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the bluelight preconception, pregnancy and parenting l337ness thread

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Conscious21 said:
My other half is being very nice though, he says my tummy definitely looks like a baby bump and has started being quite affectionate to it, kissing and stroking it lol :)
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That is absolutely adorable and makes me so clucky! <3
 
I promised a pic of my uber chic diaper covers ;)

mr crabby pants:
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ps i highly recommend to those who know they would like to have more than one kid to have them as close together as possible. my two "irish twins" are best friends and its easier than you'd think to take care of them (even w/both in c.d.'s ;))
 
LoveAlways said:
ps i highly recommend to those who know they would like to have more than one kid to have them as close together as possible. my two "irish twins" are best friends and its easier than you'd think to take care of them (even w/both in c.d.'s ;))
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Unfortunately there's a much higher instance of autism if a child is born within a year or so after another child =/

My husband wants me to have another baby as soon as possible after the first one so they can be close in age (which is something I never had as my sister is eight and a half years older than me and we never had anything to bond over until I became an adult, whereas he had siblings close in age and they really stuck together) and also so we can "get it out of the way" :P I don't know if I'm keen on this idea, mostly because pregnancy has effing SUCKED so far and I can't imagine having two toddlers at once... This is not even to mention the autism study :\ I still want kids close in age though, just not TOO close!

On a brighter note that diaper cover is adorable, LoveAlways!
 
This is a documentary series called One Born Every Minute showing on UK TV I've been watching recently. Its a fly on the wall look at life on a maternity ward, and has definitely given me a better idea of what a woman goes through when she gives birth (and why it's called labour lol).
Its well made and not too graphic, worth a look if you're bored or got time to spare.

http://www.channel4.com/programmes/one-born-every-minute/4od
 
Usernamehere, do you have a link to that study as I have never heard of that before, I know a few people whose children have autism but none were born close to their siblings, at least 3 years apart and the biggest difference was 17 years. I always pass on this sort of info to my friends as you never know how helpful it might be <3

Lovealways aawwwww, I love those, mine are just different coloured, had blues, oranges, yellow camoflage sea themed ones I loved them, they look so cute. I am currently giving mine away to a local girl who is about to have her first baby and wants to use reusable nappies but is not sure so I said try these and if it works for you you know to get more if not then they will be getting used by the nursery as an emergency change, which will save them a little fortune and a lot of waste in future :D
 
yeah ff and i were glued to "one born every minute"

we also watched every episode of "life at one", "life at three" and "life at five" australian doco series.
 
Here's a link to the first article I found, tigger: USA Today article

There are many more articles (like this one at abc.com) that were written about the same study. They were all posted in January so it's definitely a recent finding. I only ever heard this for the first time on the news the other day.

Scary :\

In other news, I am approximately nine weeks and three days along =D Only a few more weeks of "morning" sickness left [at the most]. Still haven't gained any weight and I'm still not showing at all (aside from water retention).
 
lacey k said:
unh, hate to break it to ya but the sickness dont necessarily just go away on a schedule like that....i was sick well into my 2nd trimester and still threw up til 8 mos....
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I've been reading a lot as well as talking to moms (especially those in my family) and it's extremely rare that it's not gone by the very beginning of the 2nd trimester. Apparently 1% of women experience sickness throughout the entire pregnancy so hopefully I won't fall into that category, mostly because I would be scared of a low birth weight as well as other problems.

I just hope it ends ASAP. I've actually lost weight. I'm normally around 128 and I weigh 120 right now :\ My abs are constantly sore from heaving several times a day and I've already popped one blood vessel in my eye while puking. I've been told it's normal but if it doesn't end by the 2nd trimester to bring it up with a Dr.

Right now it's all I can do to keep prenatal vitamins down... That's pretty much my goal every day, along with drinking lots of water and snacking on things that seem to be okay with my stomach (mainly grapes, apples, and peanut butter sandwiches).
 
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Right now it's all I can do to keep prenatal vitamins down... That's pretty much my goal every day, along with drinking lots of water and snacking on things that seem to be okay with my stomach (mainly grapes, apples, and peanut butter sandwiches).
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Good on you UNH, that's a great goal. I had all these intentions of eating the perfect balanced diet but during that awful vomiting period, far better to eat a limited range of things you can keep down than try to eat a wider range that you'll just throw up again :\

My morning sickness is still not gone (mid-second trimester now) but it's much better than it was, it's occasional not constant. So don't be too disheartened if it doesn't disappear magically at 12 weeks, but I do think Lacey had a particularly hard time of it rather than an average time!

I wonder how women and babies survived pregnancy when there weren't concentrated prenatal vitamins to get them through lol.
 
Conscious, I know what you mean. I envisioned this perfect diet and exercise routine for optimum health but now my diet is based around what I can stomach and exercise? Forget that for now. I'm freaking exhausted and I throw up often. No thanks to exercise until I start feeling better!

