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the bluelight preconception, pregnancy and parenting l337ness thread

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Miss Peks said:
Yeah I was a bit funny about it initially. My sister in law has offered me baby clothes and I know a lot of them haven't been worn, but some of the girls stuff is just way too pink for my liking. The thing is that they really do grow out of the stuff so quickly, so some will be new and others near new.

It's different when they're a bit older though.
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Once I get my sewing machine set up, i'll be practicing making simple pieces of clothing - which I hope to turn into making cool things for my child/children in the future. One of my sisters-in-law makes most of her daughters' good dresses (she tends to buy simple pieces) and they are absolutely gorgeous. As for handing down in my husband's family, the only clothes that really get handed down are things only worn by one child before - kids wear through clothes so quickly that anything 'worn' wouldn't be handed down anyway. I look forward to making and buying clothes for kids i have, but i'm certainly not looking a gift horse in the mouth if people want to help us out and have the capacity to. :)
 
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Miss Peks said:
I have looked on eBay and there is lots of prams as well as other baby stuff on there, just haven't quite found what i'm looking for.

The cost is adding up really quickly, combining that with moving interstate in July and it's scary. Thankfully our family and friends are helping us source baby things down there, otherwise it would be too stressful leading up to the last few weeks. But yeah eBay Gumtree and the trading post are great for 2nd hand baby items which are quite often near new. :)
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Are you moving back down south? The reason I ask is that all my family bar 1 member (sister-in-law) lives interstate (mine in Qld and the Mr's in ACT) and it's something i've struggled with; not being near family when we do have a baby. I have a small handful of close girlfriends in Melbourne but it would be so wonderful to have a network of support around us. It's something we're both thinking about quite hard as we both love where we are now too.
 
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drugfukkdrockstar said:
Does anyone here feel at all funny about having their kids wearing second hand clothes?

When it comes to clothes, i feel i want to dress my kids up in what i choose (until they are of an age where they choose for themselves that is) but my mum keeps at me about the fact that when i have a baby one day, there are plenty left over clothes from my sister.

Second hand prams etc yeah, bring it on i say ... but second hand clothes im not so keen on. I feel the clothes a person wears is an expression of who they are, and i know it doesn't matter for a baby, but as it's mother... who is a rather alternative person, i think id like to dress my bubba up in something that ill be proud to see it in. Not hand me downs from my sister that someone i don't even know bought for her kid.

The hubby and i work full time each and earn a good wage, and with all the awesome internet stores around i reckon buying my own for my baby is a goer.
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I think clothing does speak of a person (or in this case, the mother) to an extent but at the same time who's going to know if it's second hand or not? =) Second hand clothes are just as cute and much, much cheaper. Many of them are actually still new! A lot of people receive clothing they either don't need, don't like, or cast aside and they end up placing it in a store for a few bucks. For the ones that aren't new, they're going to be gently used and as far as I can tell, it's hard to differentiate between clothing that was worn a few times and clothing that's brand spankin' new.

In all honesty, most of our clothes will probably end up being store bought/ordered offline out of convenience while we're in D.C. (we're moving there when the baby is three months old) because we won't know many people off the bat. If I find something cute that is secondhand, I won't think twice of purchasing it as long as it's in good condition. No one will ever know and hey, I just saved myself some $$$.
 
Once I get my sewing machine set up, i'll be practicing making simple pieces of clothing - which I hope to turn into making cool things for my child/children in the future. One of my sisters-in-law makes most of her daughters' good dresses (she tends to buy simple pieces) and they are absolutely gorgeous. As for handing down, the only clothes that really get handed down are things only worn by one child before - kids wear through clothes so quickly that anything 'worn' wouldn't be handed down anyway. I look forward to making and buying clothes for kids i have, but i'm certainly not looking a gift horse in the mouth if people want to help us out and have the capacity to.
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You're right . I probably won't say no to the items when I get down there and realise she is offering me something I don't already have. :) Besides a lot of the clothes have barely been worn and as they're not having any more kids may not get worn.

