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The holiday support thread v you're not alone

atelier said:
Christmas Eve - busted - dangers of living alone and not making plans to keep oneself healthily occupied and in touch with sober people.

Today is going to be a loooong day.

Partner dumped me a few weeks back but my asshole family is making her guest of honor at their Xmas celebrations today and leaving me guilt and shame inducing messages about my not being grown up and coming "for the sake of the children"

Can't decide whether to go on a road trip or head straight for an extended in-patient detox on my private health insurance.

Most likely i will just watch crap tv and fume at the injustice of it all until a handful of anti-psychotics brings a close to my lonely solo festivities and sends me to slumberland for a day

But don't let me bring you folks down- I honestly wish all here a happy healthy holiday season.
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That's a few triggers right there, atelier and I hope you get through this ok. If you are still considering in-patient detox, just go because that's what insurance is for. Don't be afraid to vent and keep us posted how you're doing!

Merry Christmas to everyone here reading! Much Love! <3
 
Merry Christmas to you too TC.
A I'd ise the detox. Sorry you're Christmas is how it is. Doesn't seem right that your family are onviting your ex instead of you - but I suppose if there's children involved but nontheless doesn't she have her own family to go to? Your family should be there for you not leaving you alone at Christmas so I feel for you.
Thinking of you n sorry
Evey x
 
Thanks Ad Lib, Tc and Evie. - comforting to know there are warm thoughts out there - right back at ya.

Yep - the only sensible thing is detox ASAP to break my going round in ever crazier circles.

Just need to find one suitable for meth + underlying psychiatric condition

Will keep all updated

And if anyone is really doing it tough today feel free to PM me if you just want to vent or whatever - I'm all ears today and happy to listen even if I don't have any advice to offer anyone much.
 
Good A. Would detox places accept people this time of year? It's different here we have what's called the National Health Service (NHS). It's free but there's huge waiting lists n people have to go to a pre-detox group a few times before (I assume it's like a few meetings) so sometimes it benefits to pay/use insurance if you can get into one asap n not have to allowed meetings to be allowed to go.
That's lovely of you to listen to others even though you're going through your own stuff today of all days, that shows a truly decent person that does no matter what people say. Yeah you may have made your mistakes - haven't we all. But you're wanting to do something about that.
All the best to you,
Evey

Sorry to double post but as I 've mentioned on the 'vent' thread those of you alone today have you checked out your local salvation Army? They usually do a Christmas meal n not just for homeless but also for people who are on their own at Christmas.

Evey xxxx
 
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How's everyone doing today? You're all in my thoughts & I'm sending much love to each one of you. We're almost there you guys <3
 
I'm not alone, but I'm not in a good way.

I am however with my dad which means he isn't spending christmas alone after losing his partner just before xmas last year and that is really helping my mental state.
 
^ that's good that you can spend quality time with him owen.
 
been arguing with my dad who lives interstate, first time i haven't spoken to him on christmas, ever i think... rest of fams gone away for holidays, nobody i know awake yet.
First reaction is to feel bad, second reaction is 'what did he ever do anyway'. not quite sure how i feel right now.

oh well, drugs.
 
Absolutely.

I hated him until I was about 16 and now we're really starting to understand each other. I can see that many of my failures were learnt from him, as were many of my attributes.

Now we are just learning too be friends and it's actually really amazing. I still feel upset that I missed out on pretty much any form of emotional guidance or parenting other than being a superb provider for the family, but as I get older I understand that it wasn't hiis fault and he didn't have the skills to pass on the guidance I needed because he had never been taught by his parents. I don't think I saw him show any emotion other than anger towards me until his partner died a year ago, and luckily I was in the right place at the time to help him through it.

I am making sure that this will never ever happen if I have kids, I will not leave them feeling lacking in a father who can teach them about how to be a man.
 
I actually had a rocly relationship with my father for so many years when I think of it now its probly most of my life. I was the black sheep of the family but when I went through a comedown a year ago from an untested molky he was there for me. I realized that he was protecting me and tryin to straighten me up this time so I'm doin my best right now for him and my family
 
Also, at the risk of sounding controversial, once a dude starts to realise his son would knock him senseless if things got physical attitudes change a bit!

I don't think that is what is going on here because I still wouldn't fancy a tear up with my old man though. :)

Wtf is an untested molky, speak English to me please! A bad ecstasy pill?
 
^yup a bad e it was a horrible experience and it made me realize that I won't be invincible forever with drug use. It happened dec 1 and I really thought I won't recover but here I am I survived it and I'm celebrating holidays and spendong time with my dad. He deserves the recognition.
 
I'm not sure but it was bad.

So are you treating your dad somewhere?
 
We are having xmas dinner tomorrow when the step-sisters come round.

I had a big tasting menu planned for today for us but I'm rattling a bit so it was half arsed.

Still, I made:

Dauphinoise soup monte au foie gras with black truffle
Roast scallops, cauliflower risotto and meat juice vinaigrette
Roast foie gras with blueberry compote and ginger crumb
Loin of roe deer and asparagus with a pepper and citrus zest red wine sauce
 
omen.. no one will want to eat that stuff.. SO GET RID OF IT BY AIRMAILING IT TO MY PLACE;).. shit sir pretty nice spread there..

I just want to say.. the best part of the holidays is when they are over.. shits just to stressful.. ugg.. the big one about done..
 
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