Telling my mum i suffer from depression?

[tommy34]

So after a nice dinna an a discussion about depression I have decided I need to tell my mum i suffer from depression and I recently started antidepressants. I need to stop shutting people out and share my feelings more. Plus my mental health is my mums business. Can anybody give me some ideas on how to go about this? After 20 years of not sharing my feelings i think the antidepressants have given me a bit of courage an this could be a big step towards my recovery. Any input would be gratefully appreciated.

Cheers

 

[Lysis]

Hi tommy, I think I'm going to move this to the dark side. I think people there have a grasp of what to do when you suffer from depression and need to talk to family and friends. I'm much more open to friends than family, but I do recommend being open and honest with people. I grew up in a family where telling your feelings was considered weak. I now realize that I have better relationships with people once I got over that bullshit way of thinking. You don't have to be emo all the time, but you can be honest about how you feel so people understand you better. "People" meaning your mom in this instance.

Good luck!

 

[Legerity]

That's good man, it's not easy to open up with family sometimes. I don't think there's any specific formula for doing it, just be yourself and express how you feel. I don't know what her views are on medication and all that, but it is your choice to do what is best for you. I don't think you "owe" it to her to be open about it, but it's certainly a discussion that can bring you closer together.

 

[Lost Ego]

im dealing with the same thing. i told my mom that i was depressed once and implyed it many times, she doesnt take me seriously, she thinks theres no way i could be depressed when nobody has died and i didnt just get a divorce --- she's kinda arrogant o.o. by her reasoning im just looking for attention. i really do need some attention though, i cant stand this shit. dont just assume your mom is going to understand and be compassionate, proceed with caution brother.

 

[tommy34]

im dealing with the same thing. i told my mom that i was depressed once and implyed it many times, she doesnt take me seriously, she thinks theres no way i could be depressed when nobody has died and i didnt just get a divorce --- she's kinda arrogant o.o. by her reasoning im just looking for attention. i really do need some attention though, i cant stand this shit. dont just assume your mom is going to understand and be compassionate, proceed with caution brother.

I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe your mum feels that if she admits it to herself she has failed somehow as a parent. You should try to reassure her that it's not her fault ( assuming its not)

I will be reassuring my mum that she has done the best job she could have at raising me that she could have given the circumstances.

 

[DeLee]

I used to shut down and never talk about my "feelings if you will".

But I have gotten a lot better at sharing my thoughts with people, my mom in general and I wish I had done it sooner because it helps tremendously!

 

[kaleidoscopeeyes]

yes, i think you should talk to her. im in the same situation and have been trying to work up the courage to tell my mom ive recently started taking anti-depressants. but i know i should; im just scared of her reaction.

i think once you talk to her, she will be able to understand what youve been going through and it will help you as you adjust to your new state of mind due to the anti-depressants. do you live with your mom?

 

[n3ophy7e]

tommy I think you should talk to your mum about this. Once you've gotten it all out there you will feel relieved and like a big weight has lifted off your shoulders. You need all the support you can get from your loved ones when you're battling depression, and who better to provide that support than your own mother.
I hope it goes well for you

 

[MySecret]

Sometimes it's hard when you don't have other peoples' approval. What's more important is doing what you know is right and doing the best thing for yourself.