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bighooter

bighooter

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I've been going out with this girl I really like for about a week now and we still havent had any form of sex, just kissed, cuddled and caressed sort of thing... we're taking it really slow coz shes just come out of a long n fcuked up relationship.

Anyway I havent started talking dirty or anything yet to her (as Im an amateur when it comes to relationships)

But should I start sending her some saucy texts or something to spice things up?
If so can you give me a hand in what I should say please.

Cheers ma dears
 
If you haven't done any sexual things I wouldn't try spicing it up yet. Wait till that starts to add it in.
 
bighooter said:
But should I start sending her some saucy texts or something to spice things up?
If so can you give me a hand in what I should say please.
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if you base this relationship on some idea of what you think you should be doing or how you think other people act, it is doomed.

the fact that you are asking this question suggests this isn't really your thing so, instead of sending her some 'saucy' text that you copied from some stranger on the internet who knows nothing about you, her and your relationship, tell her something you feel from the heart. that is infinitely more meaningful...

alasdair
 
Tell her she is pretty. Lots of girls get told they are pretty all the time when they are little, but when they grow up no one says it anymore. Just saying the shit that pops in your head goes a long way. You don't need to sit around thinking of sexy things to say, just be nice.
 
bighooter said:
But should I start sending her some saucy texts or something to spice things up?
If so can you give me a hand in what I should say please.

Cheers ma dears
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It's your relationship. If you want to try and spice things up, go for it. You can test the waters with something vague like "I was just thinking about you. I'm so worked up now it's insane" and see how she responds.
 
well since she just got out of a relationship like that, it all depends on her, saying it too soon can result in a break up or her having negative thoughts towards you, this is the prime time to show her that ur not like him, that ur infact better better then him! thats the key, so depending on how bad her last relationship was, it could take months before that step. try and test her with questions like " what would be one of ur sexual fantasy's?" or even "when it comes time what would u like to do with me sexually?" but i wouldn't spice it up just yet personally i give it 4 weeks of cuddles, kissing, caressing, and TALKING! to make sure she knows ur in it for the long haul, that ur willing to put everything on the line for her kinda thing. thats about the best advise right now, hope it helps.

Summary: i'd wait till just after the 4th week to spice anything up, and in that 4 weeks it's your time to shine and make it known to her that ur in it for the long haul!
 
bighooter said:
I've been going out with this girl I really like for about a week now and we still havent had any form of sex, just kissed, cuddled and caressed sort of thing... we're taking it really slow coz shes just come out of a long n fcuked up relationship.

Anyway I havent started talking dirty or anything yet to her (as Im an amateur when it comes to relationships)

But should I start sending her some saucy texts or something to spice things up?
If so can you give me a hand in what I should say please.

Cheers ma dears
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Sounds like you're looking for excuses/reasons/alternatives because you haven't made a move on her yet.

Invite her over for a night in at your place. Make it clear in the text (indirectly of course) that you will indeed be making a move if she does accept. Like, mention wine, time alone together, enjoying each others company... enough that she doesn't feel like a slut but enough that she knows to shave and put on her good knickers. Or suggest another day if she is on her rag. If you've dropped those hints and she turns up, she's probably ready to be receptive.
 
I like GM's suggestion. Don't put yourself in an awkward position, but most girls would love a text such as "I really had a great time the other day, and I want you to know I was thinking about you." This makes most girls melt, and it lowers your chance of crossing a line that she is not ready for yet.
 
Lysis said:
I like GM's suggestion. Don't put yourself in an awkward position, but most girls would love a text such as "I really had a great time the other day, and I want you to know I was thinking about you." This makes most girls melt, and it lowers your chance of crossing a line that she is not ready for yet.
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And that is why you are an excellent SLR mod :)

OP, this is pretty spot on. This is what I was trying to say that in my other post in here but Lysis worded it good.
 
hehe, thanks aveoturbo. I'll take that as a huge compliment coming from someone who is the official Fact Finder for BDD. :D
 
alasdairm said:
if you base this relationship on some idea of what you think you should be doing or how you think other people act, it is doomed.

the fact that you are asking this question suggests this isn't really your thing so, instead of sending her some 'saucy' text that you copied from some stranger on the internet who knows nothing about you, her and your relationship, tell her something you feel from the heart. that is infinitely more meaningful...

alasdair
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I will always agree with you on this.
 
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