Mental Health Terrible person

[kenlee]

Tonight on PS4 chat I received a ton of abuse unprovoked, At no point have I ever made and comments or statements about my sexuality and this guy starts calling me gay and then worse and worse hateful insults and he spent an hour trying to encourage me to take my own life, I recorded everything using my capture card. he started this abuse because I am using a female character in the game, most people do so wtf. I’ve had enough and I am in a bad place tonight and I came to the bathroom and I was ill. He started saying more and more messed up things and I don’t pay my subscription fee to be abused like it.
I have a ton of things I need to get done by I don’t have the strength to do them, I have chores, diy tasks, things to post off so I can get some money but what if they do that to someone who’s not strong enough and they suicide? I don’t think ps4 do enough to protect vulnerable people, children use PS4 what if they done that to a kid? I hate people like that

 

[Vastness]

You recorded it? Good for you, send that shit to Sony, get them banned at least, or possibly the police. I have no idea the complaints process or tbe likelihood of anything actually happening but it's worth trying to get pieces of shit like that to answer for their weak pathetic bullshit, and to understand that words have consequences. Probably a low likelihood that this will be the lesson, but even if it isn't and there's a small chance your actions prevent them from bullying someone else, it's worth doing, I'd say.

Besides that though, try to remember that the vitriol people like that spew is in actual fact a reflection of their tumultuous internal world, and to be that person is it's own punishment, in a sense, although I appreciate that that statement might sound philosophically nice but also ring kind of hollow. Just remember it's not personal though. People usually find it easiest to point out in others what they most dislike about themselves... so if you have difficulty dealing with it, try to imagine that everything such a person says is actually being repeated from things said to them by a faceless, nameless psychological demon inside their own head, from which there is no escape... I dunno if that helps or not tbh. But if you recorded it I'd say definitely try to make use of that recording.

 

[kenlee]

You recorded it? Good for you, send that shit to Sony, get them banned at least, or possibly the police. I have no idea the complaints process or tbe likelihood of anything actually happening but it's worth trying to get pieces of shit like that to answer for their weak pathetic bullshit, and to understand that words have consequences. Probably a low likelihood that this will be the lesson, but even if it isn't and there's a small chance your actions prevent them from bullying someone else, it's worth doing, I'd say.

Besides that though, try to remember that the vitriol people like that spew is in actual fact a reflection of their tumultuous internal world, and to be that person is it's own punishment, in a sense, although I appreciate that that statement might sound philosophically nice but also ring kind of hollow. Just remember it's not personal though. People usually find it easiest to point out in others what they most dislike about themselves... so if you have difficulty dealing with it, try to imagine that everything such a person says is actually being repeated from things said to them by a faceless, nameless psychological demon inside their own head, from which there is no escape... I dunno if that helps or not tbh. But if you recorded it I'd say definitely try to make use of that recording.

I put the two video files on my desktop and I am leaving them uploading over night, the recordings are about 60gb and even on my fast internet might take all night but I will out them to use. I will put in a complaint and maybe write to them if they ignore it.

 

[LadyAlkaline]

I'm sorry that happened to you Kenlee. Good for you to record the abuse and stand up for yourself.

Is there a block feature on the game?

As Vastness said above, anyone that would speak that way to another person is really messed up inside. Try not to let it get to you. It may very well be a troubled teenager, children can say vicious words without realizing the impact of them.

 

[Amos2019]

Whoa whoa whoa..lets chill on calling the police..this is a game you choose to play.turn the dang thing off hon!

 

[Flower Fairy]

Why should he turn it off, he pays his prescription and its cyber bullying, the next person this bully does it too might actually be suicidal

 

[Vastness]

It is obviously both morally reprehensible and a crime, rightfully, in a legal sense as well.

If someone was verbally abusing someone in the street for hours, saying they should kill themselves etc, would you say, "just go inside and shut the door?" No.

Online is no different, except that keyboard or rather pad-warrior bitches protected by the perceived security of distance and several layers of digital pseudo-anonymity somehow think it's more OK to act in the manner described - even though many of them would never dare to speak to anyone like this in person. Or perhaps they would, perhaps they're just all round terrible people, I dunno.

