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Hi guys! Thanks so much for all your lovely comments! I had such a fun night, it really was fantastic.

I knew pretty early on that a traditional dress wasn't for me and was SO happy with this one. It was a bridesmaid dress which I had originally wanted in an emerald green based on a photo, but when the fabric swatches arrived it was shamrock green, and so not what I wanted, so I 'had' to go with my backup choice of the red. Obviously once the dress was made and I tried it on I was smitten!

The day went to schedule about 5%, but that's ok. A couple of hiccups meant that we were 1.5 hours late finishing hair and makeup, leaving 20 minutes for the 1 hour photo session that we'd planned prior to the ceremony. And then it rained. and rained. and rained. so the time we did have to take photos was spent huddled under an umbrella outside the hotel, and some in a couple of what we hope were spots with cool backgrounds within the lobby. With about 30 other hotel guests looking on. We'll see how they turn out but considering out photographer was P1's sister-in-law, it won't be an issue to dress up again and do some supplementary ones in the area at some stage.

As expected, I cried the whole way down the aisle, for the first few minutes of the ceremony, and for about five minutes afterwards. I was quite surprised I didn't cry through the vows, though I did waver a bit!

The reception was just like I expected, full of great food I could barely eat (I developed some pretty serious anxiety the week prior mostly related to work but obviously partly wedding, so had been barely able to eat all week. I think on the night I had about 4 'pieces' of food where it was planned for everyone to be able to have at least 8 ) and yummy drinks I just didn't have the time to drink, a million conversations that I couldn't really invest much energy into before moving onto the next one, and a great playlist of music that I can remember hearing about 4 of the songs of (ping samadhi - Be My Baby <3 ), and it was 100% one of the most fun nights of my life =D


Kenickie - as samadhi said, my ring is a sapphire - I knew I didn't want a diamond and like others have mentioned, the guy who designed my ring basically told me for a ring you wear every day you're best to go for a diamond, sapphire or ruby, as these are the hardest that are least likely to be scratched, fracture etc.

seriously, if you don't want a diamond, don't get one (or let it be known you don't want one, if your proposal is likely to be a surprise) - if there is one thing i learned doing my wedding the way I did it's to take whatever bits of tradition you give a shit about, and throw the rest. I didn't want the white dress, never understood the point of flowers, wanted to spend the night before/morning of with my boy, and while (many) people raised their eyebrows at these things, doing it my way made me (us) happy, and isn't that the point?


GEG, I hope you had the best time last night, hope we get to see some piccies soon!
 
joannie_mhm said:
seriously, if you don't want a diamond, don't get one (or let it be known you don't want one, if your proposal is likely to be a surprise) - if there is one thing i learned doing my wedding the way I did it's to take whatever bits of tradition you give a shit about, and throw the rest. I didn't want the white dress, never understood the point of flowers, wanted to spend the night before/morning of with my boy, and while (many) people raised their eyebrows at these things, doing it my way made me (us) happy, and isn't that the point?
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Wholeheartedly agree! I wore a red bridesmaid dress too. I didn't eat my dinner but I sure drank my grey goose martini. My husband and I got ready together in our hotel room. My mom helped me get ready in the bathroom. We (my parents, his brother) left in the limo as a family to the Vegas chapel. Our guests met us there.

I find that couples compromise their ideas and matrimonial needs for others when they are not paying for the majority of the event.

This is why we paid for everything ourselves and went "non-traditional".

Although seeing joannie_mhm's photos, I would have liked a swank cocktail party with dancing after the wedding but really I am happy to have our wedding loan paid off next month.
 
Wow.

Atri looks devastatingly handsome in his suit! And you, my dear, are a heavenly vision. That veil is so perfect for you. From the other picture, it looks like a gorgeous day.

Very happy for the both of you and I can't wait to see more pictures!
 
poopie said:
Wow.

Atri looks devastatingly handsome in his suit! And you, my dear, are a heavenly vision. That veil is so perfect for you. From the other picture, it looks like a gorgeous day.

