someday.
Thank you for all the good work you have done and are going to do in the darkside.
Peace prayers and good health
Tammie
 
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