On how women and babies survived before: It seems like we did just fine without all of that (the vitamins, prenatal care, diet changes, specific exercises, blood work, etc.). Obviously there were still miscarriages and the chances of a newborn making it to their first birthday were slimmer but as far as pregnancy goes, it seems like we got the job done A okay. I saw a statistic recently where the U.S. has the 2nd highest infant mortality rate within first world countries and you would think that wouldn't be the case with all of the care offered. Something else to consider: No other first world country insists on having hospital births the way the U.S. does. In fact, most countries would find it kinda crazy to go to a hospital for a birth unless it was a high risk pregnancy. It really makes you think about how necessary all of this stuff really is :P

On a side note: I've always wondered how there's this sudden rise in childhood disorders when people used to drink and smoke constantly while pregnant (for example, my step-dad's mother had nine children while drinking and smoking the entire time and each of them turned out fine). That's not to say I'm advocating drinking, smoking, or using drugs while pregnant BUT I just find it interesting that the more restrictive and careful women get about their diets, vitamins, prenatal care, etc., the more disorders seem to pop up.

I do realize that we're getting better at diagnosing disorders like autism but there's no doubt that there has been a sudden surge in it over the past ten years. I should do some more research on it, come to think of it.

Of course it just seems like a good idea to take vitamins and have a healthy diet so these things go without saying =)
 
User Name Here said:
On a side note: I've always wondered how there's this sudden rise in childhood disorders when people used to drink and smoke constantly while pregnant (for example, my step-dad's mother had nine children while drinking and smoking the entire time and each of them turned out fine). That's not to say I'm advocating drinking, smoking, or using drugs while pregnant BUT I just find it interesting that the more restrictive and careful women get about their diets, vitamins, prenatal care, etc., the more disorders seem to pop up.

I do realize that we're getting better at diagnosing disorders like autism but there's no doubt that there has been a sudden surge in it over the past ten years. I should do some more research on it, come to think of it.

Of course it just seems like a good idea to take vitamins and have a healthy diet so these things go without saying =)
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Spoke with the "head cafeteria lady" (forgot her proper title, sorry!) at a school and from her studies (she's basically a DTR but not certified/registered) has concluded that the majority of the food allergies and disorders seen in children can be traced back to the food we're eating: The food we eat nowadays isn't the same unadulterated food there was even 20 years ago. Who knows what the GMOs and food-like products are doing to our offspring?

End rambling from the lurker in the pregnancy thread. :P
 
UNH, I had no idea about US infant mortality! Australia is pretty conservative about hospital births too. It is possible to get a private midwife/doula for homebirths but often insurance won't cover it so it's risky for them to agree to it. We do have an increasing number of 'birth centres' which are still attached to a hospital but try to give a more 'natural' environment, but even then you have to be classed as 'low risk' and there's often a long waiting list.

For the parents on this thread, considering the way recommendations for pregnancy and parenting have changed over the last generation and also the way there seemed to be less 'problems' in the past, do many people find there are issues with their parents or older relatives saying things like "We did such and such with you and you turned out fine"? - for instance my aunt used to put rum in her kids' milk bottles to help them sleep lol - but I would be appalled if she tried to suggest I do that with mine! How do you respond to these kinds of comments?
 
Yeah, I can't imagine my (already rigid) insurance covering a home birth =/ I would love to at least find a birthing center that's closer to a home environment. Unfortunately I do have a higher risk pregnancy because of the epilepsy but I'm not sure how that would affect the actual delivery as that is still pretty far away (Oct.).

Conscious, I'm not a parent yet but I wanna add my to cents on your other point :P

One thing that bothers me is when older generations look at younger people and say, "Man, we weren't like that. They have so many problems these days. What the hell is wrong with young people now?" In reality THEY are the ones who raised us so if ANYONE is responsible for some sort of generational plight, it's them.

Anyway, I'm not sure how I would handle a criticism on my own parenting. Since I'm about to have my first child I will probably welcome anything any family members recommend. Does this mean I will go with it? Nah. I'll at least consider it though. What I will do is take a lot from how my parents raised me and add the things they didn't teach me.

Oh and for the rum thing, my mom used to give me a shot of some Greek liquor when I had really bad cramps (around when I was 13). It was a remedy her family used and it definitely helped. I can also remember having a glass of wine at dinners here and there starting at about the same age and I think that's part of the reason I've never really thought much of alcohol. It's not like it was forbidden so I never found it super appealing like drugs haha.
 
A good friend of mine just had her 3rd child at home, she's never ever seen an ob, never had an u/s, never took pre-natal vitamins, never even saw a midwife until the last month of each of her pregnancies. I really really admire her!! However, after the experience I had when my first child was born I am SO GLAD I was in a hospital and given the opportunity to have a csect, i truely believe that neither I nor my daughter would have survived that birth...

Also I drank and smoked bud throughout both my pregnancies, I know over a dozen women that did also. Smoke and drank while breastfeeding as well.
 
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