Very happy for the both of you and I can't wait to see more pictures!
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atri certainly does clean up well!

again, geggers you look stunning <3
 
joannie_mhm said:
Hi guys! Thanks so much for all your lovely comments! I had such a fun night, it really was fantastic.

I knew pretty early on that a traditional dress wasn't for me and was SO happy with this one. It was a bridesmaid dress which I had originally wanted in an emerald green based on a photo, but when the fabric swatches arrived it was shamrock green, and so not what I wanted, so I 'had' to go with my backup choice of the red. Obviously once the dress was made and I tried it on I was smitten!

The day went to schedule about 5%, but that's ok. A couple of hiccups meant that we were 1.5 hours late finishing hair and makeup, leaving 20 minutes for the 1 hour photo session that we'd planned prior to the ceremony. And then it rained. and rained. and rained. so the time we did have to take photos was spent huddled under an umbrella outside the hotel, and some in a couple of what we hope were spots with cool backgrounds within the lobby. With about 30 other hotel guests looking on. We'll see how they turn out but considering out photographer was P1's sister-in-law, it won't be an issue to dress up again and do some supplementary ones in the area at some stage.

As expected, I cried the whole way down the aisle, for the first few minutes of the ceremony, and for about five minutes afterwards. I was quite surprised I didn't cry through the vows, though I did waver a bit!

The reception was just like I expected, full of great food I could barely eat (I developed some pretty serious anxiety the week prior mostly related to work but obviously partly wedding, so had been barely able to eat all week. I think on the night I had about 4 'pieces' of food where it was planned for everyone to be able to have at least 8 ) and yummy drinks I just didn't have the time to drink, a million conversations that I couldn't really invest much energy into before moving onto the next one, and a great playlist of music that I can remember hearing about 4 of the songs of (ping samadhi - Be My Baby <3 ), and it was 100% one of the most fun nights of my life =D


Kenickie - as samadhi said, my ring is a sapphire - I knew I didn't want a diamond and like others have mentioned, the guy who designed my ring basically told me for a ring you wear every day you're best to go for a diamond, sapphire or ruby, as these are the hardest that are least likely to be scratched, fracture etc.

seriously, if you don't want a diamond, don't get one (or let it be known you don't want one, if your proposal is likely to be a surprise) - if there is one thing i learned doing my wedding the way I did it's to take whatever bits of tradition you give a shit about, and throw the rest. I didn't want the white dress, never understood the point of flowers, wanted to spend the night before/morning of with my boy, and while (many) people raised their eyebrows at these things, doing it my way made me (us) happy, and isn't that the point?


GEG, I hope you had the best time last night, hope we get to see some piccies soon!
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I cannot stop smiling whenever I think of your wedding day, Jo <3

Be My Baby! Best wedding sing-along ever <3

I also have to mention the awesome dancing efforts by Jo and P1's wedding guests - there was a breakdance battle (for reals) and really great classic dance floor tracks. I have a great memory of Merry and I singing Love Shack at the top of our lungs :D
 
Love!!

Your veil is incredible GEG! And I always love the juxtaposition of tatts against the white of a wedding dress =D
 
Perpetual Indulgence said:
I find that couples compromise their ideas and matrimonial needs for others when they are not paying for the majority of the event.

This is why we paid for everything ourselves and went "non-traditional".

Although seeing joannie_mhm's photos, I would have liked a swank cocktail party with dancing after the wedding but really I am happy to have our wedding loan paid off next month.
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We were *very* fortunate in that my father basically paid for the reception, but was happy for us to go with whatever we wanted, so we did have the luxury to take non-traditional the approach I mentioned.

(It's certainly not the way you want things to go but) my mum died when I was 18 so my father has her superannuation (retirement/pension savings) to play with, which I understand he's splitting between me and my brothers as gifts for whatever is appropriate, so he seemed to be happy to help us have the kind of wedding we wanted to.