Police serve an important function in society to protect members of that society in situations where they are not able to easily protect themselves, for whatever reason that may be. The legal structure of our modern world is not perfect, I don't advocate calling the police in all instances, snitching on otherwise harmless drug use, for example, is something I'd prefer didn't happen. But in this situation - it should not be out of the question. Obviously the police are busy, and there may be difficulties getting any kind of substantial result, especially if the culprit is in a different country, and depending how cooperative Sony are with such requests for user information... but still, if you've gone to the trouble of making recordings, and thought it was extreme enough to make this post - which by the sounds of it is, I mean who spends AN HOUR just verbally abusing someone, Christ - then again, surely worth a try to do something with this evidence.

 

[jackie jones]

Why would you spend so much time humoring someone who is trying to hurt you (excuse me if I am misunderstanding. I am not familiar with the game/platform you are referring to)?

 

[Vastness]

"Just ignore them and they'll get bored!"

Sometimes true, but bad advice for dealing with bullying, as it will basically only work if someone has enough some esteem to not really be affected by verbal abuse, and is also confident that the abuser does not pose a physical threat - if they do, it's a different matter of course. Obviously online such considerations are removed because it's always going to be purely verbal, but the question is posed from the perspective of concern about people without the requisite self esteem to just ignore such vacuous immaturity, and I don't doubt there are plenty of them. Cyber bullying is a real problem, and it's a too easy dismissal just to suggest that one shouldn't even humour them with any action at all (which is how I take your meaning here - apologies if I've misunderstood myself).

 

[Jabberwocky]

The thing about OP's posts, like the "Am i gay" thread, is that they just seem too good to be true. I feel like he's baiting or something, or he's very young.
His last post was about someone sending him pick of spinning dick and how he can't get it out of his mind.
Now he's crying about someone hurting his feelings on game platform.
I get flamed daily when i play video games, toxicity is normal part of them.
You know how CoD MW2 voice chat was back in 2007? Much worse, you'd get told to kill yourself every 10 minutes.

 

[Shady's Fox]

Yeah, I mean we were all young and more or less we had different childhood, different struggles. He may not got throughout life and I think he just begins to explore himself, you know. What he experienced it's called ''Trolling'' and because he doesn't have a sense of humor he takes this stuff way too personal and being in the backseat isn't a nice view on the world. That's why there's this thing called ''Learning, Overcome, Adapt'' and I higly recommend J.P's lectures ( Jordan Peterson ). I don't know man, we ain't psychologists we just wanna help and so this being said, I think the OP it's either young or he didn't experienced enough in order to adapt to the pressure of this dystopia and so he's confused, rite. He has a long journey through himself.

 

[Vastness]

The thing about OP's posts, like the "Am i gay" thread, is that they just seem too good to be true. I feel like he's baiting or something, or he's very young.
His last post was about someone sending him pick of spinning dick and how he can't get it out of his mind.
Now he's crying about someone hurting his feelings on game platform.
I get flamed daily when i play video games, toxicity is normal part of them.
You know how CoD MW2 voice chat was back in 2007? Much worse, you'd get told to kill yourself every 10 minutes.

I don't actually play any online game, at least not ones where I'm on voice chat or whatever, so I don't have any personal experience, but I don't doubt that that's the case.

I appreciate also the viewpoint that not everything has to be nicey nicey and accomodating to the most sensitive denominator. Especially in war games, which are essentially increasingly realistic simulations of some of the most horrifically violent circumstances anyone could experience - minus any actual consequences to this violence.

I think actually the lack of consequences is at play here as well in how comfortable people are with abusing people they've never met over the internet. Humans all have a dark side to our psyche and if we can vent without threat of any kind of physical reprisal and without actually even seeing the face of the person we're venting to... well, evidently, some people will take that as a license to just abuse people indiscriminately. I think there has to be some kind of middle ground though where the most toxic characters are not tolerated, while still allowing for people to exercise their right to verbal violence to those who either don't care or actually enjoy both giving and receiving it.

 

[Shady's Fox]

Also good music educate people's mind.

 

[Jabberwocky]

I think there has to be some kind of middle ground though where the most toxic characters are not tolerated, while still allowing for people to exercise their right to verbal violence to those who either don't care or actually enjoy both giving and receiving it.

Right on. However it's really hard for companies to limit the way people can speak in games, without it leading to complete insanity. In most games/platforms there's the option to mute people or turn chat entirely off if you have small tolerance for that kind of stuff.
I play this one game, where i'm at top 3% of servers players. People take the game very seriously there. If i do a bad play i expect people to get mad at me.
The biggest reasons to flame in games are 1# They are playing bad 2# You are trying to make enemy mad so they'll play worse 3# They flame you 4# You play bad.