Are you moving back down south? The reason I ask is that all my family bar 1 member (sister-in-law) lives interstate (mine in Qld and the Mr's in ACT) and it's something i've struggled with; not being near family when we do have a baby. I have a small handful of close girlfriends in Melbourne but it would be so wonderful to have a network of support around us. It's something we're both thinking about quite hard as we both love where we are now too.
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The decision wasn't too hard for us as it was on the cards to move back this year anyway.

A lot of our friends in Melb now have babies / children and the same goes with my partners family and my stepbrother. Whereas our friends in Bris aren't really interested in babies (or at least not quite yet). Plus I can transfer with my company back down there and our family have already offered to help out babysitting whenever needed. It is hard organising such a big move when pregnant and ideally I was going to move back first and then maybe try for a baby, but this time it didn't quite work out that way.

Brisbane is pretty good for bringing up children though. I'm sure if we had of opted to stay up there we would have had no trouble finding others with babies / children. Plus the Mater Hospital (and Mater Private) are meant to be good for having a baby. Same goes for the Womens as well as the private hospitals.
 
I didn't buy much except diapers for my last little bundle, because I got so many gifts, both new and used. A lot of it I passed on, never having used it. Strollers/carriages are useless here in the land of no pavement, the crib became a toy recepticle (we co-sleep), and I think I may have used the swing once. I just carried her in a wrap/sling all the time. She was literally never out of physical contact with another person, usually me, for the first 3 months, and after that, she just never developed a liking for swings, jumpers, and the like.

As for clothes, I bought a very few special things for special occasions, but used gifts and hand-downs for everyday wear. When I lived down south in the cities, I expressed myself through fashion, but when I came up to Alaska, fashion went out the window. Function over form. Screw cute shoes, I'm having dry feet. Nobody over the age of 20 cares what anyone wears around here.

Since I had an unattended home birth, that was free, too. I think I spent about $30 on a home birthing kit.
 
drugfukkdrockstar said:
Does anyone here feel at all funny about having their kids wearing second hand clothes?

When it comes to clothes, i feel i want to dress my kids up in what i choose (until they are of an age where they choose for themselves that is) but my mum keeps at me about the fact that when i have a baby one day, there are plenty left over clothes from my sister.

Second hand prams etc yeah, bring it on i say ... but second hand clothes im not so keen on. I feel the clothes a person wears is an expression of who they are, and i know it doesn't matter for a baby, but as it's mother... who is a rather alternative person, i think id like to dress my bubba up in something that ill be proud to see it in. Not hand me downs from my sister that someone i don't even know bought for her kid.

The hubby and i work full time each and earn a good wage, and with all the awesome internet stores around i reckon buying my own for my baby is a goer.
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I agree with you a little here. Clothes are definately an expression of self, and I don't think you should feel obligated to have your child wear something just because it was given to them, new OR used! I hardly ever like the stuff the my mom's side of the family buys for my kids, which sucks because i know they spend a ton of money on what THEY think is cute...but just doesn't fit my kid's personality :\

My mom saved a bunch of clothes from when i was a baby which is actually pretty cool. A lot of the stuff is handmade from Mexico. I'm sure it was super cute when I was a fat little brown baby but my daughter is totally different, blonde hair, blue eyes, tall n skinny--NOTHING like me LOL I felt bad about throwing it out so i saved it for my bro when he has kids, make it his problem lol.

I like to put stuff away for my friends kids when I think it fits their personality. I don't just give whatever to anyone I specifically pick certain outfits for certain kids..idk what the parents think, i hope they appreciate it!
 
I don't really mind the thought of my kids wearing hand-me-downs. I did a lot and I don't think clothing is very important (not saying you guys do at all). That said, I ask my sister what particular clothes and toys she wants before I buy gifts for my niece.
 