If it was up to just us to finance, I think we would probably gone a similar route but limited it to a smaller restaurant function room with just immediate family + close friends. As it is, we were so grateful to be able to have our (many) aunts/uncles/cousins there, as we see them so rarely.

This is another photo I love (hope you guys don't mind!) - us pissing ourselves laughing on the dance floor.

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Post away, Jo - there are so many awesome moments from your wedding <3 I also get butterflies when i look at mine <3

One thing i loved about Jo's reception was that there were wedding photos posted all over the walls; friends and family had sent them copies of their own wedding photos. It was such a lovely touch, and a really great conversation starter :)

(my camera decided to cark it in the hotel room just before we were to go to Jo's wedding :( On the upside, insurance is covering it)
 
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Oh my goodness GEG! You looked amazing!! As did the hubby :D Very handsome in his suit there.... I can't wait to see more!! <3
 
bahaha am totally being a stalker of this thread.

Thanks for reminding me, Lady S! Yes, one of the things I loved and had so many comments on was the photos - a few months before the wedding I had my father send down their wedding album because there was a particular shot I wanted to replicate.

Then an aunt and uncle were in town for dinner and we ended up pulling it out and having great fun looking at the pics (70s, crazy hair and clothes) and them telling us stories from the night. A couple of days later I had one of those lightbulb moments at 1am that it would be great to do something similar on the day of the wedding.

So I emailed everyone on the guest list asking if they could send us photos from their wedding day, or their parents, or their grandparents, and ended up with enough from our family and friends that we could print them out on A4 posters and hang them on pillars around the room. Everyone loved the chance to look at shots from weddings they'd been to, their parents', their grandparents', or someone they had just met that night. I think it made a lovely and personal decoration too, and clearly everyone loves marveling at old-school fashion!
 
joannie_mhm said:
Love!!

Your veil is incredible GEG! And I always love the juxtaposition of tatts against the white of a wedding dress =D
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thanks lovely <3 my mom made a sicilian veil for me, since i'm half italian. while they are not pictured, i used bells of ireland in the bouquet. i'm also half irish <3

drugfukkdrockstar said:
Oh my goodness GEG! You looked amazing!! As did the hubby :D Very handsome in his suit there.... I can't wait to see more!! <3
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he sure does. :D

one of my favorite parts about our day was there happened to be a live band on the beach. we had no music for the isle walk :( so, at our request, they played johnny cash's walk the line for us. it was perfect. <3
 
Its been a while... I'm getting married in a little over a week. :):):)

I'm a bit stressed out but not too crazy. I'm very lucky to have a mom who does everything she can to make it as easy as possible for me (loving mom + accountant + type-A personality = born wedding/life planner <3). However, we're also in the midst of moving across the country so there's a LOT going on.

Pack truck -> wedding -> honeymoon -> drive to new apartment -> unpack truck (~3 weeks) ahhh!

I'm just trying to focus on what's on the table each day and taking deep breaths.
 
SO YEAH I went to get my second fitting and they're like "OH NO ONE CALLED YOU?????" Then go on to explain that once the tailor turned the dress inside out to fix it she realized how FUCKED UP the seeming actually was and that it's UNFIXABLE. This was AFTER the first dress was late because a PREVIOUS dress they made didn't pass inspection. I guess their answer to this was to rush open the seems of a 0 or 2 sized dress so it would only be 2 weeks late. So the bridal boutique had to rush an entirely new dress (this is now dress #3) which 'is suppose to get here tomorrow'. WHAT?!?! THE WEDDING IS A WEEK FROM SATURDAY. THIS 'FITTING' WAS SUPPOSE TO BE A FORMALITY.
 
wow, shit's getting really real!

you know years down the track, these stressors and anxieties will be recognised for their part in how absolutely magical next week will be for you. the mostrous ball rolls at full speed, and there's nothnig to do but run with it. it's kinda like falling, but everything just happenes to turn up and land just right.

enjoy it, it's quite a ride!
 
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