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aliencowstorm

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I took my second bike ride today and it felt wonderful. It hurt, it blinded, it was amazing. I was wondering what others in SL were doing to fill your day outside of work/looking for work and outside of traditional recovery work.

I decided to pick up bike riding. I hate running and I needed something to do that would take me out of myself. I wanted to hear what others do to get outside of self.
 
I receive weekly email updates from a website called Meetups.com. I'd advise checking it out; if i don't actually attend the listed events, they at least provide me with ideas about what to do with myself on those days.
 
I would workout every single day even for just half an hour of cardio. I am currently on month 6 from an mdma comedown and exercise has helped me a lot when it comes to anxiety. I actually went on a hike today here in grouse grind vancouver where you can challenge yourself by goin up on the grouse mountain as fast as you can. Usually people will do about two hours bt since I've been workin out a lot I did it for an hour! :)

Just to add as well I'm plannin to do this weekly for intense cardio workout.
 
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Jonnavi said:
I would workout every single day even for just half an hour of cardio. I am currently on month 6 from an mdma comedown and exercise has helped me a lot when it comes to anxiety. I actually went on a hike today here in grouse grind vancouver where you can challenge yourself by goin up on the grouse mountain as fast as you can. Usually people will do about two hours bt since I've been workin out a lot I did it for an hour! :)
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Holy crap. Well, I'm no where near that level, but that's awesome. As for the MDMA come down, I remember those as hurting a lot, especially when I'd do it without a pretty good break inbetween doses.
 
I definitely agree with posters above with respect to when my body had become cleared enough from the drug abuse, my engagement AND enjoyment in physical activity shot skyward. It feels wonderful! %)
 
Vaya said:
I definitely agree with posters above with respect to when my body had become cleared enough from the drug abuse, my engagement AND enjoyment in physical activity shot skyward. It feels wonderful! %)
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Same here. I've been free and clear of opiates for 2 weeks now and the simple fact that I can get on a bike and ride is such a wonderful feeling. I am fortunate enough to have an off road trail by my house and the wild flowers are in bloom here in Texas. It's an amazing and beautiful thing to enjoy without the drugs in me. I'll have to take a small camera with me and snap some shots.
 
aliencowstorm said:
I'll have to take a small camera with me and snap some shots.
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Neat idea; I've been wanting to break out my camera for a long time, now. Helps that my girlfriend is a photographer, too.... ;) I just need to get the chain on my bicycle fixed!!!
 
Vaya said:
Neat idea; I've been wanting to break out my camera for a long time, now. Helps that my girlfriend is a photographer, too.... ;) I just need to get the chain on my bicycle fixed!!!
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I went down to a bike shop this weekend to replace some bearings in the crank shaft of my daughters bike and the guy looked at me like I was crazy. He said it would be cheaper to buy a new bile at walmart than replace the bearings.

I looked at him and asked, are you an idiot? Give me your ordering guide and I'll handle it myself. A manager came over and I had to explain to him what I was doing. They both looked at me like I was talking with a dick strapped to my head. I then showed them what I was looking for and after all that the part was like 12 bucks.

Why in the hell would I buy a new bike when I can replace the broken part? I probably shouldn't have called the guy an idiot, but he was treating me like I was a moron so I childishly returned the sentiment.

This behavior is NOT condusive to staying sober I'm certain. I'm doing a tenth tonight on this and I'll probably even do an 8th and go back and apologize for being the asshole that I was.
 
I'm working 7 days a week right now. Other than that I go to meetings, see some friends occasionally, do a bit of yoga, hang with my parents, take my dogs to the park, and try to spend quality time with my love. We have a plan to move to Hawaii in a little less than 2 years from now, at which point I will take a few months off to relax. I just ask try to stay in the moment and ask God to guide my actions every day. This is what has been given to me and I am basically really happy.
 
aliencowstorm said:
This behavior is NOT condusive to staying sober I'm certain. I'm doing a tenth tonight on this and I'll probably even do an 8th and go back and apologize for being the asshole that I was.
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No its not, you should go. Because once you get clean and you mind is really clear you often remember things like this. Once enough of them accumulate it just becomes one more reason to feel bad, doubt if youre a good person even, perhaps relapse or generaly feel bad about who you are. I know that I remember such "small" disagreements pretty much forever, once youre completely honest to yourself, these things often come back to bite you in the a*s. I remember once I tried to park my car and I got very pis*od off at a sec. guard cause parking was not allowed and I was in a hurry. But then 10 min later I felt like a complete d*ck. I probably wouldnt go back but then I thought because of this girl at that time, do I really want her to be with a dude like this, who acts like a neanderthal and a douche to people. I hate people like this. Looking objectively from afar Id say that guy is a moron (me). So went back and apologized and the guy was very nice and explained very kindly why its a problem parking there and so on... We dont see it but besides affecting us such actions make other peoples days like crap and eventually it just comes full circle back to us direcly or indirectly.
 