^ That's my thinking Amor. I'm looking forward to dressing future bubs in great clothing, but I'm also aware that things like teeny-tiny singlets, sleeping onesies, pilchers, etc are a necessity, and are worn for such a short amount of time (sometimes even weeks) that if someone is happy to give me gently used pieces of clothing like that, i'd much rather not spend the money on it.

In saying that, i have so many ideas for dressing up baby/kids clothing - using safe dye for singlets, etc, to add a splash of colour, etc.

I have a large suitcase of clothes that i wore as a baby - beautiful crocheted booties, cardigans, etc that my grandmother made and some really funky things like overalls, etc that my mum made. They've been stored really well, so i can't wait to pull them out. To think that my future baby/ies will be able to wear clothes that my grandmother made for me with such love warms my heart :)

As an aside, this is possibly the coolest parent ever, and one that will never appear on stfuparents (except, perhaps, to get a gold star) =D

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We had our morphology scan yesterday - it's a boy! Two arms and two legs and everything the right size, we are stoked! Suddenly "it" has become "he" and we are trying on names and I am desperate to go shopping for tiny clothes :) We weren't going to tell everyone else the gender, but it made him seem so much more of a person to us that we thought the rest of the family might enjoy that extra bit of connection too.

It's so amazing how much detail they can see - the length of his little finger, the number of valves in his heart, the flow of blood through his kidneys - there was no reason to think anything was wrong, but it's still really reassuring to know that they could see all the right bits in the right places.

Miss Peks, we are in the process of moving house atm, I don't know what we were thinking! Mainly because not only are we moving, we are renovating the house we're moving into, and I really don't know how we're going to get it all done! A few girls at work are also expecting and moving, it seems the two go together for a lot of people - good luck with your move :)
 
How exciting, conscious! I can't wait until I find out what sex our baby is... I hope it's a boy but honestly don't care as long as it's a healthy baby!

I'm at 11 weeks and a day so apparently I have about nine weeks until I can find out. Boo.
 
So did anyone here have a feeling they had conceived as soon as they did? A lady at my work reckons she knew within the first 10 days of conceiving that she was preg! I didn't think that was possible.
 
^I've heard of people saying this. That they just "knew".
My mom says she just "knew".

Everytime I see your name here dfrs, I think you're going to tell us you're preggers.
I can't wait for that post- you two will have BEAUTIFUL babies. <3
 
DFRS, I "just knew" we were pregnant. I felt nauseous during "week 3", which is the week after the baby was actually conceived, and then had this really dumb day at work. I did about two hours' work, accidentally deleted it, then re-did the work. Then I discovered I hadn't deleted the first lot after all, and that I now had two versions. So I deleted the spare one, except I then accidentally deleted them both lol - back to square one for the third time! I thought then "Sick, vague... I have a feeling..." and we went and got a pregnancy test that night, even though my period wasn't due for a couple more days. Sure enough :)
 
So the test came back and said you were positive even though it was a couple days before your period? Cool!

Hehe and your story made me giggle. :D Ya poor bugger that must have been so confusing and frustrating haha <3
 
ocean said:
^I've heard of people saying this. That they just "knew".
My mom says she just "knew".

Everytime I see your name here dfrs, I think you're going to tell us you're preggers.
I can't wait for that post- you two will have BEAUTIFUL babies. <3
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Heheh naww ya gorgeous girl! Maybe one day! <3
 
i too keep waiting for more pregnancy announcements in this thread. <3

L2R, ive been wondering for the past three days whether or not you and FF have had your little man arrive yet? i keep popping into check, and have had a gut feeling hes already graced the world with his presence.

...kytnism...:|
 
drugfukkdrockstar said:
So the test came back and said you were positive even though it was a couple days before your period? Cool!
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Yes they can pick it up from about a week before you're due. False positives are really rare but there can be false negatives, especially early, so if you think you are and get a negative, they say you should just wait another day or two and try again.
 
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