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The holiday support thread v you're not alone

^^ It made me smile to read that, I'm glad you are doing that :).

I hope I can, lets just say I've had my fair share of 'false starts' already so I'm not holding out much hope tbh.

I just really cant wait for this time of year to be over, it is ridiculously uncomfortable for me and I'm not sure how to deal with the whole alcohol thing this time of year. I know when I go for family meals I will be 'expected' to drink and I don't really know how to explain to them I don't want to.
 
Hehd glad I made you smile.

I did a lot of fuckups too, this prevented me from going into a more professional career but what's done is done and I can't do much about it.

I've been working in this company for more than 5 years now and through my hard work I got promoted. I still want to take courses in a different field just in case something happens like if I get laid off then I still have a backup.
 
Maya said:
Hehd glad I made you smile.

I did a lot of fuckups too, this prevented me from going into a more professional career but what's done is done and I can't do much about it.

I've been working in this company for more than 5 years now and through my hard work I got promoted. I still want to take courses in a different field just in case something happens like if I get laid off then I still have a backup.
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dop you feel it is too late to start a 'professional career'? :(
 
Nope but it'll cost a lot of money. If I had the money why not! I'm jyst happy where I am right now. I feel like I got lucky being with this company :)
 
^^ :) this thread fills me with hope :) and I agree, Maya, you are very sensible, I think you will do very well :). This thread is really helping me tbh, at least it is keeping some of the extremely negative self talk and feelings at bay, especially at this time of year :).

On a really positive note, today is the end of my 17th day with no alcohol and I looked in the mirror today and my skin looks sooo much clearer and healthier. :). Whenever I drink alcohol it really effects my complexion for days and gives me an acne breakout.
 
I've mixed feelings about the holiday, I feel very much under pressure to makeha sure my 2 children have a great time which I can manage OK.

I find it hard with all that drink around, it's been 3 years since I drank but there are still times when I very much want one, the constant explaining about it doesn't help.

The worst of it this year is that my father has descended into quite advanced Dementia and is now being very unpleasant towards my mother, apart from my partner none of the family see to want to even admit there is a problem. I never managed to achieve the relationship with him I wanted to and can never forget how he let me down when I needed him most. I was in a mental health unit and he visited with my mother, I had asked a number of people to come in as I had things I wanted to say, mostly to acknowledge that I had held bitterness against them for past issues but accepted now that I loved them and wanted to try and be closer to them.

My father said very little as I explained how I had felt as a child and that I just wanted to move forward, that I respected and loved him and really needed him to tell me that he loved me as I could not recall him ever doing so. He was unwilling or unable to fulfil this request and however hard I've tried I conclude it is because he simply didn't and doesn't love me. I know people will say that he does and that he just struggles to express it but I was in a desperate state and I am his son.

I vowed never to be like this with my children, I ensure they know how much I love them and what wonderful people I know they are and always will, I have many failings but this will not be one of them.

I still tell him I love him and help out when I can but I'm disappointed I couldn't get closer to him and now he is vanishing in front of my eyes, I feel I'm loosing more of him everyday and I had so little in the first place, I'm not really able to take it in at the moment.

Me, my wife and the kids are going round to theirs for Xmas and I know how much joy that gives my mother so at least we can give her one good day, my mum and I are much closer these days and to see her with my 6 year old son, who is the image of me is very special
 


Hey guys just sending some holidays love to you all

This is overrated but it's my favorite Christmas song and yes it's Mariah Carey =D
 
Having a glimpse through this thread has floored me. Its hard to think Christmas can be such a devastating time for people. I understand the world can be a harsh place, and i only plead those having troubles avoid abusing substances and find strength in this forum to overcome obstacles. Drugs can enhance good times, but are not a substitute for happiness.

I shall take a moment on Christmas day to think about you all.
 
my dads in the hosptial so this is the first xmas i will not be spending my whole day with him thank god i still have my gpa i've never been depressed this time of year cause i've always spent all my time with my dad and gpa but i'm trying hard to be happy anyways and it seems to be working a lil today so thats a good thing
 
might phone samaritans.

I'm not doing very well.

thing is, I see these sorts of [osts sometimes. and I understad how pathetic I must look. But I don't see anyway out of this.
 
hexagram.. please make that call.. nothing wrong at all for asking fir a little help.. I think its much more "pathetic" to be to proud to reach out a hand and say hey shit Im not doing well right now.. make the call hex.. its just a phone call.. I would make it.

Im sorry you are having it rough<3<3
 
hexagram said:
might phone samaritans.

I'm not doing very well.

thing is, I see these sorts of [osts sometimes. and I understad how pathetic I must look. But I don't see anyway out of this.
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I've called them before <3 it helped. Please call them. You're not alone. Ever. No one is.
 
Christmas Eve - busted - dangers of living alone and not making plans to keep oneself healthily occupied and in touch with sober people.

Today is going to be a loooong day.

Partner dumped me a few weeks back but my asshole family is making her guest of honor at their Xmas celebrations today and leaving me guilt and shame inducing messages about my not being grown up and coming "for the sake of the children"

Can't decide whether to go on a road trip or head straight for an extended in-patient detox on my private health insurance.

Most likely i will just watch crap tv and fume at the injustice of it all until a handful of anti-psychotics brings a close to my lonely solo festivities and sends me to slumberland for a day

But don't let me bring you folks down- I honestly wish all here a happy healthy holiday season.
 
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