Nice reply, placid space :D

aliencowstorm said:
This behavior is NOT condusive to staying sober I'm certain. I'm doing a tenth tonight on this and I'll probably even do an 8th and go back and apologize for being the asshole that I was.
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For your sobriety's sake, I'm compelled to ask you how in the world this reaction to the event is, in any way shape or form, appropriate?

We all make mistakes. We can rectify those mistakes - which you would be doing by offering an apology. Such an action ought never require prerequisite drug use, however!

*edit* Based on other posts you've made, I have a feeling I may have misinterpreted what you were saying here; and if so, my deepest apologies! ~ Vaya

Mr.Scagnattie said:
My girlfriend has been getting me to come with her running and stuff on nice days. It's been nice, although my endurance is shit right now, hah. She can run circles around me.
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Exercising with another person is, IME, the BEST way to keep it going consistently. That's a really healthy dynamic (not just physically!) you two have, there; props!

PS my girlfriend can run circles around me, too ;)
Although since I switched from tobacco to vaping, I may have a fighting chance of eventually meeting her half way!! *fingers crossed*
 
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PS my girlfriend can run circles around me, too ;)
Although since I switched from tobacco to vaping, I may have a fighting chance of eventually meeting her half way!! *fingers crossed*
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Yeah man I need to switch back too. I quit smoking for a year by using e-cigs and noticed a huge boost in my endurance. I'd definitely like to have that back.
 
I like playing basketball with my friends, hitting the beach or just driving to nowhere and back with some buddies. I think the best thing is just goofing off and laughing with good people that helps me the most.
 
Vaya said:
Nice reply, placid space :D



For your sobriety's sake, I'm compelled to ask you how in the world this reaction to the event is, in any way shape or form, appropriate?

We all make mistakes. We can rectify those mistakes - which you would be doing by offering an apology. Such an action ought never require prerequisite drug use, however!

*edit* Based on other posts you've made, I have a feeling I may have misinterpreted what you were saying here; and if so, my deepest apologies! ~ Vaya

This was absolutely not appropriate and I went back today to make ammends. I've found that I have a pretty short fuze right now and I need to get right with things. I've decided to cut back on human interaction (except for meetings and family of course) wherever possible.

Something is wrong mentally and probably spiritually for me to have behaved in that manner. I'm a pretty laid back guy in general and that outburst and my lingering resentment about the interaction was pretty negative overall.

I mean, I knew I was wrong when I was doing it, but for whatever reason the brakes were off and my mouth was just passing vile garbage out of it. Meh...maybe I should start actively looking for a sponsor.
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Mass08 said:
I like playing basketball with my friends, hitting the beach or just driving to nowhere and back with some buddies. I think the best thing is just goofing off and laughing with good people that helps me the most.
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Goofing off certainly is a pretty fun thing to do! My kids find me annoying when I goof off, must mean I'm doing it right.

As for baseball...I LOVE baseball. I haven't been able to play in over 4 years, but would love to get back out on the diamond for some softball (aging sure has made me soft) in a local league.

I think I'll stick to meetings and working on my sobriety before I even think about doing any of that though.
 
I ride my bike all the time. It is one of the only things I have going for me that is positive right now. It really helps me relax and I'll go on several mile-long trips juts to get the hell away from my environment for a little while.

I want to ride bike across country, but I don't really want to do it alone.

Other than that I make fires in the backyard and read manga and watch anime as much as I can. I always have a lot of friends who want to hang out with me, I'm actually a luck son of a bitch I'm starting to realize.....I'm real lucky I have what I do have......just been looking at life differently after having a long serious talk with some friends who are worried about me.

I miss my stamina and strength.....I'm kind of out of shape and mostly just depressed, smoking too many cigs because of stress. I want to make this right, I'm typically someone who loves hard physical labor/ workouts of all kinds.
 
I picked up something that is SSOOO habbit forming....peanut butter fudge. Holy shit...I need to stay away from that crap...I'm going to turn into the stay puffed marshmellow man eating that stuff.
 
I haven't been able to get on my bike for three days now. We've been having some really shitty weather here in Texas. No where near as back as OKC (they are in my thoughts and prayers), but it's sucked not being able to get onto the trail.

Tomorrow should be a great day though. It will probably still be a bit muddy, but I'm a boy and I like me some mud.
 
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